Talk about learning on the job! As stepparents we don't have all of the answers. In fact, there are times when it feels as if we have none. This comes with the territory. Five things that I wish I had known: 

1. Not all grown people are adults
2. Heartbreak will become normal
3. I am not defined by the failures or successes of my stepchild
4. Teenagers kinda suck
5. I can discern, but I cannot condemn

We learn as we go, but it doesn't hurt to learn from the going of others!