Loneliness leads to mind games. It shakes your faith and leaves you feeling worse than before. In this episode, Lily unpacks what isolation is and is not, explains why we need community, and shares ways to be the initiator in your friendships and relationships.

This is episode #4 of the SURF series — Stop, Understand, Relationships, Faith — a five-week journey where we explore how to find joy and purpose in life's ups and downs. How are you riding the wave? Share with the crew over on Instagram @8020pod! 

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Sometimes feelings just don't make sense. And that’s okay, but understanding them should be a top priority. In order to really understand something, there are a few important factors, including comprehension, insight, and empathy. Understanding requires a huge effort towards cognitive engagement, and this episode encourages exactly that. In this episode, Lily vulnerably approaches a few ways to explore big emotions amidst life’s challenges and transitions. Lily discusses a few struggles she is currently facing, including a disconnect between her brain and her heart. 

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Where do you find comfort? Do you have habits, routines, or choices that help you avoid the things that really matter? In this episode, Lily takes a deeper look at how distractions show up in her life and how removing them has made room for more meaningful things. Speaking from her own experience, she shares a powerful idea — what if we stopped doing the things that pull us away from God? This episode will help you recognize those distractions, gently let them go, refocus on the bigger purpose, and live intentionally.

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Stop. Understand. Relationships. Faith. That's SURF, the four components of

learning to find joy and purpose in the ebbs and flows of life. 

Lily is known for her vulnerability on the mic, and always transparent about the high-highs and low-lows she faces. Sometimes, everyday can be a battle. So Lily has learned the there are two options: you can sink or you can learn to ride the wave. Over the next five weeks, Lily will chat about how to focus on God, keep the faith, and find purpose through various life struggles.  

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Megan Maynes was 18 years old when she got a call that there was a mass in her ovaries, and she needed surgery ASAP. Along her road to recovery, Megan met nurses that not only encouraged her, but inspired her to pursue a career in the field. Now, as an ER nurse, running coach, and former D1 athlete, Megan forges a path towards healthier lives for those around her everyday. In this episode, Megan, also known as MegRunnerNurse online, shares loads of wisdom, laughs, and advice on how to start running (and actually enjoy it), how to juggle a career in healthcare with self care, and why it’s important to stay physically fit, both mentally and physically, in a demanding job. 

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Moving is always bittersweet. Over the past three years, Lily has called Annapolis her home. But now, her permanent address has changed, and it's time for a huge life update! In this episode, Lily explains her recent move, a few factors that went into the decision, and what's next for her.

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We're about six weeks into Q1, so it's time for a check in! Meghan McFerran, joins Lily on the mic to talk all things confidence, what it means to be in your "maintenance era", keys to growth when you feel stagnant, and why it's okay for your goals to shift! Meghan McFerran is a fitness trainer, content creator, Alo Moves Instructor and creator of Glisten. Growing up as a dancer, Meghan wanted to create a space where women can move with joy and celebrate their bodies through low-impact sculpt, strength and cardio classes. Meghan hosts live classes in NYC and on-demand classes on the Glisten App with a mission to empower women around the world to step into their own unique spotlight and shine.

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Laura Eldredge and Nicoletta Bradley from Call Her Holy join Lily on the mic for some “girl talk without the bad advice”. Worldly culture and church culture can leave a girl with TONS of questions, so Laura and Nicoletta are here to drop tons of wisdom on topics like why purity is important, how to truly listen for God’s voice, surrendering to the Lord, confessing sin, and so much more! 

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It's time to train your brain! In your 20's, it seems like every few weeks brings a wave of new challenges and changes. Because of that, Lily is getting into the nitty gritty of how overcome "safeguarding tendencies" (aka default behaviors used to protect one's image) in order to truly pursue your calling. In this episode, Lily explains why a growth mindset is important, how to overcome the fear of failure, and shares psychology hacks that encourage action and accountability.

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When you focus on your relationship with God, everything just seems to fall into place. Olivia Eve, host of For You From Eve, joins Lily on the mic at Spotify Studios to chat about keeping the faith through life's challenges! Olivia spills the tea on her relationship, trusting that God had a perfect plan all along. She also shares the daily micro habits she uses to grow in her faith, including how to read the Bible more and the importance of prayer.

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