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When your heart whispers “God feels far,” what if the real invitation is to come closer? We open up about seasons of pain, busyness, and spiritual immaturity and show how a felt distance doesn’t mean God has moved. From battling cancer to navigating marriage stress, we trace the path back to peace and explain a simple framework that helps you reconnect: return to His presence daily, repent and release what blocks intimacy, and reconnect with God’s people who can carry you when you feel weak.

We dig into the three layers of God’s presence—omnipresent, indwelling, and manifested—and get practical about hosting His nearness in ordinary life. Think worship in the car, quiet walks without noise, and quick prayers before a meeting. You’ll hear why awareness is like tuning a piano, how focus and surrender shape sensitivity, and what it means to live from overflow so serving doesn’t become burnout. We talk about Moses’ hunger for God’s presence as the mark that sets His people apart and how friendship with God moves you beyond mere duty into delight.

If you’ve wondered why your joy leaks or your peace feels thin, this conversation offers clear next steps and honest encouragement. You are hardwired for communion with your Maker; loneliness can become holy solitude when you acknowledge the Friend who never leaves. Lean in for simple practices, a faith-building prayer, and a renewed vision for carrying God’s presence into your home, work, and relationships. If this resonates, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help more people close the gap with God.

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What if hearing God was less about chasing a moment and more about walking in a steady conversation? We unpack five reliable ways to discern God’s voice—Scripture, the Spirit’s inner witness, wise community, peace that umpires your choices, and the clarity of open-and-closed doors—so you can move with confidence and courage.

We share personal stories of guidance in marriage, ministry, and business, including dreams that redirected calling, impressions that protected timing, and opportunities that confirmed next steps. You’ll learn the simple pathways many people experience—seer, hearer, feeler, knower—and why God often speaks through pictures and prompts that grow trust, not confusion. We also get practical about the hardest question: is it me, God, or the enemy? Our five-discernment filter helps you test any impression against Scripture, God’s character, peace versus chaos, confirmation from mature believers, and whether it requires faith and advances a mission bigger than your ego.

We talk candidly about prophecy with humility, why accountability beats “God said” declarations, and how fruit over time reveals true direction. If you’ve felt stuck in silence, you’ll discover how God’s quiet seasons still form you, and how everyday attentiveness turns down the noise so you can follow the still small voice. Ready to build a life where guidance is normal and obedience is natural? Press play, share with a friend who needs clarity, and if it helps you, subscribe and leave a review so more people can learn to hear God clearly.

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Butterflies don’t build marriages—choices do. We open up about the rush of infatuation, the friction of the fight for power, and the quiet strength of mature love, weaving our 26-year story through the science, the pitfalls, and the simple practices that help couples grow. You’ll hear why dopamine and oxytocin make those early days feel like a dream, how cortisol and stress twist small annoyances into big battles, and what it takes to move from me-versus-you to us-versus-the-problem.

We break down the three stages of love with honesty and hope. From late-night balcony confessions to the seven-year itch, we name what changes, what hurts, and what actually heals. Along the way, we offer concrete tools you can use tonight: summarize-before-you-respond listening, ground rules for hard talks, the three-to-one affirmation rule, and a pause, pray, plan approach for high-stakes decisions. We also tackle comparison, stonewalling, and scorekeeping, and we share how weekly family meetings, shared values, and small, daily touches restore trust and affection.

If you’ve wondered where the spark went, or feared you’ve fallen out of love, this conversation reframes conflict as the classroom where love grows up. Mature love isn’t less passionate; it’s more secure, more generous, and far more sustainable. And yes, the butterflies can return in moments—when your habits make space for them. Want more? Our new book, Butterfly Love, tells the whole story and hands you the tools we use. Listen, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review so others can find the show. Then tell us: which stage are you in, and what tool will you try this week?

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Dating doesn’t have to feel like a guessing game. We break down five clear red flags every Christian should watch for and show how trusting God, not the crowd, changes who you choose and how you choose. From spiritual alignment to character under pressure, we pull back the curtain on the patterns that predict a healthy marriage—or a painful one.

We start with the heart of it all: if someone pulls you away from God, isolates you from church, or mocks spiritual disciplines, that’s not love. Then we zoom into teachability and accountability—because an uncorrectable person becomes unleadable when life gets hard. We tackle dishonesty and secrecy, the silent killers that cloud conversations and erode peace. You’ll hear why watching how a date treats servers, coworkers, and family reveals who they are when no one’s grading their performance. And we unpack the cost of a partner with no vision or direction, plus how mismatched goals, theology, and values create constant friction.

Along the way, we challenge the myth that romance equals readiness. Infatuation is effortless; mature love is built on aligned values, shared purpose, and honest dialogue. So we trade surface talk for deeper questions: money habits, family history, conflict style, faith convictions, and life vision. We also invite community into the process—mentors, pastors, and trusted friends who can spot the warning signs you might miss. To close, we share five practical discernment keys: pray before you play, ask trusted voices, observe not excuse, look for fruit, and follow the Holy Spirit’s peace.

If you’re single, this is a guide to date with clarity and courage. If you’re advising someone you love, it’s a toolkit for wise counsel. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and tell us: which red flag or discernment key are you adding to your non-negotiables today?

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We unpack how an eleven-day journey became forty years and why our schedules often repeat the same loop. Four practical keys help us redeem time, seize kairos moments, and align daily choices with what lasts.

• the Exodus loop as a mirror for wasted time
• screen time, reruns, indecision and hidden drains
• numbering our days with humility and clarity
• trusting God’s hand over our times and seasons
• redeeming kairos opportunities instead of stalling
• four keys: audit and align, seize moments, live eternally, guard focus
• routines that anticipate fatigue and make good choices easy
• pruning good things to make room for God things
• choosing presence with God, family, service and calling

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Has your relationship started to feel more like routine than romance? 😬 You’re not alone — most couples hit seasons where the spark fades and connection feels distant. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

In this episode, Pastors Ken & Tabatha Claytor get real about what causes relationships to lose their spark and share 5 practical ways to bring it back — emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Whether you’ve been married for 2 years or 20, these truths will help you reconnect, rekindle affection, and protect your “us” from the noise of life. 💛

💭 What You’ll Learn:

• Why love can fade even in healthy marriages
• How to rebuild emotional and physical connection
• Simple habits that reignite passion and appreciation
• How to protect your marriage from routine
• Biblical principles that strengthen lasting love

🕊 Scripture References:

• Proverbs 20:5
• 1 Thessalonians 5:18
• Song of Solomon 1:2
• Genesis 2:24

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Some wounds don’t just hurt—they rearrange your world. We open up about betrayal in its many forms—breakups, family fractures, church hurt, even the quiet feeling that God didn’t show up—and we offer a path forward that’s both honest and hopeful. Without glossing over pain, we lay out five keys for healing: tell the truth about the wound, anchor your identity in God, choose forgiveness even if trust must be rebuilt, set boundaries that protect your heart, and invite God to redeem what was lost. Along the way, we share a vivid vision of broken glass becoming a mosaic, a reminder that your story can be remade into something stronger, rarer, and more beautiful.

You’ll hear how unhealed betrayal distorts identity, sabotages new relationships through projection and defensiveness, and traps us in loops of replayed pain. We talk about people-pleasing and why you don’t need universal approval to follow God’s call, especially when the resistance comes from your inner circle. We show how to love wisely at different levels of access—crowd, twelve, and three—without guilt or bitterness. With scriptures that speak to the brokenhearted and practical tools like journaling, counseling, and short daily prayers for those who hurt us, we move from theory to action.

We close with a guided prayer for healing, words of encouragement for men and women navigating fresh heartbreak, and a gentle challenge to share what resonated most. If you’re ready to release bitterness, rebuild trust wisely, and step into a redeemed season, press play and journey with us. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help others find hope too.

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What if the temperature of your home could rise with one daily habit? After two rocky years at the start of our 26-year marriage, we learned that appreciation—not grand gestures—warms a cold house, heals silent nights, and makes a marriage last. We unpack how keeping a short memory, honoring each other’s roles, and practicing specific, daily gratitude turned us from scorekeepers into best friends.

Come for the story of our comeback; stay for the tools you can use tonight to strengthen intimacy, trust, and joy.

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Ever find yourself ignoring relationship red flags because your heart is saying "yes" when your gut is screaming "no"? In this revealing episode, Ken and Tabatha Claytor draw from their 26 years of marriage and ministry experience to shine a light on the seven unmistakable signs that someone isn't right for you—regardless of how strong your feelings might be.

The Claytors don't hold back as they challenge the casual dating culture with a powerful perspective: "I personally feel, especially as a Christian, we shouldn't date to date. I think we should date for marriage." This transformative approach to relationships helps singles avoid wasting emotional energy on connections that aren't heading toward a meaningful future.

Through personal stories—including Tabitha's candid admission of once staying in a relationship where she was called names and treated poorly—the couple unpacks warning signs like spiritual misalignment, disrespect, poor communication, and controlling behavior. Ken shares how he was once a "Christian atheist" who believed in God but lived as if He didn't exist, highlighting the dangers of being unequally yoked.

Perhaps most compelling is their insight on internal peace as the ultimate relationship compass. "The peace of God should be able to call something out or safe," Ken explains, encouraging listeners to trust their spiritual discernment even when others are pushing them toward a relationship. As they powerfully conclude, "The most important decision that you will ever make in your life after accepting Jesus is who you're going to marry."

Whether you're single, dating, or mentoring others in relationships, these seven principles provide a practical roadmap for finding a partner who will enhance your purpose rather than derail it. Subscribe now and join our community as we continue exploring how to build relationships that honor God and fulfill His purpose for your life.

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The assassination of Charlie Kirk has sent shockwaves through America, revealing deep divisions not just in politics, but within the church itself. In this raw, unscripted conversation, Ken and Tabatha offer a perspective you might not have considered – one that bridges understanding between drastically different viewpoints.

As Ken shares, "Everything changes when it comes to social media." Our digital algorithms create isolated bubbles of understanding where we only see content that confirms our existing beliefs. This explains why some are mourning Charlie as a fallen Christian leader while others celebrate his death as justice for perceived hatred. Rather than choosing sides, Ken and Tabatha model empathy toward both perspectives while explaining how they personally researched Kirk's statements to form their own conclusions.

The couple goes deeper than the surface-level conversation about one man's death to address the underlying spiritual issues: how we weaponize race for political purposes, the trap of victim mentality that keeps people in cycles of dependency, and the vital importance of honoring spiritual leadership even during controversial moments. Their personal stories of overcoming racism and poverty offer powerful testimony to the transformative power of the gospel.

Most importantly, they share a prophetic sense that this tragic moment has spiritual significance beyond what we can see. "I felt like my faith was attacked," Ken explains, "but I felt like there was something happening in the spirit." They describe a vision of a mantle falling on a new generation of bold believers and point to evidence of revival already breaking out in their church and beyond.

Ready to move past division and into revival? Join us for practical steps to position yourself for God's movement in this season. Share your prayer requests in the comments – we're here to support you on the journey.

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