When was the last time you addressed the elephant in the room? The topic that no one wants to talk about and even warms your cheeks with sheer embarrassment to discuss in the confines of your spiritual community. One conversation that is sure to make many people uncomfortable and is likely to disturb the peace is S-E-X. What would happen if you were allowed to “go there” — unapologetically and without concern for what may follow?

The hot topics surrounding our bodies, desires, and sexuality can be difficult when developing convictions rooted in biblical truths, but Kat Harris is all too familiar with the complexities of such topics and details them in her book, Sexless in the City: A Sometimes Sassy, Sometimes Painful, Always Honest Look at Dating, Desire, and Sex.

In our conversation, Kat Harris acknowledges that truly taking ownership of your decisions and feeling good about them means means investigating God’s heart surrounding sex and dating. What does God have to say about the matter? How has the church miscommunicated God’s truth? What responsibility do both men and women have with regards to modesty? What challenges do both the church and culture present in understanding and living in freedom? 

There is both a need and longing for a safe and inviting space for wisdom-filled answers and open/honest conversations. Because of purity culture and also the often silent position on the topic of sex by the Church, we need the ability to chat about these things. Because of purity culture and also the often silent position on the topic of sex by the Church, we need the ability to chat about these things without judgment,, to address the questions that many wrestle with and to honor the real wrestle with, and to honor the real desires along with the weight of shame many are afraid to talk about. 

If you find yourself struggling when it comes to your personal convictions and knowing what God says and intended through the creation of sex, know that your are not alone. He sees and is present with you. He wants to engage in the conversation with you as you unpack the truth of desire in His Word. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this transparent conversation is one that you won’t want to miss!

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