Tonight we’re talking about compromise and I’ll teach you a specific strategy. Get your spouse on TikTok right now, the person you love the most, whoever that is… join me together every Sunday to talk about getting through hard stuff and fostering a healthier relationship.
You’re listening to episode 77 with a live TikTok audience.
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I want to take a moment to celebrate. I started this show almost a year ago and after tonight, I will have shared all of the core relationship skills I think you need. You can watch and listen to 76+ episodes on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts.
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Let’s dive into how to love more fiercely. Let’s start with when we need compromise the most: during gridlocked perpetual issues.
What is that?
Example: gridlock around their dinner-time routine: one person wants to sit down at the table each night to share a meal while the other person prefers to eat on the go, especially if they’re getting home late, which is a common occurrence.
- Defining your core needs, values, and dreams, areas of inflexibility.
- Defining your areas of flexibility.
- Experiment with a temporary compromise that recognizes both your core needs and dreams.
We need to feel safe in order for a compromise to work, for this dialogue and process to be maximally effective.
RIFF:
To remember:
Compromise never feels perfect.
Everyone gains something and everyone loses something in a compromise.
The important this is feeling understood, respected, and honored in your dream.
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As always, ask for what you need in your relationship and start couple’s therapy sooner rather than later.
I’m Dr. Greg Matos, from Hollywood, California, until next time, love each other fiercely.
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