Awkward Etiquette: Old Money & New Manners

Acquired, perhaps, but never bought: a discussion on Taste


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Is taste inherited, learned, or just a synonym for money? In this definitive episode of the Awkward Etiquette trilogy, Kiki Astor dismantles the biggest myth in high society: that wealth buys discernment.

This week, we move beyond which fork to use and delve into the philosophical core of elegance. We explore why the richest person in the room often has the worst taste, why "class" and "taste" are actually opposing forces, and why true refinement is about editing, not accumulating.

From the psychology of "new money" anxiety to the quiet confidence of "old money" interiors, Kiki breaks down how taste is actually formed (hint: it involves boredom and mild embarrassment). She also covers the etiquette of taste—how to handle copycats, the politeness of sending back a dish, and how to cultivate discernment in children without turning them into snobs.

If you've ever wondered why some homes feel soulless despite millions in renovations, or why a simple European apartment feels effortlessly chic, this episode explains the invisible hierarchy of aesthetics.

Key Topics:

  • Old Money vs. New Money Aesthetics: Why scarcity teaches discernment and abundance destroys it.
  • Taste vs. Class: Why you can have impeccable manners and terrible taste (and vice versa).
  • The Etiquette of Taste: How to comment on décor, dealing with social climbers, and the art of "quiet luxury."
  • Inheritance vs. Education: Can you learn taste later in life? (Yes, but it hurts.)
  • Parenting for Refinement: Teaching children value through omission and repair.
  • The Moral Core: Why taste is ultimately about restraint, respect, and knowing when to stop.
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