**Trigger warning - contains talk of suicide & suicidal thoughts**

Aled from How's Dad discusses his work in creating spaces for dads to talk openly about mental health and bond with their children.

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The conversation touches on the lack of support for fathers' mental health, the importance of fathers in child development, and the societal expectations placed on men. Aled shares his own experience of a mental health breakdown and a suicide attempt, highlighting the need to address these issues openly and honestly.

The conversation also explores the cultural pressure on men in Wales to conform to traditional masculine stereotypes. Aled shares his experience of having suicidal thoughts and attempting to take his own life. He discusses the recurring nightmares he had about sacrificing himself to protect his family and the intense feelings of not being enough as a husband and father.

Aled reflects on the moment he almost went through with his suicide attempt but was stopped by his son's unexpected display of affection. He emphasizes the importance of talking about mental health and the need to challenge societal expectations of masculinity. Russ also acknowledges the impact his actions had on his wife and family and the ongoing journey of forgiveness and self-acceptance. Aled shares his regret about his suicide attempt but also expresses gratitude for still being alive and using his negative experience as a positive force to support others.

He discusses the concept of post-traumatic growth and how he has found purpose in his life by helping other fathers who may be in a similar position. Aled emphasises the importance of reaching out for support and encourages others to take a few minutes to talk to someone before making impulsive decisions. He also highlights the need to break the stigma around mental health and urges people to be open and unashamed about their struggles.