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What if the secret to a thriving marriage isn't found in solving every problem, but in choosing which problems actually matter? Drawing from 24 years of marriage experience, we reveal why "not sweating the small stuff" might be the relationship superpower you've been overlooking.

Remember your wedding day? The birth of your children? The special celebrations? Of course you do. But do you remember every dirty dish, unmade bed, or forgotten errand that triggered an argument? Probably not—and that's precisely the point. When we fixate on minor irritations, we risk damaging something permanent over something temporary.

We tackle the critical distinction between mothering and wifing—a relationship dynamic that silently erodes many marriages. A mother hovers, controls, and directs; a wife comes alongside, supports, and honors. Through the powerful concept of "incubation," we explore how wives can nurture their husband's vision rather than dominating or dismissing it. This partnership approach creates space for both spouses to flourish.

Kindness emerges as the cornerstone of marital harmony. Many withhold kindness fearing it signals weakness, but scripture reveals kindness as divine strength in action. By becoming "Chief Encouragement Officers" in our homes, we create atmospheres where love thrives despite imperfections. The challenging question we pose: Would you want to live with you?

Through the lens of the "love chapter" in 1 Corinthians 13, we provide practical guidance for letting love—not irritation—guide your responses. When we remember that "love keeps no record of wrongs," we free ourselves from scorekeeping and create space for genuine connection.

Join us next Thursday as we continue unpacking marriage wisdom that transforms relationships from battlegrounds into sanctuaries where both partners can thrive.

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