This episode is about navigating differing desires and needs in the bedroom, especially as a busy mom who already feels pretty overwhelmed by motherhood itself. 

I talk about:

1. You should never do it when depleting emotions are present around it. 

a. If you feel angry, resentful, hatred, disgust, etc.… it's not the time for sex

b. My theory is that if we're not feeling like we can raise our current children well at the moment, we won't be in the mood for sex even if having more children isn't a possibility… at a deeper level we shut down to it. It's like our body's like woah lady you're drowning now is NOT the time

c. You have to get clear on what your soul is asking you to do to make sure you have a better partnership and stop taking on everything alone

2. We have different needs

a. Men need it differently than women do, to them it's the way they feel the energy of your love… remember they aren't empaths as often as we are, they aren't picking up on your energy, but touch can bring them right into connection with it

b. There's nothing wrong with a quickie when you're just kind of feeling neutral about it… remember that to men it feels like a pretty real need and when we agree to be monogamous we do have some level of responsibility to allow them to meet that need with us

3. Sex is an energetic exchange first and foremost 

a. If you're going into it with the intention to make him happy or feel wanted, you need to explore those inner child needs first… you can't come to the bed with that kind of baggage and experience sex the way it's meant to be experienced, it will never fill you up

b. Your intention should be for him to feel your love and for you to receive his

You're looking to have a connection with your higher self or soul during the experience, it is so much more than what our society has sadly made it out to be

Read more about this episode here: https://bethrowles.com/how-to-find-a-balance-that-works-for-both-partners-in-sex-life-after-having-children/

Be sure to read Quantum Love by Dr. Laura Berman and you might also be interested in this blog: https://bethrowles.com/3-things-unhappy-wives-wish-their-husbands-knew/