From all the nasty habits one can have, people pleasing is the one that is often overlooked, yet VERY impactful.

It manifests everywhere, where we interact with other people.

And that's a BIG portion of your life.

People pleasing will sabotage your interests, damage your self-respect and thus your well-being.

We want to get rid of that and be a sovereign adult instead.

Here are 5 quick tips that will help you to overcome the people pleasing habit.

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(00:00) Quick Introduction to the Concept

(01:15) #1 Putting Yourself First

(03:30) #2 Deal With Your Guilt

(05:52) #3 Accept Other People Suffering

(09:12) #4 Ask for What You Want

(11:09) #5 Be Courageously You (Ditch the Act)

(13:42) "How to deal with the bad conscience after saying no and feeling the others' disappointment?"

(14:55) "What do you think about this statement: it's ok to be disagreeable sometimes. It feels like people pleasing is neurotic agreeableness."

(18:55) "The fear feels existential. What to do about it?"

(19:50) "Does "Accept others suffering" also include the suffering of the narcissist?"

(20:24) "How do you start to find the real authentic you under all the people pleasing?"

(21:10) "What about addictions? (and codependent relation with reality)"

(26:01) False Self and Bringing Back the Real Self

(28:05) "Do you think the prey/predator role-playing in BDSM is "Useful" at all?"

(30:26) "Do you feel like there's a point in childhood where the child actually chooses a path of either prey or predator?"

(36:04) "Is feeling undeserving the same as feeling guilt?"

(36:22) "Give me some self assertiveness tips not to be afraid to argue/fight?"

(37:32) "Thoughts on DBT?"

(38:25) "Can you give us any pointers on dealing with adult children who are mentally unstable and codependency please?"

(39:32) Answering Short Questions

(40:58) Recap

(42:45) #6 Develop a New Ethic