Addict's Messy Marriage

I recently read an article that has a great definition of humility. Listen as I work through this in my life. Article mentioned in podcast: https://12stepphilosophy.org/2018/01/29/humility-defense-mechanisms-and-the-false-self/

Walk with me as I explore the desire for control and look at the things I can control versus the things I cannot control. We just finished the holidays and I know families are on a lot of peoples minds. Recognizing we cannot control who our families are, what they do and how they think. We can only control our selves and our response to others actions. I know for me these lessons on control will be a life long journey but I think it is always beneficial to take a look at these truths as often as we can.

Most books and counseling focus on improving marriages by working together on fixing issues but the issue with this is that both the addict and the spouse bring a lot of junk from their past into the marriage. This sometimes prevents marriages from improving. So, walk with me as I talk about improving myself to improve my marriage.

To listen to my interview on Castimonia podcast please click below: Castimonia Purity Podcast Episode 75: Conversation with Brad from "Addict's Messy Marriage" Podcast -- Castimonia.org on Apple Podcasts. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-addiction-pornography-sexual-purity-castimonia/id1127067121?i=1000458463941

Have you ever considered your values? Do your values match where you spend your time? Listen as I walk through my values and the discrepancy with where I spend my time.

Pride is something I had to deal with in recovery to establish any sort of sobriety. But, Pride I have realized is something that does not go away easily and still finds it way into my marriage and my relationship with my kids. Listen as I explore pride in my marriage and my family.

There are so many benefits from having connections and being part of a community. Yet, for myself and most addicts, true healthy connections are some of the hardest to come by. Listen as I look into the difficulties of making connections and the need for community in my life.

Have you ever gotten to the end of an argument and you forgot what you were originally arguing about. For me, this is what happens when I get emotionally triggered and shut down. Walk with me as I explore a recent "discussion" with my wife and what I learned from the experience.

Rigorous honesty is a term I have heard since day one of recovery but it continuous to grow and I continue to see the need for it in other areas of my life, especially in marriage. Walk with me as I explore rigorous honesty in my marriage and see how it can benefit the long term success of my marriage.

We are told a lot of things about emotions. Don't follow your emotions because they lie to you or if you stuff your emotions you will explode. All of these points have truth but what if under lying everything our emotions are trying to tell us something about what we believe. Listen as I explore this in my own life.

İt is interesting how fast resentments can turn me into a horrible irritable person. Listen as I walk through a series of resentments and how they affected me and my family.