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Hey guys.

I'm really excited to talk to you today about the state of flight in the nervous system.

This might be you if when faced with confrontation or conflict:

* Your go-to response is to avoid.

* To retreat and self-isolate.

* To hide.

* You may experience a lot of anxiety or hypervigilance.

A lot of times this can happen…

* when we grow up in families where it's glorified and praised to self-sacrifice.

* To ignore your own needs in order to take care of other people's

* and can even become a bit of an expectation that, if you don't meet, then you're mean, wrong, difficult, bad, all of these things.

These messages can become our internal voice, right?

Our harsh self-critic that, if we stand up for ourselves or we set boundaries or we say what we need, that that will be unsafe. That love will be withheld, that we’ll be judged and criticized and maybe seen as selfish or mean, or wrong or bad.

These are a lot of the narratives that I've personally had to work through with the help of internal family systems, inner child work and parts work.

It's really helpful to better understand these narratives and find safety in our body.

And we get to choose to step out of the old cycle.

So here are 4 techniques that have helped me step out of the flight state

Heel Drops

Heel Pushes + Heels Up

The Tense + Relax Sequence

Visualization

Taking off the armor does feel scary because it's not familiar.

And when we have trauma, as many of us ADHD moms do, we often find ourselves stuck in one of these protective states, whether it's:

* Flight

* Fight

* Freeze

* or Fawn

But as you begin to learn these tools and how to self-regulate and how to better understand your nervous system and meet yourself in that space.

You'll find that it naturally starts drawing in healthier dynamics with people who honor your boundaries, who appreciate your honesty, who are curious about your experience, who can hold space for what you're going through.

But it all starts within us…

If you're interested in this work and want to dive deeper, I would love for you to join me over on the paid side.

And if you're a mom with ADHD and you are struggling with these things…

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