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Have you ever made an explicit list of conversations to have with a future spouse?

Hi Stef. I have a question. Philosophy has been a huge part of my life for a good few years now and has helped me.figure.out so much. However I find myself trying to push it onto my wife which is terrible of me. I don't want to be like that but find that my childhood traumas get triggered and suddenly I'm being pushy. I have asked her to read RTR and other books you have but she does struggle to engage probably because I am too pushy. How do I stop this pattern of behaviour?

Hey Stef, I don't want my future family to suffer under a totalitarian regime. I'm from central Europe and my current plan is to move out of the west, particularly into a south-american country with a right leaning government (like Uruguay), and to start my family there. I will either have to meet my future wife in Europe, and convince her to move to south america with me (which will probably be difficult), or just marry a woman from Latin america. Do you think this is a good idea?

Speaking of personalities, what do you think of MBTI - Myers Briggs personality type index? The gist of it is that everyone has a combination of cognitive functions that guide them toward making certain decisions in life. Any truth to this?


I grew up obese… and was nicknamed accordingly by my peers.
In the last few years, I have got in shape and lost about 80lbs of fat. From 255 to 180lbs at 6’ tall.
NONE of my peers recognize me now.
I have also created a six figure self employed business. (Blue Collar)
Now that I’m actually attractive to women,
I want to be wanted for me!
~Not a house,money, or muscles.
It’s kind of depressing that I became attractive , only after going through hell….

Hi Stef! My dad did very well in business and convinced me to sell most of my crypto when it had eclipsed 1k/btc. He made a joke years later that he had sold all his real estate to purchase Bitcoin when the price of btc was nearly 50k, implying it would be a speculative investment. He hasn’t acknowledged that he gave me the poor investment advice, even after it had 50x its price, but I haven’t called him out about it. Is that why I have regret to this day about selling or is it simply the price?

What's a good to differentiate between the value for value model and transactional relationships ?

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