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Have you ever found yourself loving your spouse but not particularly liking them in certain moments? That light switch they never flip off, those socks perpetually abandoned on the floor, or the crumbs consistently left on the counter – these small irritations can feel surprisingly monumental in marriage.

In this heartfelt and humor-filled conversation, we unpack the critical distinction between love and like in marriage. After 26 years together, we've learned that those "little foxes that spoil the vine" – the everyday annoyances – can either become relationship-destroying mountains or opportunities for growth, depending on how we respond.

We share candidly about our own friction points (bathroom door policies and house shoes rules included!) while exploring how these seemingly insignificant issues often reveal deeper relationship dynamics. The truth? Most conflicts arise when someone refuses to bend, creating power struggles that can eventually lead couples to divorce court citing "irreconcilable differences" – when really, they just never learned the art of mutual submission in small things.

Beyond just identifying the problem, we offer practical wisdom for rekindling "like" in your marriage: intentionally building a case FOR your spouse rather than against them, getting curious instead of frustrated, reconnecting with what initially attracted you to each other, and closing emotional distance through meaningful conversations. Remember – love is a choice and a commitment that transcends fluctuating feelings.

Whether you're in the butterfly-filled infatuation stage, the challenging "fight for power" phase, or working toward mature, committed love, this episode provides the tools to strengthen your relationship. Ready to transform how you view those everyday irritations? Listen now, and discover how to not just love your spouse, but genuinely like them again.

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Marriage can be beautiful, but it can also be incredibly challenging. In our case, the first two years were some of the hardest. What transformed our struggling relationship into a thriving partnership wasn't better communication or date nights—it was supernatural power.

Many believers are missing a crucial element in their spiritual lives and marriages: the baptism of the Holy Spirit. This isn't just theological jargon—it's a real, transformative experience that Jesus promised to every believer. While salvation brings the Holy Spirit to live within you, there's a second, distinct experience where He comes upon you with power. Think of it like drinking water versus being immersed in it.

For us, everything changed when we received this gift in 2001. Depression that had plagued our home for years disappeared. Priorities shifted naturally. Living a holy life became desire rather than duty. Most importantly, loving each other became easier because we weren't doing it in our own strength.

Throughout the Bible, we see this pattern clearly. John the Baptist said, "I baptize with water, but Jesus will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and fire." In Acts, new believers regularly received this power through simple faith. It wasn't reserved for special Christians—it was (and is) for everyone who asks.

The beautiful thing about this gift? You don't need to wait, tarry, or become perfect first. Jesus promised that if earthly parents know how to give good gifts, "how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask?" That's all it takes—simple, childlike asking.

Ready to experience supernatural power in your marriage and life? Listen as we share our journey and practical guidance for receiving everything God has for you. This could be the missing piece you've been searching for.

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Have you ever felt like your marriage was under attack? You might be right—but the attacker isn't your spouse.

When Ken and Tabatha Claytor stood at the altar 26 years ago, they had no idea their marriage would nearly end within two years. What saved them wasn't marriage counseling or communication techniques (though those helped). It was recognizing the spiritual warfare targeting their relationship.

"Marriage is God's idea, and it's the one relationship that shows the world how much Jesus loves the church," Ken explains. "This is precisely why Satan attacks it so fiercely." From their own near-divorce experience to now helping countless couples, the Claytor's have identified six tactical weapons the enemy uses to destroy marriages: division through distraction, bitterness and unforgiveness, sexual temptation, spiritual disconnection, miscommunication, and generational patterns.

The turning point in their relationship came when they realized they weren't fighting each other—they were experiencing spiritual warfare. "It's not me against you," Tabatha emphasizes. "It's us against the devil." This perspective shift transformed their marriage from battlefield to partnership.

Through transparent sharing of their early struggles—Ken's anger and resentment, Tabitha's depression, their communication breakdown—the Claytor's offer practical wisdom for recognizing when you're fighting the wrong enemy. Their candid discussion reveals how spiritual immaturity creates vulnerability to attack and how spiritual weapons can protect your marriage covenant.

Whether you're newlyweds struggling through those challenging first years or long-married partners wondering why you keep having the same conflicts, this episode equips you with strategies to stand united against the true adversary of your marriage.

Ready to transform your relationship by fighting the right enemy? Listen now and discover how to wage spiritual warfare that strengthens rather than destroys your marriage. 

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What if the secret to a thriving marriage isn't found in solving every problem, but in choosing which problems actually matter? Drawing from 24 years of marriage experience, we reveal why "not sweating the small stuff" might be the relationship superpower you've been overlooking.

Remember your wedding day? The birth of your children? The special celebrations? Of course you do. But do you remember every dirty dish, unmade bed, or forgotten errand that triggered an argument? Probably not—and that's precisely the point. When we fixate on minor irritations, we risk damaging something permanent over something temporary.

We tackle the critical distinction between mothering and wifing—a relationship dynamic that silently erodes many marriages. A mother hovers, controls, and directs; a wife comes alongside, supports, and honors. Through the powerful concept of "incubation," we explore how wives can nurture their husband's vision rather than dominating or dismissing it. This partnership approach creates space for both spouses to flourish.

Kindness emerges as the cornerstone of marital harmony. Many withhold kindness fearing it signals weakness, but scripture reveals kindness as divine strength in action. By becoming "Chief Encouragement Officers" in our homes, we create atmospheres where love thrives despite imperfections. The challenging question we pose: Would you want to live with you?

Through the lens of the "love chapter" in 1 Corinthians 13, we provide practical guidance for letting love—not irritation—guide your responses. When we remember that "love keeps no record of wrongs," we free ourselves from scorekeeping and create space for genuine connection.

Join us next Thursday as we continue unpacking marriage wisdom that transforms relationships from battlegrounds into sanctuaries where both partners can thrive.

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Have you ever faced a moment when everything you were working toward seemed to hit a wall? That intersection of disappointment and decision is exactly what we're diving into today as we explore the powerful concepts of pivoting and rebounding.

Life rarely follows a straight line. Dreams get derailed, plans fall apart, and sometimes what seemed like the perfect path suddenly becomes impassable. But what if these moments aren't failures but invitations to something better? Drawing from our own journey through cancer, ministry transitions, and business pivots, we share how to discern when it's time to change direction versus when to push through resistance.

The principle is simple yet profound: evaluate fruitfulness. Has what you've been doing produced the results you hoped for? If not, perhaps it's time for a strategic pivot. This doesn't mean abandoning your vision—it means finding a better route to get there. As we discuss in this episode, sometimes what appears to be a roadblock is actually divine redirection toward something greater than you initially imagined.

Equally important is the art of rebounding after failure. Your past is just a chapter, not your whole story. Many of the most successful people attribute their greatest achievements to lessons learned through their biggest disappointments. What if your current setback is actually setting you up for your greatest comeback?

The enemy of both pivoting and rebounding is a victim mentality. When we see ourselves as victims of circumstances rather than overcomers through Christ, we surrender our power to write the next chapter. Developing what we playfully call a "Scrappy" mentality—that determined spirit that refuses to stay down—positions you for victory regardless of what you're facing.

Whether you're considering a change in your career, ministry, relationships, or personal development, this conversation will equip you with practical wisdom to navigate life's inevitable transitions with courage and faith. Subscribe, share with someone who needs this message, and join us at KenandTabitha.com for more resources to fuel your journey.

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Marriages don't break overnight, and they aren't restored in a day either. In this raw and revealing conversation, Ken and Tabatha share the five transformative keys that saved their once-broken relationship and built the foundation for their marriage journey.

"Locate where you are" begins their practical framework—because you can't navigate to Macy's without first finding the "You Are Here" dot on the mall directory. This honest self-assessment creates the starting point for genuine change. From there, the couple dismantles the myth that you should "work on yourself first" before addressing your marriage, showing how personal growth and relationship building must happen simultaneously.

The conversation takes a powerful turn when Tabitha reveals her "jujitsu approach" to winning Ken's heart during their darkest season. Rather than matching his distance with her own withdrawal, she chose selfless love—preparing meals he wouldn't eat, showing affection he initially rejected—until her consistent kindness broke through his defenses in ways confrontation never could.

You'll hear their passionate plea to remove "divorce" from your vocabulary, including the moving story of a couple who literally cut the word from their family dictionary during their wedding ceremony. And finally, they share the cornerstone of their restoration: putting God at the center of everything.

Whether you're fighting to save a troubled marriage or seeking to strengthen a good one, these battle-tested principles offer both hope and practical pathways forward. As Ken and Tabatha remind us, sometimes the greatest victories come when we fight not with our flesh, but with our faith.

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The secret weapon sitting on your shelf might be collecting dust. When was the last time you actually opened your Bible and studied it with purpose? In this powerful conversation, Ken and Tabatha tackle one of the most fundamental yet overlooked aspects of Christian life - how to develop a meaningful relationship with Scripture.

Christians often struggle with Bible study, feeling intimidated by ancient text or unsure how to extract relevant meaning for today's challenges. Both hosts candidly share their early experiences with Scripture - from falling asleep mid-verse to treating the Bible like a history textbook rather than living revelation. Their breakthrough came not through rigid discipline but through supernatural activation of the Holy Spirit, transforming words on a page into divine encounters.

The conversation moves beyond theory into practical application with five essential keys for effective Bible study: starting small with quality over quantity, using frameworks like SOAP (Scripture, Observation, Application, Prayer), establishing rhythm rather than rules, utilizing tools that match your learning style, and most critically, inviting the Holy Spirit's illumination. They emphasize that Scripture serves as our offensive spiritual weapon - the sword that cuts through depression, doubt, and spiritual warfare when wielded properly.

What makes this episode particularly valuable is the balanced approach to traditional and modern study methods. While honoring the tactile experience of paper Bibles with highlights and notes, they also embrace digital resources and audio versions for different learning styles. The hosts create space for both structured and free-spirited approaches to Scripture engagement, acknowledging that different seasons of life require adaptable strategies.

Ready to transform your relationship with God's Word? Listen now, and discover how to move beyond surface-level reading into life-changing revelation that powers every area of your life.

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The way you talk to yourself matters more than you might realize. Have you ever caught yourself saying things to your own reflection that you'd never dream of saying to someone else? In this deeply personal episode, we explore the transformative power of extending "Grace to Self" and how this simple practice can revolutionize your mental, spiritual, and even physical wellbeing.

Through vulnerable storytelling, we share the moment when a divine interruption challenged years of harsh self-criticism with a powerful question: "Who are you talking to like that? That's my daughter." This confrontation sparked a healing journey that not only transformed negative thought patterns but actually resulted in physical healing from an autoimmune condition. You'll discover how the war we wage against ourselves through our thoughts can manifest in our bodies—and how declaring peace can begin restoration.

We dive deep into seven practical keys for extending grace to yourself, from choosing self-forgiveness to developing healthy self-talk practices. For those struggling with perfectionism, religious guilt, or the constant feeling that you're never doing enough, this episode offers liberating insights about embracing your humanity while still pursuing growth. Whether you battle with negative self-image, impossible standards, or difficulty forgiving your own mistakes, you'll find practical wisdom for breaking free from self-condemnation.

Ready to stop being your own harshest critic? Join us as we explore how treating yourself with the same kindness, understanding, and forgiveness you'd offer to others can become the gateway to experiencing deeper joy, freedom, and spiritual wholeness. Your journey toward grace begins now.

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We explore God's design for intimacy within marriage and share eight essential principles for newlyweds navigating sexual expectations versus reality after the wedding day.

• Understanding God's purpose for sex: procreation, enjoyment, and intimacy between husband and wife
• Recognizing that great intimacy takes time, communication, and patience to develop
• Being patient with the journey rather than expecting instant perfection
• Communicating clearly and often about desires, preferences, and boundaries
• Inviting God into every aspect of your marriage, including the bedroom
• Focusing on connection beyond just physical pleasure
• Addressing and releasing unhelpful expectations from past experiences
• Overcoming insecurity and comparison for greater vulnerability
• Protecting intimacy with intentional boundaries against distractions
• Continuously learning and growing together through resources and conversation
• Approaching intimacy with tenderness, focusing on your spouse's experience
• Scheduling regular times for connection rather than leaving it to chance

Share this episode with anyone who is dating, engaged, newly married, or could use biblical insight on building a fulfilling intimate life with their spouse.

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Struggling with dating in today's confusing landscape? Ken and Tabatha draw from their marriage to deliver straight-talking wisdom about what actually works in relationships. 

"You got to be friends first," Ken emphasizes, highlighting how many couples rush into relationships without genuinely liking each other. This foundation of friendship—actually enjoying each other's company—creates the energy that sustains love through challenging seasons.

The hosts don't shy away from addressing physical attraction, timing important conversations, and maintaining standards while dating. "Know your worth and don't give discounts," becomes their rallying cry against settling for less than you deserve.

Their practical advice extends to relationship red flags too—like being "pressed" or desperate, looking for someone to complete you, giving too much too fast, playing house before marriage, and putting yourself in compromising positions. Each point is illustrated with relatable stories and insights from their ministry experience.

Most powerfully, they address the spiritual foundation necessary for lasting relationships. "Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers," they caution, explaining how mismatched spiritual values can create lifelong challenges that even the most devoted partner can't overcome.

Whether you're navigating the early stages of dating or preparing for marriage, this episode provides a blueprint for building relationships that stand the test of time. Ready to transform your approach to dating? This conversation might just change how you view relationships forever.

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