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461: When Values Collide with Meg Rentschler, MSW, PCC
How do you react when a client shares a perspective that fundamentally contradicts everything you believe about fairness, justice, or human dignity? In that moment, you face a choice that could define this session AND the entire coaching relationship. We need to know how to respond when our deeply held beliefs collide with our client’s worldview. Our focus for today’s show is relevant and timely because it is a reality we face more than ever in this polarized world. It is a challenging aspect of professional coaching, and we need to be prepared to navigate this divide. We are discussing practical tools and a framework for maintaining your professional integrity while honoring your client’s integrity and growth. Join us to learn more!
Show Highlights:
- The reality of today’s polarized world: We are more and more likely to encounter clients with deeply rooted differences in values than our own.
- 4 key themes in navigating these values challenges:
- Focus on process over content to maintain coaching effectiveness.
- Use curiosity as the bridge when perspectives diverge.
- Develop the emotional regulation to stay present in the face of discomfort.
- Cultivate our own self-awareness to recognize when our values might be interfering with our client’s journey.
- Coaching is about the client’s agenda—not the coach’s agreement with that agenda.
- Our job, as a coach, is to balance, support, and challenge that agenda.
- Genuine curiosity transcends judgment and opens possibilities.
- Stay present and remain focused in each session; recognize when your personal triggers are activated.
- Use self-awareness to benefit the client.
- Notice the red flags when your emotional reactions compromise your effectiveness.
- Understanding client-coach compatibility and boundaries
- Ethical considerations to think about regarding race, bias, gender, religion, etc.
- The core value of humanity in the ISS
- Practical tools for self-reflection (Download my assessment guide to help.)
- Using collaborative (not judgmental) language about the client-coach partnership
- The coaching mindset in action: Be open, curious, flexible, and client-centered.
- Don’t be afraid of vulnerability and authenticity!
- Your own self-awareness is non-negotiable!
- Mindset is everything.
Resources:
Connect with Meg
Coach’s Self-Reflection Guide
Explore past episodes and other resources at www.STaRcoachshow.com.
Explore the STaR Coach Community and see what’s available there for you!
Visit the STaR Coach Show YouTube Channel! Subscribe today! Join our live show taping on the 3rd Thursday of every month at 1 pm CT.
Mentioned in this episode:
Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint
Do you love coaching, but when it comes to enrolling clients, writing your bio, or posting online, you freeze? Or fall into “coach speak” that doesn’t actually connect?
That’s not a you problem. It’s a messaging problem—and it’s costing you clients.
Join me for my free, live five-day experience: Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint. From March 16–20 at 9 a.m. Central, I’ll help you get crystal clear on your ideal client, refine your message so it actually resonates, and create a confidence statement that makes booking a call the obvious next step.
No fluff, just clarity, you can use immediately.
Grab your free spot at:
https://starcoachshow.com/5day
Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint
Join Mentoring Program!
If you’re a coach who wants to grow—not just check a box—this is for you.
I’m enrolling coaches now for my Spring Mentoring Program. Some are here for credentialing hours. Others are here because they want to become the coach their clients rave about.
Inside the program, we work on your actual coaching.
You’ll hear yourself differently.
Learn from other coaches.
Develop more presence.
And ask questions that create real transformation.
If you’re ready to deepen your skills and your impact, I’d love to support you.
Learn more at starcoachshow.com/mentor
I’d love to work with you.
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How do you react when a client shares a perspective that fundamentally contradicts everything you believe about fairness, justice, or human dignity? In that moment, you face a choice that could define this session AND the entire coaching relationship. We need to know how to respond when our deeply held beliefs collide with our client’s worldview. Our focus for today’s show is relevant and timely because it is a reality we face more than ever in this polarized world. It is a challenging aspect of professional coaching, and we need to be prepared to navigate this divide. We are discussing practical tools and a framework for maintaining your professional integrity while honoring your client’s integrity and growth. Join us to learn more!
Show Highlights:
- The reality of today’s polarized world: We are more and more likely to encounter clients with deeply rooted differences in values than our own.
- 4 key themes in navigating these values challenges:
- Focus on process over content to maintain coaching effectiveness.
- Use curiosity as the bridge when perspectives diverge.
- Develop the emotional regulation to stay present in the face of discomfort.
- Cultivate our own self-awareness to recognize when our values might be interfering with our client’s journey.
- Coaching is about the client’s agenda—not the coach’s agreement with that agenda.
- Our job, as a coach, is to balance, support, and challenge that agenda.
- Genuine curiosity transcends judgment and opens possibilities.
- Stay present and remain focused in each session; recognize when your personal triggers are activated.
- Use self-awareness to benefit the client.
- Notice the red flags when your emotional reactions compromise your effectiveness.
- Understanding client-coach compatibility and boundaries
- Ethical considerations to think about regarding race, bias, gender, religion, etc.
- The core value of humanity in the ISS
- Practical tools for self-reflection (Download my assessment guide to help.)
- Using collaborative (not judgmental) language about the client-coach partnership
- The coaching mindset in action: Be open, curious, flexible, and client-centered.
- Don’t be afraid of vulnerability and authenticity!
- Your own self-awareness is non-negotiable!
- Mindset is everything.
Resources:
Connect with Meg
Coach’s Self-Reflection Guide
Explore past episodes and other resources at www.STaRcoachshow.com.
Explore the STaR Coach Community and see what’s available there for you!
Visit the STaR Coach Show YouTube Channel! Subscribe today! Join our live show taping on the 3rd Thursday of every month at 1 pm CT.
Mentioned in this episode:
Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint
Do you love coaching, but when it comes to enrolling clients, writing your bio, or posting online, you freeze? Or fall into “coach speak” that doesn’t actually connect?
That’s not a you problem. It’s a messaging problem—and it’s costing you clients.
Join me for my free, live five-day experience: Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint. From March 16–20 at 9 a.m. Central, I’ll help you get crystal clear on your ideal client, refine your message so it actually resonates, and create a confidence statement that makes booking a call the obvious next step.
No fluff, just clarity, you can use immediately.
Grab your free spot at:
https://starcoachshow.com/5day
Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint
Join Mentoring Program!
If you’re a coach who wants to grow—not just check a box—this is for you.
I’m enrolling coaches now for my Spring Mentoring Program. Some are here for credentialing hours. Others are here because they want to become the coach their clients rave about.
Inside the program, we work on your actual coaching.
You’ll hear yourself differently.
Learn from other coaches.
Develop more presence.
And ask questions that create real transformation.
If you’re ready to deepen your skills and your impact, I’d love to support you.
Learn more at starcoachshow.com/mentor
I’d love to work with you.
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