Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

By Ken Claytor and Tabatha Claytor

Hey, what’s up fam. We’re Ken and Tabatha, and we’re so glad you found our YouTube page. We always pray, “God, let the people who need this channel find this channel.” So, if you’re here, you’re an

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Number 1: Why Are So Many Good Marriages Quietly Falling Apart?
Send us Fan Mail A marriage can be stable on paper and still feel strangely far apart at home. We’re talking about the slow drift: the subtle, gradual disconnect that happens when life gets loud, schedules take over, and the relationship starts running on autopilot. If you’ve ever thought, “Nothing is technically wrong, but something feels off,” this conversation is your wake-up call and your roadmap back. We get personal about what drift looked like in our own marriage after 27 years, including how stress, travel, shifting health seasons, and changing intimacy needs can create distance without either person meaning to. We break down why couples often hide these struggles, how assumptions spiral when communication goes quiet, and why “good enough” is one of the most dangerous places a relationship can live. We also talk about honoring each other’s different workloads without belittling, because respect fuels emotional safety. Then we go practical with marriage advice you can use immediately: weekly family meetings with a real agenda, date nights that bring fun back, affection that isn’t only about sex, and honest conversations that repair small hurts before they harden into walls. We also share why faith matters here: when we put God back at the center, we regain perspective, grace, and the power to pivot through every season together. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a couple you love, and leave a review so more marriages can stop the drift. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: i...
August 20, 202629min
Number 2: The Most Common Lies Satan Uses — And How to Break Free
Send us Fan Mail The most dangerous prisons don’t have bars, they have beliefs. Ken and Tabatha Claytor go straight at the core of spiritual warfare: the lies that shape how we see ourselves, how we see God, and what we think is possible. We talk about deliverance in a way that’s both biblical and practical, not just a moment in a corner somewhere, but the everyday freedom that happens when you replace deception with truth. We unpack why you can accept Christ and still feel bound, and why deliverance can be both an event and a process. Tabitha shares personal examples of identity lies that kept her living small, from feeling like a mistake to believing certain opportunities “weren’t for people like me.” Ken challenges a common spiritual trap too: treating God’s forgiveness like permission to keep sinning, instead of pairing confession with repentance and real change. Along the way we explain how Satan’s subtle strategy works, why “Did God really say?” still wrecks people today, and how wrong beliefs create wrong outcomes in mental health, healing, finances, and relationships. Then we get very specific. We name ten common lies like “you’re not enough,” “God forgot you,” “you’ll never change,” “your past defines you,” and “you’re alone,” and we counter each one with Scripture, identity in Christ, and real declarations you can speak out loud. We also pray to renounce lies, uproot strongholds, and open our hearts to the truth of God’s Word. If you need hope for your marriage, your mind, your body, or your future, this conversation is a reset. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs freedom, and leave a review so more people can find the truth that makes us free. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: i...
August 13, 202635min
Number 3: How Resentment Slowly Destroys a Marriage
Send us Fan Mail Resentment doesn’t usually sound like yelling. It sounds like “I’m fine,” feels like distance on the couch, and shows up as keeping score in your head. Ken and Tabatha Claytor get real about how resentment slowly destroys a marriage, not through one huge betrayal, but through small disappointments that never get processed and eventually turn into emotional coldness. We talk through personal stories from our own 27-year marriage, including seasons where resentment hid behind silent treatment, avoidance, and even “weaponizing” intimacy. Then we break down the most common triggers we see in marriages everywhere: finances, sex, time demands from work or ministry, and unmet expectations about leadership and support. If you’ve ever felt yourself withdrawing, struggling to make eye contact, or feeling repulsed by touch, we help you name what’s happening and why it matters. You’ll also get a clear, practical roadmap for how to overcome resentment in a relationship: acknowledge it honestly, stop rehearsing the offense, address issues early, communicate with truth and softness, forgive repeatedly, replace criticism with appreciation, rebuild emotional connection on purpose, pray together, and get counseling or mentorship before things get worse. We ground it all in Scripture, including 1 Corinthians 13:5, “love keeps no record of wrongs,” and we close with a guided prayer to renounce resentment and recommit to your covenant. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope for their marriage, and leave a review so more couples can find the tools to heal and rebuild. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: i...
September 03, 202623min
Number 4: How to Stop Bumping Heads With Others
Send us Fan Mail The conflict is not always about the conflict. Sometimes it is pride trying to stay in control, old wounds looking for a target, or a tone that makes people stop hearing your idea and start bracing for impact. If you keep “bumping heads” with your spouse, coworkers, family, or leaders, we are getting honest about the patterns that create repeated relational tension and the habits that can finally break it. We start with the hardest question to ask: what part do I play? From there, we talk through how strong personalities can still build a peaceful, fun, and connected marriage when we practice humility, tenderness, and mutual submission. We also unpack a Christian marriage view of leadership that looks like servant leadership: listening well, honoring your spouse, carrying responsibility, and making decisions without ego. Then we get practical about communication and conflict resolution. Romans 12:18 challenges us to do what depends on us to live at peace, and James 1:19 gives a daily playbook: quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to get angry. We share the tools that actually de-escalate tension, like probing questions, asking permission to share your side, using “I feel” language, and owning your tone with a real apology. We also address workplace conflict and church culture: how assumptions, secondhand stories, unclear roles, and misalignment can turn good people into constant friction, and what wise leaders do to stop contention before it spreads. If you want to be the thermostat who makes every room healthier, press play, then share this with someone you do life with. Subscribe, leave a review, and send this to a friend who needs peace in their relationships. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: i...
September 10, 202638min
Number 5: How To Love Your Spouse When You Do Not Like Them
Send us Fan Mail What do you do when you still love your spouse, but you honestly do not like them right now? We go straight into the real-life stuff couples actually fight about: lights left on, shoes where they “shouldn’t” be, house rules, and that moment when a simple reminder suddenly sounds like disrespect. We laugh, but we also get serious about how tiny irritations can grow into contempt when we turn a habit into a verdict on someone’s character. From there, we unpack a marriage truth that saves relationships: love and like are different. When people say they have “fallen out of love,” we believe the fastest path back is often rebuilding like. We talk about intentional ways to do that in a long-term marriage, like choosing shared activities again, creating new experiences like you did while dating, and changing the inner narrative you repeat about your spouse. Instead of building a case against them all day, we practice building a case for them, which changes how we show up at home. We also ground everything in Christian marriage principles, including agape love from 1 Corinthians 13: love as a choice, love as a commitment, love that forgives, keeps no record of wrong, and believes the best. We share practical relationship advice you can use immediately: get curious instead of frustrated, name unmet needs, close emotional distance with small conversations, seek counseling or pastoral support without shame, and pray honestly for God to soften your heart. If you want faith-based marriage help that stays practical, this one is for you. Subscribe for more, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find the support. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: i...
July 30, 202635min