ADHD Realities

Desire is a powerful force in our intimate lives, and when you add ADHD into the mix, understanding it becomes even more crucial. In this episode, I sit down with Natassia Miller to dive deep into all things desire from what it is, the common misconceptions, and how hormones influence our experiences. We’ll also discuss the role of communication in navigating intimacy and explore creative ways to make playtime more inviting. Whether you have ADHD or love someone who does, this episode is packed with insights to help you better understand and embrace desire in your relationships. For more information on Natassia: IG: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller Website: https://www.wonderlust.co Intimacy Deck (Use code LEANN15): https://www.wonderlust.co/intimacy-card-deck Art of Sexual Desire Masterclass: https://www.wonderlust.co/desire-masterclass

In this episode, we’re diving into the fascinating connection between ADHD, BDSM, and sensation seeking. If you’ve ever wondered why your ADHD brain craves intensity, novelty, and deep sensory experiences, this one’s for you! We’ll explore how BDSM can provide the structure, stimulation, and dopamine rush that many ADHDers naturally seek, whether it’s through impact play, power dynamics, or sensory exploration. Shockingly, there is no published research directly examining the link between ADHD and BDSM....yet. My upcoming research could be the first to shine a light on this connection and what it means for ADHDers exploring kink. In this episode, we’ll break down the myths, discuss the importance of consent and communication, and share how embracing your unique wiring can lead to a more fulfilling sex life.

In this episode of ADHD Realities, we’re tackling a topic that doesn’t get talked about enough; porn use, compulsive behaviors, and how ADHD plays a role. As ADHDers, our brains crave dopamine, and that can sometimes lead to patterns of porn consumption that feel hard to manage. We’ll break down the myths, explore how ADHD and impulsivity intersect with porn use, and discuss when it becomes a problem. Plus, we’ll talk about self compassion, healthy boundaries, and how partners can navigate this together.

Many of us with ADHD experience sensory processing challenges, and these don’t simply switch off during playtime. This is a common theme not only in my personal life but also in my work with clients in my clinical practice. It’s important to remember that both ADHD and sensory processing exist on a spectrum, meaning experiences can vary widely from person to person. The goal of this episode is to provide insight and empowerment, helping you become more mindful of whether sensory processing challenges might be contributing to any disconnect in your playtime.

 I am feeling all the feels this week as I reflect all the workI am doing with my clients and the continued work on my research. On this episode I take the opportunity to just spew my thoughts in a chaotic way (leaning into my ADHD loud and proud). I go over the impact of desire discrepancies in our relationships and how perimenopause/ menopause can make things harder when we are not empowered with the knowledge and support to help set our relationships and playtime up for success. Dr. Laurie Mintz- Becoming Cliterate: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062664557/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1VBQRTF58KM6A&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.7Zoopr6zcZWdvAdpddlzSChstRbVELREugIQZJdAHvQcPHY-ihgTA0skOQlFW-v0yiMLzCG-Whu6HtCPaRJCcQ.koAHm_G8YWLvEDGAEcOKSHavYBFfx4KnXj5LwCk49WQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=becoming+cliterate+dr.+laurie+mintz+book&qid=1737992751&sprefix=becoming+cliterate%2Caps%2C127&sr=8-1 Dr. Emily Nagoski- Come Together: https://www.amazon.com/Come-Together-Science-Creating-Connections-ebook/dp/B0BHCYHKS2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3U19WI1E8EX7H&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.sZ3DEDRnUISgyeIJHrrVruEmK9kNa0VEAt1UqeLaghnnXVNuWzO0hPhABN6xMzh3Y3bNx4wXNTykMwG-ZguUlFDf0SX2XOG4WIxrgRnecpypdgIMxvmVKyj451dWr5nojxBr-wRhSFIi0DsfTh2Ho-qAdeHpp2z3Y__ke0GXcoYehm79tIGihPri4Bd6n-By9be89tTweD7O4z4UQQxPY8pRTl-jJasMDi0M39cVliw.MSMVpMroHqqSEOEEqdUK2uYs08eme7vWi3KzmYV9LUQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=come+together+emily+nagoski%2C+phd&qid=1737992779&sprefix=come+together+%2Caps%2C95&sr=8-1 Dr. Mary Claire Haver- The New Menopause: https://www.amazon.com/New-Menopause-Navigating-Through-Hormonal/dp/059379625X/ref=sr_1_3?crid=8658T46NRYNF&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.eUOWa_TN0sXbFLm_ms-bN-BpNzAoaMx6G1TjuQWVueldEf8fwvLIISpxO5Ho2d37uArNcMQ1P35nGCzWEvSrhP5AZloLq6JijA7yfSkXH8yAOHDjJi-akKaz8EDv7sWMDnzY5ic4oo4_FHNvaMObH1hQfDt6tTC7E1pi-mva_tYn5FkvPR5GKLCdgq7JMQ9DHNuVywXezteZWu2CJngPyNcHDAeF9R7YZqsfZfWEz8w.pt-hI8R1Y7yrDZMunDyNRCX6B_u8Vee-DxW6vVCd-nQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=new+menopause+book&qid=1737992834&sprefix=new+meno%2Caps%2C172&sr=8-3 Desire Cards- Use code LEANN15- https://www.wonderlust.co/intimacy-card-deck

I’ve noticed that hypersexuality can be a hot topic, but unfortunately, it’s often misunderstood. There’s actually quite a bit of research out there about ADHD and its connections, but I’m concerned about how ADHD is sometimes unfairly blamed for hypersexuality. So, I’d love for you to join me in this 20-minute episode as I dive into what we know about ADHD and hypersexuality, and share some of my thoughts and concerns on the matter. Here is a link to a recent 2024 article used as a source to the information discussed in this video: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science...

In this episode, I'm excited to chat about something that’s been causing quite a stir in our community: the difference between intimacy and sex, and the frustrations professionals have around it. Intimacy is such a vital part of our relationships, and it’s super important for us ADHD women to feel empowered and confident in expressing our needs, especially during playtime. A lot of folks might not stop to think about how expectations can shape our experiences especially when we talk about ADHD, but I’m here to share why they’re so crucial for our satisfaction in intimacy and playtime.

Let't get into how ADHD plays a role in playtime and some steps to help you make playtime more enjoyable again. 

Episode 1:  Let's chat about something really important, ADHD and low desire. We all know that living with ADHD can come with its own set of challenges, and I want to share some common stressors that I've noticed among my clients dealing with low desire.