AgilEmpath

Season 4 Episode 3

Parking Day Knox 2020

Season 4 Episode 2

Download Wharton’s guide here.

PDF from Deloitte: Welcome to Generation Z

“ When we choose to be grateful, we tap into our natural design. Research on the effects gratitude has on our biology shows how being thankful increases our longevity, our ability to use our imagination, and our ability to problem-solve, it also improves our overall health.” ~Dr. Caroline Leaf

There are multiple studies on the benefits of gratitude and it is now being called a science. As a Christian I have often referred to the Scripture, “in everything give thanks.” 1 Thess 5:18. Now science has proven the Bible!

How have you been taught about gratitude in your religion, belief system, values & culture?

To practice gratitude remember the following:

Create an attitude of gratitude to carry daily.

Think about what you say before you say it.

Journal 3 things daily you are thankful for.

Email/text/message someone telling them how grateful you are they are in your life!

#fridaymindsetchallenge

Suzanne Jones & Alexia Georghiou converse about communication techniques that will heal our nation. Interesting collaboration among two women who think very differently about some politics and religious views. What we have in common is virtue of respect, gratitude, & humility. This is what matters most! We can never change one another's minds. We can empathize, listen and help meet one another's needs of validation through listening. We all need to be and feel heard. This will heal the divide.

Receive a free download of the e-book, Handbook for Communication in the 21st Century by Suzanne Jones HERE

“ When you choose to develop a mindset that allows you to perceive possibilities, the wired for love design of the brain is activated to respond, and attempts become possibilities rather than failures.” ~Dr. Caroline Leaf

We chose the photo to help us contemplate on how much is actually possible. What determines our success in a difficult situation, is whether we will truly believe there are multiple possibilities. Often due to stress, we can only have tunnel vision seeing one light at the end. In life just as there are many options to daily decisions that we make, there is also possibility on a level we may not be able to comprehend.

How to enable this practice in thought:

Deliberately see possibilities in every situation writing it down.

Attempts are possibilities, not failures.

We have creative power in our mind to design blueprints of these possibilities.

#fridaymindsetchallenge

The Tips

1. You are here because you have something to say. a. Whether this is for speaking to your family, team, company, a large audience, place of

worship as a leader/guest speaker; you are here for a reason. b. Do you get interrupted? Are you talked over? c. The key to effective communication is listening and most people don’t know how.

i. Effective communicators listen to others first

* What is being said

* How it is being said

a. Non-verbal communication up to 93%

* Tone of voice

* Body language

2. Speaking is a skill a. Anytime we have an opportunity to speak with others is practice

* Think about a zoom meeting

* A conversation with a stranger in public

* A customer service agent

Practice every time!

3. It’s for them a. Be other minded

* What do you want/need to convey to others?

* How will they receive it?

* Connection is key

* Emotional connection with the audience

* Means they can relate somehow

4. We all have a story

a. Look at their non-verbal communication

* Are the arms crossed?

* Faces flushed?

* Shaking head

* Tapping foot

5. Tell your story

Ask them, what is the story you heard?

Psychodiagnostics tells us where they are at Adjust to their perceptionTell it another way

Remember public speaking is for them

“Our goal for positive change and success should last a lifetime.” ~Dr. Caroline Leaf

Neuroplasticity is the reorganization of the brain in response to various sensory experiences. Research shows developing new habits takes cycles of 63 days minimum. We are in a fast food world where we expect automatic results. Mindset work is just that, work. This is like a physical exercise routine. We cannot walk into the gym today for the first time and lift 500 pounds without becoming seriously injured.

What about time?

Find your flow, paying attention to one task with full focus, making good use of time.

Self care is a productive use of time as you are important!

Remember habits take 63 days to build with consistent application.

Be patient with yourself with self-compassion.

#fridaymindsetchallenge

“Forgiveness does not deny pain or wrongdoing; it is a choice to let go of the person who hurt you.” ~Dr. Caroline Leaf

A Mayo Clinic study found people who held grudges had increased muscle tension, feelings of being less in control, with elevated blood pressure and heart rates. The researchers asked the participants to imagine forgiving the person who harmed them. They reported feeling more positive and relaxed with a greater sense of well-being.

What are the steps to forgive?

Acknowledge the pain you are feeling.

Look at the other person’s life and context considering what they have and are experiencing.

This is a decision to make and it takes time to heal.

#fridaymindsetchallenge

“The first step in controlling emotions is to recognize that you have control over your emotions. The second step is to realize that you are not responsible for the cause of the emotion but rather for the management of the emotion.” ~Dr. Caroline Leaf

There is a natural flow in our human system when we express our emotions in a healthy way instead of repressing them thus stopping this flow. We learn to hide emotions due to social norms in various settings throughout our lives. Social Cognitive & Affective Neuroscience teaches us there is an effect on our body and mind due to repression and expression of emotions. The key is to regulate the emotions that occur. What does this process look like?

Recognize you have control over your emotions.

We are responsible for the management of the emotion, not the cause.

Feel your emotions, talk about them or journal, making a decision to balance out the negative with what is going well and the feelings that arise.

#fridaymindsetchallenge