What would change if you had unshakeable self-worth? If judgment fell away and you tended to yourself with pure compassion, what version of self would come forward?
In this episode—a continuation of our Inner Child Phases series—Lacy, Jessica, and LMFT EMDR Therapist Janelle explore the final three stages of inner child development: Creativity & Play (ages 3-5), Confidence & Competence (ages 5-3), and Authentic Identity & Belonging (ages 13-21). These foundational years are where your creativity, passion, and your truest, weirdest self come into being.
For many of us, this is also where shame, conditioning, and “shoulds” begin to hide our light. This challenge is designed to restore a sense of safety, nurturing, and self-trust—so you can reconnect with who you’ve always been (and were always meant to be).
A reminder for whoever needs it: you’re allowed to play for play’s sake. To slow down, create beauty, and experience joy simply because it feels good. When you quiet the inner critic and reconnect with curiosity and creativity, you give your inner child permission to live in their truth.
It’s time to return to your magic.
**Trigger warning: We discuss healing from sexual abuse and trauma from 48:00 through 50:40**
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In this episode we talk about:
- The role of play, curiosity, and creativity in manifestation
- How foundational safety fuels authentic expression
- Reparenting the preschool years to reignite personal magic
- Why hobbies and fringe interests are vital to self-worth
- The connection between creativity and nervous system regulation
- Breaking perfectionism and healing the inner critic
- How comparison and people-pleasing stem from early blocks
- Reclaiming your right to play without performance
- Understanding “Cringe Mountain” as a path to magnetism
- The shift from parental to peer acceptance in adolescence
- Differentiating from your family while staying connected
- How empowered “no” leads to empowered creativity and sexuality
- Reclaiming identity after masks and self-abandonment
Mentioned In the Episode:
- Expanded x Ep. 384 - How to Feel Safe, Trust, and Have Healthy Boundaries: Inner Child Healing Part 1
- Expanded x Ep. 383 - The Return to Magic: How to Cut Through the Noise and Get Your Spark Back
- Expanded x Ep. 376 - Dr. Tara Swart on Signs from the Other Side: Love, Loss, and Connection Beyond Death
- Expanded x Ep. 330 - How To Be Seen & Grow Your Career Authentically with Courtney Johnson
- Check out Erica Mallett’s concept of Cringe Mountain
- Ep. 380 - Taking a Leap of Faith and Learning Surrender: The Process with Jenna Zoe
- Learn more about the To Be Magnetic Manifestation process! HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill)
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HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips
(with exercises by Jessica Gill)
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The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM’s Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.
At TBM, we’ve redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.
Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you’ll learn how to:
– Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth
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– Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth
– Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true self
With over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you’re meant to live.
Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest.
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