We often hear how unrecognized or untreated ADHD affects adults who have it. But what about the partners who live with them—especially when symptoms go unmanaged for years?

In this episode, I (Gina Pera) share a critical post from the ADHD Roller Coaster blog, spotlighting the hidden emotional, physical, and psychological toll that poorly managed ADHD can take on partners. I revisit my groundbreaking ADHD Partner Survey from 2004–2006 and connect those findings to a new 2025 study that finally validates what thousands of partners have long reported: chronic stress, depression, anxiety, and a declining quality of life.

We’ll explore:

• How ADHD-driven behaviors erode partner well-being over time
• Why early coping strategies often backfire
• What the latest research says—and why it matters now more than ever
• How to move from silent suffering to strategic action

If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s “you” or “the relationship,” this episode is for you. Because when ADHD is in the mix, understanding what’s really going on is the first step toward healing—for both of you.

🔗  Read the blog post version:

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Solving Your Adult ADHD Puzzle
For adults with ADHD and their partners. Includes expert video lessons and optional peer Q&A Zooms.

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Thanks for listening!
—Gina Pera

🔗 About My Work: https://adhdrollercoaster.org/about-gina-pera/