A Thought I Kept

What if the problem isn’t that you haven’t found the right way to live, work or be but that there isn’t one?

My guest this week is Alice Thompson-Boyd, therapeutic coach, podcaster, psychotherapist-in-training and co-founder of the social enterprise Social Bite. Alice spent her twenties helping build an organisation that went on to have an extraordinary impact on homelessness in Scotland. But alongside the success, awards and recognition, she was struggling with anxiety, burnout, panic attacks and a growing sense of disconnection from herself.

After leaving Social Bite, Alice discovered the Enneagram, a system for understanding the different patterns, motivations and internal worlds that shape how we move through life. For Alice, it offered something she had been searching for: a way to understand herself without making herself wrong.

This is a conversation about understanding the patterns we get caught in and finding a little more freedom to be ourselves within them.

In this episode, we explore:

• What the Enneagram can teach us about ourselves and other people
• Why Alice left Social Bite after a decade of building it
• Burnout, anxiety and losing yourself inside meaningful work
• People-pleasing, resentment and the hidden expectations behind giving
• Why self-knowledge isn’t the same as self-improvement
• Letting go of the idea that we need to “fix” ourselves
• Purpose, fulfilment and Alice’s desire for a smaller life
• Finding conviction instead of constantly looking for external validation
• Why Alice believes doing less can sometimes give us more

Show notes & things Alice mentions

• The Enneagram Institute 
• Truity 
• The Wisdom of the Enneagram, Don Richard Riso & Russ Hudson 
• Sarah Cumings episode of How To Be
• How To Be 
• Social Bite 

Alice Thompson-Boyd co-founded Social Bite, the social enterprise cafe chain supporting the homelessness community and implementing housing policy reform in Scotland, attracting the likes of George Clooney, Leonardo DiCaprio, and Harry & Meghan as celebrity ambassadors.

But behind the public story was a harder one: burnout that led to a severe breakdown, including a mental health crisis that reshaped how she understands behaviour, motivation and healing. She tells her story warts and all.

Today Alice is a certified Purpose Coach & Enneagram Facilitator with over 2000 hours of experience, working with individuals and teams through periods of change, crossroads, and burnout. Her Deep Work Coaching Programme blends the Enneagram, cognitive behavioural coaching, neurobiology, breathwork, and Internal Family Systems.

She's certified in Applied Neurobiology and Brené Brown's Dare to Lead, and is training as a psychotherapist deepening her expertise in helping people to do shadow work, find meaning, and create positive change.

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Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer, author and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here. As a Certified Coach and Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps people navigate the everyday lost moments and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to disconnection. 

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What happens when you spend so much of your life helping, caring for and making a difference to other people that you forget to include yourself?

My guest this week is Nicky Marshall — speaker, mentor, publisher, wellbeing facilitator and author of No One Is Coming to Save You. Nicky’s thought kept is: “To make a difference in this life, I had to put myself in the queue first.”

It’s a thought she came to through experience. After surviving a coercive relationship in her twenties, Nicky had a disabling stroke at 40 following a scuba diving accident. Her recovery took three years and required her to reconsider what resilience really looks like, how much we can ask of ourselves, and what happens when we stop waiting until everything else is done before tending to our own needs.

We talk about the difference between resilience and simply pushing through, why we so often look outside ourselves for the next person, programme or quick fix to make us feel better, and how we can begin to hear what we actually need. We also explore burnout and the small signals our bodies send us before they have to shout, people-pleasing, self-trust, learning to say no, and Nicky’s beautifully practical ways of putting herself back into her own day.

And we go somewhere else too: into spirituality, tarot, intuition, vision boards and the idea that perhaps what we are seeking might also be seeking us. Nicky talks about discovering paganism in her twenties, reconnecting with intuition and finding her own way of holding spirituality alongside a very busy, entrepreneurial life.

I loved where this conversation eventually landed: not on achieving some perfect state of balance, but on bounce. The possibility that our energy will change, life will change, we will sometimes lose ourselves a little — and we can learn how to come back.

If you’re someone who is very good at knowing what everybody else needs but finds it harder to put yourself into the equation, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we talk about: self-care and putting yourself first; burnout and recognising your own warning signs; resilience after a major life change; self-reliance and asking for help; people-pleasing and saying no; intuition and self-trust; spirituality, tarot and paganism; vision boards and creating a life that actually feels like yours; and what it means to rediscover your bounce.

Books mentioned in this episode

No One Is Coming to Save You — Nicky Marshall
How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body — Dr David R. Hamilton
A Witch Alone — Marian Green
Tabby Turns the Tables — Nicky Marshall
If Lost, Start Here: Wellbeing for the Anxious, Disconnected or Uncertain — Claire Fitzsimmons & Amanda Sheeren

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Nicky’s book No One Is Coming to Save You makes an interesting companion to my earlier conversation with Edwina Jenner, whose thought kept was also “No one is coming to save you.” Two women, the same words, and different ways of exploring what they might ask of us.

Find Nicky

Nicky is an award winning, international speaker and best-selling author, born in Bath and now living in South Glos. Nicky is a mentor, workplace facilitator and keynote speaker, inspiring people to discover their own brand of Bounce. She has helped thousands through her books and keynotes, wellbeing and leadership development in the workplace. Nicky is also Editor In Chief at Discover Your Bounce Publishing, helping budding authors to write and publish their books.

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Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer, author and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here. As a Certified Coach and Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps people navigate the everyday lost moments and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to disconnection. 

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Are you burnt out, exhausted by work, or wondering whether the life you’ve worked so hard to build is actually making you happy?

This week on A Thought I Kept, I’m talking to career and life design coach Selina Barker about burnout, energy management, career change and what it really means to create a life that makes you feel alive.

Selina and I talk about why burnout and exhaustion have become so normalised, why women in particular can become caught in patterns of over-giving and self-sacrifice, and how easily we can find ourselves pursuing someone else’s definition of success.

We also explore:

• Why managing your energy can be more useful than managing your time
• The five types of energy: physical, mental, emotional, motivational and spiritual
• How to recognise when work, a career or a business is no longer working for you
• Why burnout can be a sign that something needs to change
• Career change, uncertainty and finding the courage to do things differently
• Letting go of external validation and redefining what success means to you
• Why rest, creativity, pleasure and presence matter
• What it really means to thrive — rather than simply cope

Selina also shares what’s happening in her own life right now as she questions the business she has spent years building, lets go of an old version of success and makes more space for reading, drawing, playing the piano and simply being.

If you’re feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, stuck in your career, depleted by work or unsure what you want from the next chapter of your life, this episode offers another possibility: perhaps the goal isn’t to become better at keeping up. Perhaps it’s to pay attention to what makes you come alive.

Selina Barker is a coach, author and founder of the Project You journals. She has spent the past two decades making it her business to help people break free from the daily grind and create lives and careers they love. She has coached a long list of clients from Google, Apple and UN Women, to recording artists, best-selling authors, and leaders in the tech, finance, creative and music industries.

Her book Burnt Out: the exhausted person’s six-step guide to thriving in a fast-paced world was published in April 2021 and has been translated into multiple languages. She is creator of the Audible Series The Career Change Coach and founder of the Project You journals.

Selina and her work have been featured in the Telegraph, Independent, Sunday Times Style magazine, Red, Psychologies, Stylist, Grazia, Metro, BBC and many more. She lives in London with her husband and their 10 year old son.

https://selinabarker.com/

Project You Pep-talks 

Another Way with Selina Barker on Substack

Also mentioned on the show:

The Success Myth by Emma Gannon

 The Power of Full Engagement by Tony Schwartz and Jim Loehr

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Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer, author and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here. As a Certified Coach and Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps people navigate the everyday lost moments and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to disconnection. 

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What if confidence isn't where we begin? What if courage comes first?

This week on A Thought I Kept, I'm joined by women's leadership and career development coach Sadia Ghazanfar, founder of Slay Your Dragons, to explore the thought she has carried with her for years:

"Be brave enough to suck at something new."

Together we unpack why so many of us wait to feel confident before we start, how perfectionism keeps us stuck, and why learning, making mistakes and asking for help might be the very things that help us grow.

We talk about what happens when we're overwhelmed, burnt out or at capacity, why women often struggle to express anger, and how courage, rather than confidence, can become the foundation for meaningful change. Sadia also shares her own experience of burnout, career change and learning to stop carrying everything alone.

Whether you're navigating a career transition, feeling held back by self-doubt, experiencing imposter syndrome, or simply wondering if it's too late to try something new, I hope this conversation offers a compassionate reminder that confidence is something we build—not something we need before we begin.

In this episode we explore:

• Perfectionism and the pressure to get everything right
• Confidence vs courage: what really comes first
• Burnout, overwhelm and emotional capacity
• Women in leadership and navigating uncertainty
• Why asking for help is an act of courage
• Emotions, self-compassion and learning to begin again
• How to stop waiting until you feel ready

About Sadia Ghazanfar

Sadia Ghazanfar helps women in leadership stop abandoning themselves to lead others.

She is the founder of Slay Your Dragons and a PCC-accredited coach (ICF) and Certified Positive Intelligence® Coach. She came to this work the way many of her clients do: leading others while forgetting herself, navigating workplaces not built with her in mind, unable to see the conditioning that was causing her pain. Burnout forced her to stop, and what she found on the other side became the work. 

Sadia doesn't teach women to be more confident or palatable. She works with what's underneath; the conditioning that runs so quietly most women mistake it for their personality. Her work doesn't add more to a woman's experience, it removes what was never hers to carry. She believes courage comes before confidence, and that when a woman changes, nothing around her stays the same.

Website | LinkedIn | Instagram | Substack 

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What happens when you spend so long supporting everyone else that you begin to lose sight of yourself?

In this episode of A Thought I Kept, I talk to coach and charity co-founder Lois Jackson about caregiving, identity, emotional wellbeing and learning to matter in your own life too.

In 2017, Lois’s fiancé, former professional rugby player Ed Jackson, suffered a life-changing spinal cord injury. Lois threw herself into supporting his recovery, repeatedly telling herself: “It’s not about me.” Her thought for this episode turns that belief around: “It is about me.”

We talk about what it means to care for others without losing yourself, the pressure of being “the strong one”, and why acknowledging your own emotions and needs can feel so vulnerable. Lois shares how honesty helped her reconnect with herself and her relationship, and what she has learned about self-trust, identity, boundaries and finding your way forward when life changes unexpectedly.

We also explore trauma and recovery, grief, hope, the healing power of nature and community, and why progress is often measured in millimetres rather than mountains. This is a conversation about the people who hold everything together, the gap between being fine and feeling fulfilled, and the possibility of caring deeply for others while making space for yourself too.

If you have ever wondered where you have gone in your own life, this conversation might offer a gentle reminder: perhaps it gets to be about you too.

Lois Jackson is a resilience and identity coach who works with people who've spent a long time being everything to everyone and are quietly wondering who they actually are underneath all of it.

With an ICF certification and an NLP Practitioner qualification she brings genuine depth to the work. But what she brings more than anything is lived experience of caring, of losing, of rebuilding, and of learning, later than she'd like to admit, that she was also allowed to be in the story.

Lois co-founded Millimetres 2 Mountains with her husband Ed, a charity that helps people discover what they're capable of through outdoor challenge and community. Which tells you something about how she thinks identity is best rebuilt: not just in a therapy room, but moving through something hard, preferably with good people and a decent view.

Lois’s website | M2M Website | Instagram

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Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer, author and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here. As a Certified Coach and Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps people navigate the everyday lost moments and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to disconnection. 

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Motherhood is often talked about as something instinctive, natural, or inevitable. But what if the stories we've inherited about mothering tell only part of the story?

In this episode of A Thought I Kept, I sit down with feminist cultural historian and bestselling author Elinor Cleghorn to explore the hidden history of motherhood and the women whose experiences have so often been left out of the historical record. Together, we talk about caregiving, identity, freedom, resilience, and what happens when we begin to see mothering not as a private experience, but as a force that has shaped history itself.

Elinor's thought kept is a beautiful one. What begins as a reflection on writing, research, and creativity soon opens into a much wider conversation about motherhood, care, legacy, and the unseen labour that shapes both our lives and the lives of those around us. 

Dr Elinor Cleghorn is a feminist cultural historian and the bestselling author of Unwell Women. Her latest book, A Woman's Work: The Radical History of Mothering, traces the history of motherhood across centuries, revealing the women, stories, and acts of care that have helped shape the world we live in today.

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Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer, author and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here. As a Certified Coach and Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps people navigate the everyday lost moments and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to disconnection. 

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What happens when movement stops being something we measure, earn, optimise or squeeze into a busy day, and becomes something much simpler?

In this episode, I’m talking to Wendy Welpton about the idea that everyday movement matters just as much as exercise. It’s a conversation that begins with movement, but quickly becomes one about trust, self-compassion, ageing, wellbeing, and our relationship with our bodies.

Wendy shares her own experience of living with chronic pain, the fear and frustration that came with it, and how it led her to rethink everything she thought she knew about movement and exercise. Together, we explore what happens when we become disconnected from our bodies, why so many of us have absorbed limiting messages about ageing, and how we can begin to rebuild confidence in ourselves through small, everyday acts of movement.

Whether you’re navigating chronic pain, feeling disconnected from your body, wondering how to stay active as you get older, or simply tired of wellbeing becoming another thing on your to-do list, this conversation offers a gentler way of thinking about movement, health, and everyday life.

Wendy Welpton is the founder of Reclaim Movement, host of the Make Movement Matter podcast, and author of Move Well for Life: Unlock the Life-Changing Power of Everyday Movement. Through Wendy's coaching, writing and teaching, she helps people rediscover movement as something that supports wellbeing, confidence and freedom throughout life.

So if you've spent the morning sitting at a desk, if your shoulders are somewhere near your ears, or if you've ever wondered whether movement could feel less like a task and more like a companion, I hope you'll stand up, walk around and join us.

Mentioned in this episode

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

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Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer, author and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here. As a Certified Coach and Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps people navigate the everyday lost moments and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to disconnection. 

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There are times in life when trying to be a good person can become exhausting.

A good daughter. A good mother. A good friend. A good employee. A good partner. A good citizen. So much of our lives can be shaped by trying to meet expectations, keep the peace, and make other people comfortable. But what happens when being good starts pulling us away from ourselves?

In this episode, I talk to Alice Bramhill about the thought she has carried with her from Carl Jung for decades: "I'd rather be whole than good."

Alice is a psychotherapist, mental health nurse, writer, podcaster, and advocate for deep feelers and big-hearted people pleasers. Together, we explore the hidden cost of constantly trying to get things right, and the relief that can come when we stop treating parts of ourselves as problems to solve.

We talk about people-pleasing, self-trust, sensitivity, boundaries, burnout, and the long process of learning to listen to ourselves again. We explore why so many of us struggle to know what we really want, how assumptions shape our lives and relationships, and why acceptance may be far more powerful than perfection.

Along the way, we discuss late-diagnosed neurodivergence, creativity in midlife, visibility, rejection sensitivity, motherhood, and the everyday work of becoming more fully ourselves.

What I loved about this conversation is that it isn't really about self-improvement. It's about self-acceptance. About letting go of the exhausting performance of being who we think we should be, and making room for who we actually are.

Alice Bramhill is a registered mental health nurse, psychotherapist, writer, podcast host, and creator of a thriving community for deep feelers and big-hearted people pleasers. Diagnosed with ADHD at 47 and autism at 50, she specialises in supporting late-diagnosed neurodivergent adults around relationships, boundaries, self-trust, masking, rejection sensitivity, and burnout. Her first book, I Need My Space But I Like You Too, is out later this year.

Whether you're navigating anxiety, emotional overwhelm, people-pleasing, or simply wondering how to feel more at home in yourself, I hope you'll find something in Alice's thought that stays with you too.

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Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer, author and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here. As a Certified Coach and Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps people navigate the everyday lost moments and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to disconnection. 

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In a world that often feels noisy, fast-moving, and full of other people's expectations, how do we stay connected to ourselves? How do we know what's truly ours, what lifts us up, and what might be shifting us into someone we were never meant to be?

This week, I’m joined by Claire Venus, writer, mentor, Substack strategist, and founder of Creatively Conscious. Claire is someone I turn to often for encouragement and guidance on creativity, community, and showing up online in ways that feel more human, more intentional, and more like ourselves.

The thought Claire brings to the podcast is to stay creatively conscious. Together, we explore what that means in practice and how creativity can become more than something we do. We talk about building a life that feels like our own, the freedom that comes from questioning the rules we’ve inherited, and the importance of paying attention to what uplifts us rather than what leaves us feeling depleted. Along the way, we touch on self-trust, visibility, nervous system awareness, burnout, creative expression, motherhood, and the challenge of staying open and curious in a digital world that can sometimes feel overwhelming.

Claire Venus is an award winning Engagement and Audience Development Consultant, author, Substack Expert and Mentor.  She lives on the Northumberland Coast in the UK with her husband, two children and dog; a blue whippet called Stella. In 2015, Claire left the city and followed the call to live rurally, buying a 100 year old home that needed renovation, stepping into her lifelong vision to live by the sea. After a twenty year career in worldwide festivals and events, she pivoted to start her company ‘Creatively Conscious Ltd’ and expanded her brand to work with artists, writers and female founders globally online.  

Claire is the author of 6 books including How to Build a World Class Substack, an Amazon bestseller, and Invisible Trust. She has been featured in The Telegraph, The Sunday Times and ipaper. She writes to an email audience of over 19,000 subscribers and has popular social and YouTube channels too.

Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube

Resources Mentioned in This Episode

Leonie Dawson 

Emma Gannon

Warwick-Edinburgh Mental Wellbeing Scale

Creative Health Alliance 

Brené Brown's TED Talk on vulnerability 

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Burnout is often described as being too busy, working too hard, or having too much on our plates. But what if it has as much to do with how we relate to ourselves as it does with how much we do?

In this episode of A Thought I Kept, I talk to Dr Jillian Bybee, a paediatric intensive care physician, certified coach, writer, and host of the Humans Leading podcast. Having experienced burnout twice herself, Jillian brings a thought that completely changed the way she understands wellbeing: wellness is not a state of being, but a state of action.

Together, we explore what happens when we stop thinking of wellbeing as a destination we eventually arrive at and start seeing it as something woven through everyday life. We talk about the difference between stress, overwhelm, and burnout, why so many of us keep pushing through long after we've run out of energy, and what it means to build small moments of restoration into busy lives.

Along the way, we discuss emotional suppression, self-compassion, nervous system regulation, perfectionism, motherhood, leadership, and the challenge of caring for ourselves in cultures that often reward self-sacrifice. Jillian shares why five minutes can sometimes be enough to begin, how burnout can disconnect us from joy as well as difficult emotions, and why rest is about far more than simply taking time off.

This conversation is full of gentle reminders that wellbeing doesn't live somewhere beyond our lives, waiting for us to finally get everything right. It is something we practise, imperfectly, in the midst of work, family, grief, responsibility, and ordinary days.

Whether you're feeling emotionally exhausted, navigating stress, recovering from burnout, or simply wondering how to care for yourself in a more sustainable way, I hope you'll find something here that stays with you.

Dr. Jillian Bybee is a busy pediatric intensive care physician, toddler mom, certified coach, and creative who uses what she’s learned from recovering from burnout twice to help other ambitious women live less stressed, more satisfying lives. Her Substack publication and podcast, Humans Leading, aim to remind us that, although we can do amazing things, we are not machines (and even machines get regularly scheduled maintenance). She believes that we all need and deserve rest, joy, and time away from work. If you are looking to make a change in your own life, Dr. Jillian offers 1:1 coaching, group coaching for teams, and workshops.

 You can find Dr. Jillian in the following places:

Substack: Humans Leading | Jillian Bybee, MD | Substack

Instagram: Jillian Bybee, MD (@lifeandpicu) 

LinkedIn: Jillian Bybee, MD | LinkedIn

Website: Jillian Bybee, MD- Physician Leader, Coach, Speaker

Podcast: Humans Leading

Books and papers mentioned in the podcast:

Burnout: Solve Your Stress Cycle by Emily & Amelia Nagoski

Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown

Rehder K, Adair KC, Sexton JB. The Science of Health Care Worker Burnout: Assessing and Improving Health Care Worker Well-Being (2021).

Duke Well-Being Toolkit Resources

Forty-five Good Things — Sexton et al.

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Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer, author and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here. As a Certified Coach and Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps people navigate the everyday lost moments and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to disconnection. 

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