December 04, 2025

Addicted to Love: From Free Fall to Failing Forward with Ben Currier

28 minutes

How Losing Everything Helped Ben Currier Find Himself,” is about what happens when a relationship becomes an escape hatch, a distraction, and ultimately a disaster. But more importantly, it’s about what it takes to rebuild your life from nothing.

Ben Currier—Excel genius, host of the top-ranked podcast Failure Guy, and a professor teaching Microsoft—shares a story almost too wild to believe. One minute, he’s running a successful podcast and thriving professionally. The next, he’s in North Hollywood with a black eye, no backpack, no computer, and no support system after moving across the country for a woman he barely knew.

This is a conversation about emotional addiction, trauma bonding, and why we chase intensity instead of intimacy. It’s also a conversation about resilience, self-worth, and the work it takes to break the patterns that keep us stuck.

We talk about:

• Why some relationships feel like “free fall disguised as love.”
• How loneliness, avoidance, and low self-worth make us vulnerable to fantasy.
• Why jumping into the next relationship never softens the landing.
• What happens when you ignore every red flag—because you don’t want to be alone.
• The dangerous power of dopamine, impulsivity, and connection during crisis.
• How losing everything forced Ben to rebuild from the inside out.
• What recovery from love addiction actually looks like.
• How he ultimately found healthy love after believing he never would again.

Ben opens up about:

• Being displaced, isolated, and robbed—twice—within weeks.
• The moment he realized he had hit rock bottom… and then below it.
• How a year of darkness became the foundation for rebuilding confidence.
• The role of friends, therapy, and honest self-reflection in healing.
• Why he now thrives in a stable, loving relationship built on respect and clarity.

Anyone who has ever chased the wrong love, stayed too long, or ignored the truth because the fantasy felt better will see themselves in this episode.

In this powerful episode of Shot@Love, Kerry sits down with longtime friend and Failure Guy podcast host Ben Currier to unpack the wild, painful, and ultimately transformational chapter of his life that began with a single impulsive decision: moving across the country for a woman he barely knew. What followed was a rapid descent—lost belongings, emotional chaos, isolation, and a complete collapse of self-worth. But it became the catalyst for his greatest rebuilding.

Together, Kerry and Ben explore why so many of us get addicted to intensity, confuse chaos for connection, and “airbag” from one relationship straight into another to avoid facing ourselves. Ben shares candidly about breaking toxic cycles, surviving rock bottom, rebuilding confidence, and eventually finding healthy love. His story is a testament to resilience, emotional clarity, and the truth that no matter how far you fall, you can rise again—stronger and wiser than before.

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