Pastor Rob Green, author of the book, "Tying the Knot," talks about the goal of premarital counseling: to help engaged couples see what marriage looks like when Jesus is at the center. When counseling, Green talks about red flags, like being spiritually mismatched, pornography, and relational baggage (like past abuse or a child from a previous relationship). A man or woman has to ask themselves whether or not they will extend grace to their intended and bear their burden. Green also talks about the green lights: a firm faith and dependence on Christ, a willingness to continually learn about one another, and involvement in a local church.