Aligned and Alive

Sheena Yap Chan is a podcaster who has interviewed over 500 woman on what it takes to be confident. She shares with us how to cultivate confidence in our lives, what confidence means to her, and the common thread that she's noticed has run through all 500 women she's interviewed.

To connect with Sheena, visit her website www.thetaoofselfconfidence.com

To join the Aligned and Alive facebook community and participate in "Money March": www.facebook.com/groups/alignedandalive

Renee M. Powers inspires us to embrace failure and let go of other's expectations. She teaches us how to prioritize self-care in the after affects of a traumatic experience. We talk about what feminism means to us, and if we think our husbands are feminists.

To visit the show notes: www.alliowen.com/renee

To join our community: www.facebook.com/groups/alignedandalive

Both Renee and I are currently burning our entire lives down..

"You Gotta Burn it To Build it Back up Again" -Alli

Renee is withdrawing from PhD Program

We talk about doing things for your parents, approval of others

How to explain decisions to other people that they might not understand

Prioritizing mental health

[bctt tweet="When you're vulnerable and you admit that this isn't a healthy choice for me, people will come to your support. And the ones who don't come to your support are the ones you didn't need in the first place."]

What feminism means to us

[bctt tweet="Leaving the phd program was the feminist choice because it allows me to stretch my wings and work with women who I want to work with- Renee"]

What to do if the word feminist scares you-- how to know if you identify as a feminist

Share feminist resources:

Feministing.com

Everydayfeminist.com

Xojane.com

Bustle.com

Bitchmagazine.com

How to explain to men what feminism is….and talking about if we think our husbands are feminists

Quotes from Belle Hookes - Ain't I a woman, feminism is for everybody….

"Simply put, feminism is a movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation, and oppression. This was a definition of feminism I offered in Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center more than 10 years ago. It was my hope at the time that it would become a common definition everyone would use. I liked this definition because it did not imply that men were the enemy. By naming sexism as the problem it went directly to the heart of the matter. Practically, it is a definition which implies that all sexist thinking and action is the problem, whether those who perpetuate it are female or male, child or adult. It is also broad enough to include an understanding of systemic institutionalized sexism. As a definition it is open-ended. To understand feminism it implies one has to necessarily understand sexism."

Transwomen of color is the highest minority murder rate in this country

[bctt tweet="The issue is not just equal pay and the #metoo movement, it's life or death for a lot of people"]

When those people feel safe in this world, everyone will feel safe in the world

#METOO or #AMINEXT?

Why self-care is so important- especially in times of "burning down your life" phases

We have to be firing on all cylinders in order to bounce back from trauma

Self-care is identifying your base needs and then prioritizing them.

There is no shame in calling in your troops

We rise by picking each other up

How to find your chosen family

Renee's favorite book: Flowers for Algernon by Daniel Keys

Where to find Renee:

Website

Instagram

Facebook

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In this episode, Alli breaks down what gossip does to relationships.

She talks about how it feels in our bodies, gives us practical tips on how to stop gossipping less and how to shut down gossip when we see it happening. She opens up about her personal experiences with gossip and shares opinions of others whom she respects like Gabrielle Union and Aubrey Marcus.

To visit the full show notes: www.allio.co/gossip

To join the facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/alignedandalive

Dr. Liz Blomstedt is one of my very best friends who also happens to be brilliantly minded in faith, life, and love. In this episode we talk about:

Liz's story- divorce, faith, coming into her own, finishing a PhD program

4:45 Moving to a new city when you know no one and finding new friends and choosing your friend group intentionally

6:20 Would you recommend anyone move to a city that they know no one? Bravery

[bctt tweet="Bravery is sometimes a conscious choice, and sometimes it's the only choice"]

9:30 Losing friends, finding your true tribe (even if they don't agree with what you're doing)

11:15 Backstory about Christianity- Alli admitting she is judgmental, some people may not think she's a Christian

12:45 Maintaining Christian faith through a divorce - Liz had to define faith for herself for the first time

14:25 Confidence in seeking answers for self within faith

[bctt tweet="Shame never teaches anyone anything...shame over sex before marriage...shame over divorce...recognizing that we've all fallen short and we all need grace + forgiveness"]

[bctt tweet="Choices are right for you in the moment, and you learn something from them"]

19:00 Our mutual love of Glennon Doyle

23:00 Sarah Bessey- "Jesus Feminist" Churches should be made up of different people with different beliefs

24:00 how to find a church when you feel like you don't fit in at any of them

25:00 Rachel Held Evans- Searching for Sunday - how to be a liberal christian

30:00 recommendations for someone considering a divorce. Cheryl Strayed advice column- "Tiny Beautiful Things"

33:00 Choosing to tell the story for yourself

34:30 Advice on how to know if your partner is the one

37:00 Getting married because that's what everyone else is doing

41:30 when to know if you're ready to get married

41:45 how can a friend support another friend through a divorce

44:30 how is the church treating women

46:30 Masculine energy from the church, anti-emotionality

48:00 So many instances of women being told to forgive being used as an excuse to not talk about larger issues

51:00 advice for someone struggling in their faith and disillusioned with the church

[bctt tweet="God uses imperfect people including you and including people in churches that hurt you"]

To view the full show notes visit, www.allio.co/episode4

To join the Facebook community, https://www.facebook.com/groups/alignedandalive/

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Rachael Maddox is a trauma resolution educator, coach, and guide. In this episode we discuss:

1:30 Trauma as a violation hangover

430 Defining the range of trauma

7:30 Violation dysregulates our connection to the healthy thing

[bctt tweet="Neglect dysregulates our connection to a sense of healthy worthiness - I am worthy of love and belonging…"]

8:30 So it creates a hyper or a hypo response

10:30 Using affirmations -- affirmations are something that flower after deep work has been done. You can't start on the outside and force the change on the inside

11:30 Body based trauma work - asking your body what it needs to feel physically and emotionally safe

13:00 Boundaries and Belonging Game-

[bctt tweet="The reason we don't say no is because we think it's going to kick us out of connection"]

18:00 How setting boundaries has changed her friendships

21:00 What happens if we don't heal from trauma

It's ok to trust your sense of readiness or not readiness instead of forcing yourself to go into unsafe territory

24:00 How to help a friend or loved one who has gone through trauma

[bctt tweet="Our bodies have a natural blueprint of health. People's resistance in the world of trauma is trustworthy resistance."]

27:40 First steps to heal from trauma...tune in with your body. If my body were in charge of my healing, where would it take me?

29:40 Feeling safe enough to fall apart

[bctt tweet="Sometimes trauma healing starts when it's safe enough, sometimes it happens when its bad enough"]

32:00 Rachael's thoughts on the #MeToo movement

33:00 Collective trauma, women are really investing in their healing...lots of healing to be had between the sexes

35:00 Tools for healing from collective trauma...self-regulation

36:45 Ecstatic dance - Five Rhythms Gabrielle Roth- flowing, staccato, chaos, lyrical, stillness. Each rhythm you access a different part of yourself

40:00 Teaching consent in a group setting

45:00 how to teach consent to teenagers

48:30 Sex After Trauma book

To view the full page show notes visit www.allio.co/episode3

Join the facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/alignedandalive/

To connect with Rachael on Instagram: @rachaelmaddox

To visit Rachael's website, www.rachaelmaddox.com.

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"We can have positive and negative relationships with food. But a pizza for example is not inherently bad. From my perspective that is just giving the pizza so much power and i just feel that the power should be with the individual" -Jocelyn Zahn

In this episode, we talk with holistic health coach Jocelyn Zahn on her journey from orthorexia and into self-love. She also shares her struggles with depression and how she manages her mental health holistically.

Some highlights include:

• How to help a friend with orthorexia or how to start helping yourself if you think you may have it
• Why wellness and health looks different for everyone
• How to help another friend with depression
• How can someone who doesn't have a mental illness be an advocate for mental illness

To find the full show notes visit www.allio.co/episode2

To take the alignment quiz visit www.allio.co

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Have you ever wondered if you are aligned in your life?

In this episode, Alli vulnerably shares her journey to alignment and finally coming alive in her own. She shares parts of her story as well as some practical tools for you to takeaway with you.

Alli appeared to have it all- the six figure job, the amazing partner, the house; but she felt off. She felt misaligned. It wasn't until she let go of society's expectations and came into her own was she able to finally reveal her purpose and come alive.

Practicing the alignment muscle is a habit we will all continue to grow throughout our lives, and Alli shares so practical tools to do so.

To take the alignment quiz, visit www.allio.co/quiz

To visit the full show notes, head to www.allio.co/podcast/1

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