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When is the “right time” to tell your child they were donor conceived? And how do you talk about it in a way that builds connection—not confusion?
In this powerful follow-up to Episode 53, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne speaks with Wendy Kramer, co-founder of the Donor Sibling Registry and parent of a donor-conceived son. Together, they tackle the big questions: how early to start the conversation, what language to use with toddlers and teens, and how to support your child emotionally when their donor or half-siblings don’t respond.
Whether you’re still expecting or already parenting a donor-conceived child, this episode will give you real-world tools, language, and compassion to lead your family forward.
What You’ll Learn:
01:01 — Why waiting to tell your child can lead to deep regret
02:06 — How to raise donor-conceived kids with realistic expectations
03:19 — Why donors (and half-siblings) sometimes say no
06:00 — Tips for reaching out to a donor or relative respectfully
08:17 — How to start the conversation with toddlers and young children
09:19 — The children’s book Wendy wrote to guide these conversations
11:08 — Why kids deserve to grow up knowing their donor family
13:30 — When to start searching for half-siblings (hint: before birth!)
15:08 — How the DSR protects your privacy during early contact
17:06 — Why the industry resists openness—and who profits from it
20:24 — What Wendy wishes the donor conception industry would change
21:38 — The most powerful thing she’s learned from thousands of families
22:13 — The #1 message Wendy wants all intended parents to remember
Resources Mentioned:
SMS #26 - The Man with 1000 Kids - Safety Precautions for Surrogacy
SMS #54 - Why Biology Matters: How to Find Donor Siblings and Families for Your Child - Wendy Kramer
Donor Sibling Registry
Book Your family - a donor kids story: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Family-Donor-Kids-Story/dp/0692106936
BloomBridge Surrogacy app
Key Takeaways:
Don’t wait for your child to ask—start the donor conversation early
If a donor says “no,” it’s often about fear or timing—not rejection
Early openness prevents identity confusion and builds trust
You can build relationships with donor relatives without losing your parental role
Ready to start the conversation—or deepen it—with your child? Explore BloomBridge’s donor conception resources or connect with Wendy and the DSR to join thousands of families leading with love and openness.
“You don’t wait for kids to discover their cousins—so why would you wait for them to find their half-siblings?”
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When is the “right time” to tell your child they were donor conceived? And how do you talk about it in a way that builds connection—not confusion?
In this powerful follow-up to Episode 53, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne speaks with Wendy Kramer, co-founder of the Donor Sibling Registry and parent of a donor-conceived son. Together, they tackle the big questions: how early to start the conversation, what language to use with toddlers and teens, and how to support your child emotionally when their donor or half-siblings don’t respond.
Whether you’re still expecting or already parenting a donor-conceived child, this episode will give you real-world tools, language, and compassion to lead your family forward.
What You’ll Learn:
01:01 — Why waiting to tell your child can lead to deep regret
02:06 — How to raise donor-conceived kids with realistic expectations
03:19 — Why donors (and half-siblings) sometimes say no
06:00 — Tips for reaching out to a donor or relative respectfully
08:17 — How to start the conversation with toddlers and young children
09:19 — The children’s book Wendy wrote to guide these conversations
11:08 — Why kids deserve to grow up knowing their donor family
13:30 — When to start searching for half-siblings (hint: before birth!)
15:08 — How the DSR protects your privacy during early contact
17:06 — Why the industry resists openness—and who profits from it
20:24 — What Wendy wishes the donor conception industry would change
21:38 — The most powerful thing she’s learned from thousands of families
22:13 — The #1 message Wendy wants all intended parents to remember
Resources Mentioned:
SMS #26 - The Man with 1000 Kids - Safety Precautions for Surrogacy
SMS #54 - Why Biology Matters: How to Find Donor Siblings and Families for Your Child - Wendy Kramer
Donor Sibling Registry
Book Your family - a donor kids story: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Family-Donor-Kids-Story/dp/0692106936
BloomBridge Surrogacy app
Key Takeaways:
Don’t wait for your child to ask—start the donor conversation early
If a donor says “no,” it’s often about fear or timing—not rejection
Early openness prevents identity confusion and builds trust
You can build relationships with donor relatives without losing your parental role
Ready to start the conversation—or deepen it—with your child? Explore BloomBridge’s donor conception resources or connect with Wendy and the DSR to join thousands of families leading with love and openness.
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