Recorded at the Batle of Ideas 2015
In a week where opprobrium has been heaped on the
parents of a four-year-old child who had to be rescued from a gorilla
enclosure at Cincinnati Zoo, while the parents of a Japanese
seven-year-old boy face charges after abandoning him to wander in the
woods for a week, listen to this session from the Battle of Ideas 2015
where Lenore Skenazy argues that far from being obsessed with what our
kids might be up to, we must give them the freedom to roam and explore
without constant adult supervision.
The term ‘cotton wool kids’ has become part of everyday language.
Indeed, many parents, academics and others share a concern that children
have become overprotected. The worry is that youngsters no longer have
enough freedom to explore, to get into scrapes, have accidents and work
out how to deal with situations when they don’t have adults telling
them what to do.
Discussions about this problem often focus on Mum and Dad: the blame,
it is said, lies with irrationally fearful, overprotective ‘helicopter
parents’. Yet when parents do try to give their children more freedom,
they can face a great deal of hostility and even legal action. In the
US, the parents of so-called ‘Free Range Kids’ have been charged with
child neglect, while UK parents who let their young children cycle to
school on their own have become the subject of protracted public debate
about whether this is neglectful. Parents are told almost daily that
their children’s health, welfare and safety are at risk, not just from
strangers lurking in the park but from adults they know and thought they
could trust, including family members, teachers, doctors and volunteers
– and the apparently ever-growing menace of online grooming and abuse.
Given this state of affairs, how could parents not end up being fearful
and paranoid?
How should we, as adults collectively, think about how best to
protect and care for children while at the same time challenging and
testing them in creative ways? Why do we find it so hard to agree on a
‘commonsense’ approach to child-rearing? Are projects that focus on
letting children ‘run free’ the answer? Or are these becoming just
another parenting fad, accessible mainly to middle-class parents who
can weekend in the country? Is it possible, or even desirable, to change
the way we raise our children in a more profound way? How might we find
ways to develop character, determination and independence of thought
and action in future generations?
SPEAKER
Lenore Skenazy
founder of the book, blog and movement Free-Range Kids; “America’s Worst Mom”
RESPONDENTS
Alice Ferguson
director, Playing Out
Dr Helene Guldberg
director, spiked; author, Reclaiming Childhood: freedom and play in an age of fear and Just Another Ape?
Lisa Harker
director of strategy, policy and evidence, NSPCC
CHAIR
Dr Ellie Lee
reader in social policy, University of Kent, Canterbury; director, Centre for Parenting Culture Studies