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  • When The Coffee Isn’t Good

     

    I had a coffee nook  some years ago. I LOVED IT! My favorite place to visit first thing in the morning was this little spot in my kitchen. Half awake with blurry eyes and a groggy brain, my slippers dragged me toward the coffee nook. And much as I’d like, my French Press didn’t make coffee on its own. So, in a drowsy state, I found it’s best to wake up a bit before making coffee. All it takes is one miscalculation to ruin the coffee. Too much. Too little. Knocking it over. Forgetting cream or sugar. That’s when the coffee isn’t good.

    When The Coffee Isn’t Good

    To my faithful readers: I posted a portion of these reflection years ago. Some of you may remember. Because it was appreciated, I decided to republished. However, I’m going to breathe more content into it.

    Each day, we have opportunity to learn and grow. A daily, pro-active approach keeps life fresh. So, I want to share a bit more with you.

    Portions I Wrote – Plus New Reflections

    “I love my nifty silver and white personal coffee carafe. It makes a great brew every time. So, it’s dependable. Additionally, in my experience, it’s the “maker of the coffee” that creates a bad coffee experience. I did that once – well, a couple of times! But we must start at the beginning.”

    Here’s How The Brew Is Made

    Before sharing one of my tragedies – when the coffee isn’t good – it’s worth remembering how the brew is made in a personal carafe. It’s much like making a good cup of tea, if you prefer that over coffee.

    • One full scoop of rich coffee grounds in a personal-size carafe.
    • Add boiling water to carafe – half full, and stir. (Inhale. Anticipate.)
    • Wait a minute.
    • Stir again. (Look forward to your cuppa.)
    • Fill to top of carafe with more boiling water.
    • While waiting another minute or two, pour favorite creamer into a special morning mug to change the color of coffee to toffee. Soft and mellow. (Unless you love it black!)
    • If you like sweet, add a bit of sugar.
    • [It’s the experience of preparing this delightful beverage in my coffee nook that keeps this morning ritual special.]
    • Securely fasten the plunger lid and pour out . . . BUT . . .
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      . . . THIS BECAME ONE TIME WHEN THE COFFEE ISN’T GOOD! (Continuing my story)

       

      “So, I’m not yet fully awake, and my morning clumsiness pushes the plunger lid off center as I place it into the carafe! The rubber, non-slip-base of the carafe hugs the counter – and the off-balance plunger pushes the top of the carafe over. I manage a panicky, “Oh no!” as I witness the tragedy in “s-l-o w  –  m-o.”

      Straining for the tipping thermos, I just miss what could have been a glorious save! Too late. Wham! The whole carafe topples over. Beautiful steamy brown liquid flows into a lake over the counter with spreading clusters of coffee grounds. And I realize – this morning, the coffee isn’t good.

      What a mess!” 

      Re-living

      Have you ever had a tragedy happen – and you find yourself caught in an “instant replay loop” – re-living the awful moment? This re-living could happen in a small circumstance – like my coffee accident. But it can also accompany a major tragedy that reshapes your entire life!

      Sometimes, caught in that “re-live loop,” you find yourself wondering if it might be a bad dream. You might still wake up. But alas! The tragedy is real. I’m sure you’ve spent a little time in this loop.

      Consequently, you wonder what you could have done differently – better – to avoid the terrible thing as you re-live it again.  However, you eventually realize the best thing to do is go forward, clean-up, learn what you can, and grieve (if appropriate) for your loss.

      Some tragedies wound your heart for a long time. And when that happens, I suggest – Grieve genuinely! But then get up and do what must be done.

      What Did I Do With My Coffee Mess?

      Back to my coffee nook story . . . “After I acknowledge the coffee experience simply isn’t good this morning, I reject grogginess and face the challenge of clean-up. I grab a rag. Have you ever tried cleaning up a lake of coffee with coffee grounds? It’s awful. The grounds stick to the counter, not the rag. Tiny early-morning rebels remain all over – as testimony of what happened.

      Still, I keep working. Contain the mess. Absorb it. Gather up. Wring the rag out in the sink. Back to the mess to repeat those steps. I sandwich the grounds in the rag, pinching them into submission in the fold – and head for the sink – again and again. All my free morning minutes gone! Now – emergency speed to make another carafe and get ready for the day.

      I find myself thinking, “This isn’t at all what I had in mind for my morning,” as I hurry to my special chair with my cuppa to read the Scriptures. No leisure lingering today. Time ticks, and my commitments for the day remain. I hope maybe tomorrow the coffee will be better.”

      When The Coffee Isn’t Good – Reflections

      Thinking about that bad start, I realize – that’s how life is. Often on a much larger scale with infinitely more important issues, there are days – and even prolonged seasons – when the coffee isn’t good.

      That can happen even after you do your best work in life.

      Some examples:

      • You go into young adult life – or a new season as an already experienced adult – with hopes for helpful experiences and relationships.
      • You learn better action steps for successes.
      • It becomes easier to laugh at yourself as you learn and grow (if you’re humble).
      • Perspective is corrected as you shift focus from self onto Jesus, and then others.
      • Enjoyment of good things is a conscious choice each day.
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        But even after working hard to live well each day, life can take a fast turn, a twist, a completely new direction.

        Then comes the unexpected slam. The topple. An unforeseen mess. Without any preparation, you find yourself in shock, disappointment, and inner sadness. Perhaps you even engage a self-scolding.

        Yes – even after you adopt a daily, disciplined, pro-active approach that keeps life fresh, you can find yourself all over the counter in a lake of major life upset. That’s often when the “instant replay loop” starts. “If only . . . “

        The Inevitable Invitation

        Yet! – that inviting carafe with pour spout and plunger – even the rubber, non-slip base – still beckons, “Try again. It’s OK. I’m still here for the special morning cup ceremony.”

        Will you accept that invitation?

        This, too, – is how life is. An invitation into the future. There’s another kind of life cycle that’s much healthier than the “re-live loop.” It’s God’s continuous circle of love, mercy, and grace. He always invites you – “Come to Me all you who are weary and heavy-burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Mt. 11:28)

        God knows not every day goes well at the coffee nook. Between accidents, not having a clue, and outright sin – we need a fresh, new start many times.

        God Wants To Help

        God wants to help. He loves you deeply. And even when the coffee isn’t good, God is good! There’s nothing like starting the day in God’s coffee nook. In His presence –

         

        • Fill your personal carafe to the fill line with His hope.
        • Pour yourself into His safe, healing love.
        • Drink His fresh, daily brew of renewal with eager expectation.
        • Rest in His unique ability to help you clean-up messes.
        • Know the power of being forgiven and forgiving others.
        • Learn how to grieve genuinely! But then get up and do what must be done.
        • Commit to make the best of each day.
        • Establish a solid, non-slip base as your foundation in the Lord.
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          God redeems every tragedy and loss – for the person who trusts Him. He knows when the coffee isn’t good. And because HE IS GOOD, He knows how to redeem every life spill – big or small. He said, “I am making everything new.” (Rev. 21:5)

          He also nurtures a unique richness and depth in your soul from having experienced and survived tragedy. That undeserved work from God enhances your life.

          Will you accept the invitation to rise up from a spill?

          “Come near to God [in all your topples] and He will come near to you [to help in every way].” (Jas. 4:8)

          Application Thoughts And Questions
          1. What’s in your personal carafe – coffee, tea, chicory, cocoa, something else?
          2. Do you have a favorite coffee or tea nook? Think about that special place now.
          3. Have you ever thought of making that special place a point of worship where you connect with God for the up-coming day?
          4. What upset or life spill have you experienced? Have you grieved genuinely? And have you gotten up to do what must be done?
          5. Even if you don’t “feel” it, will you come close to God in your upset and trust His love, mercy, and grace?
          6. Do you believe God loves you deeply?
          7. How will you respond to God’s invitation to go into the future with hope?
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            This is a picture of my coffee nook from years ago. It still brings joy to my heart each time I remember it.

             

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            15 min
          9. It’s Your Choice

            Do you ever get tired of making choices? You make them all day long! If you had to keep track of all your choices, you’d have thousands to track. God gave choice to each individual. Yet choice also brings significant responsibility to make informed, good decisions.  Because choices can be overwhelming sometimes, you need support and assistance. Still, at the end of the day, it’s your choice. What will you do?

            It’s Your Choice

            “Choice” is an interesting word. Everyone seems to enjoy the ability to choose. Mostly, we think of the freedom to decide something. But it’s also a power and an opportunity. This content explores these three ideas surrounding choice.

            To make a good choice, you look at options, gather information, then make a selection. Whether that be where to go on vacation, what to wear a certain day, what meals to make, what time to get up each day, where to shop, how to spend your free time, what career to pursue, how to vote – just to name a few.

            Choice can reveal part of your personal uniqueness, too. Here are some examples:

            • Would you rather go for a walk – or get on exercise machines?
            • Watch a movie – or read a book?
            • How will you arrange your home, room, or desk?
            • Would you choose to speak at an event – or just attend?
            • Is your preference being in a crowd with lights and sound – or spending a quiet evening at home?
            • Do you like sunsets – or sunrises better?
            • Bold colors – or pastel?
            • A conversation with a friend about a topic – or contemplating the topic in your own mind?
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              Besides giving others a “peek” into your uniqueness, there are millions of “small personal choices” you make without thinking. Here are some examples:

              • Do you insist the toilet paper comes over the top of the roll – or hangs down the back from the bottom of the roll?
              • Is music best quiet-in-the-background – or LOUD?
              • Burgers – or pizza; pop – or water?
              • Do you like shirts folded in half – or in thirds?
              • Would you rather take a nap – or call a friend?
              • A night light – or dark when you sleep at night?
              • Do you like jelly beans – or chocolate?
              • Reading the news – or listening to it?
              • Grass cut short – or long?
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                So, you have freedom to make so many choices to express your unique person!

                Two More Kinds Of Choice

                So far, we’ve explored the freedom in our content. However, the word, “choice,” also means – “you have options.” As you select what you think is best, you solve your problem or address a need. To look at alternatives and pick one that seems best suited for a situation, an event, a relationship, or a responsibility – gives you power to make a difference. When you run out of options, you run out of power. Then, you simply hope for a “miracle,” or accept what happens outside your choice.

                Choice can also mean “excellent, superior, top-notch, of highest caliber” – the very best you have. To know you have opportunity to bring excellence into a situation enables you to be a pioneer of good things. Some people learn how to turn “regular” into “top-notch.” This means they have explored and found more, better choices to optimize their influence in a situation.

                Your Choice Matters

                What if we were to weave all three of these meanings together? Freedom. Power. Opportunity. Afterall, Scripture says, ” A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” (Eccl. 4:12)

                These three ideas can be woven into a helpful cord to run through your life when it’s your choice.

                God wants your life to make a difference. So, that also means – your choice matters! People through history have made choices that brought much good. Of course, many have also made choices that brought much evil. Yet, thankfully, enough made choices (often rather difficult) that made life better for others, for the world, and for themselves.

                Often choices are unrecorded, so they are anonymous. Still, choices make a difference. Some become famous for their choices – good or bad.

                The point remains – making a choice for the right reasons makes a difference. Therefore, every person can make life a bit better by using their freedom, power, and opportunities. God sees every small thing, and He will reward every good choice you make.

                Pause
                1. A pause helps evaluate the landscape of your decision.
                2. Further, it reveals there may be options you haven’t thought of previously.
                3. Also, a pause may alert you to the dangers or negative impacts of a choice.
                4. And finally, a pause lets you evaluate what you are about to do – and why!
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                  A pause makes a difference. Let’s explore the above four points.

                   

                  Evaluate The Landscape

                  To simply launch into a direction when it’s your choice is uninformed, at best,- and reckless, at worst. Yet, we’ve all done this at some point. So, it’s wise to learn how to evaluate the landscape around your choice. What is actually needed is more important than what will make you feel good or make something go away. This valuable gem is learned in a pause as you look at the whole scenario impacting your decision.

                  After evaluating the landscape, some of the most difficult decisions must be made. Often it’s for the best of the majority or another person. And sometimes it’s for the best of YOU! God will give you wisdom as you evaluate the landscape when it’s your choice.

                  Options You Haven’t Thought Of Previously

                  When you take time to pensively consider all the options, you often discover an option you haven’t thought of previously. This ability to see further down the road is learned in a pensive pause.

                  Consequently, it’s often these kinds of options that change the very trajectory of a situation. And often a change of direction is needed. Thinking new thoughts while developing and applying fresh approaches brings so much hope to life. God will give you wisdom as you entertain options you haven’t thought of previously when it’s your choice.

                  Alert To Dangers Or Negative Impacts

                  Only when you pause do you become alert to dangers or negative impacts hiding in the shadows of a decision. When it’s your choice, you need to be aware of what you can’t always see. I suggest prayer is critical to avoid pitfalls.

                  Even when you become an experienced decision-maker, the dangers and negative impacts tend to be like hidden explosive mines placed where you least expect it. So, it’s critical to trust God’s Spirit. God will give you wisdom as you work to grow increasingly alert to dangers or negative impacts when it’s your choice.

                  Evaluate What You Are About To Do – And Why

                  Unfortunately, too many people don’t stop long enough in the busy-ness and demands of life to evaluate what they are about to do. And even fewer pensively consider why they do something! But as any good thinker will tell you – it’s critical to know the “what” and “why.” So, always explore the “what” and “why.”

                  Subsequently, as you consider what you are about to do, you can side-step mistakes or even a simple mis-step. That’s part of being a wise person. And the person who knows “why” they are doing something good has power that comes from God, who is good. Mk. 10:18 and Lk. 18:19 both say, “Why do you call Me good?” Jesus answered. “No one is good—except God alone.”

                  So, teaming-up with the Lord about “why” provides exceptional understanding! God will give you wisdom as you evaluate what you are about to do – and why – when it’s your choice.

                  The Joy Of Choice

                  When you experience the freedom, power, and opportunity of making good choices, you notice a certain joy rising in your heart. And you also sense – even when stakes are high – you feel more comfortable when it’s your choice. Did you notice those two terms? Comfort and Joy! What a lovely development! The Scriptures say, “I will turn their mourning into gladness. I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow.” (Jer. 31:13)

                  Incidentally, Jer. 31:3 says, “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” So, even as you face all kinds of challenges when it’s your choice, you can have joy. You’re not alone! God loves you and wants to help.

                  Application Thoughts And Questions

                  1. When it’s your choice, do you remember God loves you and wants to help?
                  2. Have you been approaching your decisions with freedom, power, and opportunity?
                  3. Do you take time to evaluate the landscape?
                  4. Are you open to options you haven’t thought of previously?
                  5. Are you alert to dangers or negative impacts?
                  6. Do you pause to evaluate what you are about to do – and why?
                  7. Have you discovered comfort and joy when it’s your choice?
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                    Visit our website for devotional materials, articles, podcasts, and resources to help grow your faith in God. Pursue noble character and an Alive and Active Life.

                    15 min
                  9. Be A Friend Back

                    You’ve experienced this, and so have I! You reach to someone in friendship, but there’s no reach back. Most of the time, that’s OK. But sometimes, when your heart is more deeply invested in a person, it’s painful when they don’t want to be a friend back. You just have to accept it. I think there are practical take-aways from this scenario as we consider our relationship with God.

                    Be A Friend Back

                    So, let’s just take a moment to reflect:

                    • Who are a couple of your closest friends?
                    • Why do you connect well with them?
                    • What do you like about the reciprocation of your friendship?
                    • Is there a person in your life you wish you could have connected with, but it didn’t work out?
                    • Why do you suspect some friendships never develop?
                    • What happens in your heart as you accept the sad reality – it isn’t happening?
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                      Factors Of A Friend

                      Have you considered critical factors involved to be a friend back to someone? Let’s start a list, and you can add your own:

                      1. This person is authentically themselves . . . comfortable in their own skin.
                      2. Your friend is unique and loves being so.
                      3. They care about you genuinely – asking about you, checking-in with you, want to hear from you.
                      4. Your friend wants to hear from your heart – your feelings, thoughts, and ideas.
                      5. You enjoy the creative way(s) this person interacts with you.
                      6. They care about things that really matter – to you, personally, and broadly in the world.
                      7. This person works hard to be the best person they can be, and they admit when they are wrong or need to grow.
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                        Those are things you appreciate in another person and how they interact with you. Now – a question for you. Are you investing in this manner in your special relationships? Are you working diligently to be a friend back?

                        Be A Friend Back To God

                        It’s reasonably possible to contemplate relationships with other people. But it’s harder to pensively explore relationship with God. Generally, most people know what God has said, promises He’s made, as well as commands and principles He’s put into place.

                        But what about the somewhat mysterious nature of deep, rich connection between God and you? Do you ever think about that? Additionally, have you pondered what kind of person you want/need to be as a friend to God?

                        I suppose the first place to begin is this. God has sincerely invited you to be His friend. He authentically, yet quite simply, declares His desire in Jn. 15:15. “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.”

                        This verse deserves some exploration!

                        I Have Called You Friends

                        Did you know this is God’s intention between you and Him? Do you believe God wants to be your friend? And even more critical to answer – do you want to be a friend back to God?

                        We are all servants of God. Scripture makes that clear in many places. But Jesus adds an incredible element to the relationship between God and man. Friendship. And He calls you His treasured child. No longer does He call you a servant. He desires to share His heart with you! He also wants to share His plans and methods with you! And even more incredible – He wants to share His very life with you – forever!

                        So, What Do You Say In Return?

                        Have you wrestled with this reality? Have you honestly considered being a friend back to God? And if so, have you also considered how that should impact your thoughts, words, attitudes, actions – your very life?

                        Scripture names several of God’s dear friends. If you’ve spent time in His Word, you’ve read about these folks. An example of a friend of God was in a recent article – “Accomplish Your Purpose: Helpful Steps.” Enoch walked with God in friendship.

                        Another example is Abraham. Jas. 2:23 says, “Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,” and he was called God’s friend.” God’s friend! That is so awesome! Wouldn’t you love that to be true of your life? Well, it can be. That’s where we’re headed in this content.

                        How To Be A Friend Back To God

                        Let’s look at an informative Scripture passage for practical action steps to be a friend back to God.

                        Ps. 105: 3-5 is one of my favorite instructional passages. I’ve committed it to memory and received much guidance in my attempts to be a friend back to God. Let me share it with you.

                        “Glory in His Holy Name. Let the hearts of those who seek the Lord rejoice. Look to the Lord and His strength. Seek His face always. Remember the wonders He has done – His miracles, and the judgments He pronounced.”

                        Phrase By Phrase

                        Now we need to weigh-in on each phrase of this passage. It’s exciting! I’ll use questions and observations to dig into each:

                        1. Glory in His Holy Name.

                        As you start each day, do you glory in God’s Holy Name? Literally: “wallow in it?” Is there reverence in your heart as you approach daily challenges, work in your career, and interact with family and friends? Do you “park in God’s glory” with eager expectation?

                        2. Let the hearts of those who seek the Lord rejoice.

                        Did you know by choosing to rejoice in the Lord proves you mean business about seeking Him? How often Scripture commands to – give thanks, rejoice, be grateful. This condition of your heart is necessary if you are going to pursue God back. Have you remembered that He first pursued you?

                        3. Look to the Lord and His strength.

                        You surely must have days like me! You feel tired. Worn-out. Sometimes beaten down. Just plain-old “done!” Yes, this is the human experience over time in our fallen, broken world. AND – this is exactly when to look directly to the Lord! PLUS, look directly to His strength. Ask Him for more of Him and more of His strength wherever you are in life. He invites you.

                        4. Seek His face always.

                        This phrase has been a favorite for decades! It underscores God deeply wants relationship with you. Rich, intimate friendship. Why seek “the face?” Well, when you are in safe company – a treasured relationship – you easily, unashamedly, confidently look into that person’s face. That’s how to approach God – after you’ve confessed wrongs, repented, and made your heart right with God through the blood of Jesus. Remember – He’s still God!

                        5. Remember the wonders He has done – His miracles, and the judgments He pronounced.

                        And this is part of His “God-ness” that clues-you-in to His power. As you reflect on who God is – and how He (unthinkably) offers friendship to you – remember His miracles! Amazing things God has done through all history. Then remember the judgments He pronounced. A person survives the holiness of God because of His mercy and grace, culminating at the cross of Christ. So – remember BOTH His miracles and judgments.

                        More “Friend” Pointers

                        There’s another Scripture that gives essential guidance to be a friend back to God. “The friendship of God is for those who fear Him.” (Ps. 25:14) And Prov. 9:10 announces, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.” These two verses bring into proper perspective our amazing opportunity to be a friend back to God. He is still God! That requires a kind of “sculpted” approach back to Him.

                        The fact that He has honored you to be His child is outdone only by His unfathomable offer of friendship. But, He is still God! And that means it is you (and me) who must change, carve away, revamp, alter, and re-think how we live and respond back to Him.

                        So, the sculpting approach to God takes place in this:

                        • To be a friend back to God means to fear Him. Properly defined, “the fear of the Lord” is a very positive and safe choice. I again refer you to “Accomplish Your Purpose: Helpful Steps,” which gives an in-depth and accurate look at the term – “the fear of the Lord.” It’s really a precious gift from God to you. (Ps. 25:14 verse above)
                        • If you want a successful life and to function with wisdom – it all starts by responding back to God in “the fear of the Lord.” (Prov. 9:10 verse also above)
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                          Application Thoughts And Questions
                          1. How badly do you want God’s friendship?
                          2. Are you committed to serve Him and love Him with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength? (Mk. 12:30; Lk. 10:27)
                          3. What should you change to be a friend back to God?
                          4. Is your love for God divided? What affections/pleasures/priorities do you need to “lose” to put God central in your life?
                          5. Are you joyfully living in “the fear of the Lord?” Or does that idea push you away from Him?
                          6. As you relate to God in friendship and as His child, do you always do so in the context that He is still God?
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                            I strongly encourage you to read “Accomplish Your Purpose” for rich concepts and practical action steps!

                            Visit our website for devotional materials, articles, podcasts, and resources to help grow your faith in God. Pursue noble character and an Alive and Active Life.

                            16 min
                          8. When Your Relationship With God Shifts

                            I’m guessing you’ve had at least one time in your life when you felt your relationship with God was good. Maybe not. But for myself, I’ve had several seasons where lots of things shifted, like seasons of the year. Truly, all relationships keep changing. So, it’s reasonable to expect your relationship with God to shift. Is that normal? Good or bad? This content explores how to stay healthy when your relationship with God shifts in a complicated world.

                            Relationship Shifts

                            What causes relationship shifts? What changes? Sometimes it’s impossible to answer those questions. Relationships are complicated. But they are critical to be a healthy person, and they are part of God’s original design. Consequently, it’s important to spend time and energy on your most important relationships.

                            Examples of Why Relationships Shift:
                            1. Relationships shift because people shift. Every person undergoes change every day. That means all their connections with others will encounter the effects of those changes.
                            2. Community interactions and career responsibilities change to meet the demands/needs of various groups/teams.
                            3. Provisions shift continually. If you are a farmer or gardener, you know every year the harvest is somehow different from previous years.
                            4. Availability shifts. Time and schedule demands affect each day. The unexpected often pays a visit.
                            5. Health and well-being can shift. Conditions and diseases come and go – and they must be managed. This takes energy and time, so every connecting relationship experiences some effect of those shifts.
                            6. If you work in a dentist or doctor office – or a business with clients, it goes without saying your day will have constant shifting with patients and with various clients. Every patient/client has unique needs. So, your plan for them will also shift.
                            7. When you plan a trip, you need to be flexible. At every turn, you’ll find something has shifted from your first plans. This involves many others (transportation, housing, meals, activities, etc.). Trip planning means change and flexibility.
                            8. The world is constantly shifting. Sometimes these are good shifts and other times they are terrible, even scary shifts. From politics to public health to international relationships to responses after natural disasters, etc.
                            9. Truly, everything in life changes. And that’s mostly a good thing. But what you and I need – and what the world is looking for – is something dependable, credible, that never changes. We need something reliable to build our ever-changing lives on.
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                              Further, since you are a person, and God is a person, your relationship will go through changes. So, when your relationship with God shifts, be alert, pensive, creative, and prayerful.

                              When Your Relationship With God Shifts

                              Although we’ve explored normal life shifting – and those shifts affect relationships – that’s not the focus of this content. I want to spend some time looking at legitimate things that affect progress, success, and stability of your relationship with God. And, of course, what we find will also affect all your relationships.

                              Let It Breathe

                              One helpful practice in all relationships is to “let it breathe.” So, this is true of your relationship with God. You will never know another person who is as flexible as God. In fact, flexibility is a good quality for you to pursue. People who practice being flexible, especially in relationships, often have stronger, healthier friendships and connections.

                              Life has rhythms. Ebb and flow. Continual change. But God’s principles stay the same even as life is constantly pulsating. So, by holding to His methods, you are stable – but you can also flow with life.

                              God “lets it breath” with you. However, do you “let it breath” with God? Or do you find yourself wanting to box God in? He doesn’t fit in a box. Plus, He doesn’t want you in a box, either. And finally, He doesn’t want you to box-up other people. His gift to all is – “let it breathe.”

                              Flex-And-Bend

                              Flex-and-bend is a bit like “let it breathe.” But the “add-on” piece is the ability to bend.

                              Being willing to flex-and-bend is a healthy strength. It opens more options and power needed to respond to a variety of life stimuli. However, this ability to bend results from a willingness to train in it. God provides the training. Life in our broken world provides the environment for the training.

                              Just like a young tree bends under the stress of extreme wind, pushing it out of normal form (upright) to an uncomfortable form (almost parallel to earth) – life threatens to break you sometimes. Those who learn to flex-and-bend are often healthier as individuals. And their relationships are healthier.

                              Bending with others’ lives shows a respect for their “differentness,” their needs, and unique life path. It also means you care more about their heart connected to yours (and vice-versa) than having everything neatly predictable. Further, it means you want what is best for them rather than what feels safe to you. You must flex-and-bend to have good relationships, and you want others to bend for you, too.

                              It’s very similar with God.

                              Something Important Doesn’t Change

                              There is one thing that never changes. As a result, you can rely on and build on this. What is this unchanging thing? It’s really a person. “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.” (Heb. 13:8) You’ve likely heard this before. But it’s a game-changer when applied to life.

                              Because Jesus is also the living Word of God, you can depend on Scripture (written Word) always giving solid advice. Mt. 24:35 says, “Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will never pass away.” (Also in Mk. 13:31 and Lk. 21:33.) When you need something dependable when your relationship shifts with God – go to Jesus and to His Word. When you take in the words of Scripture, you take in the life of Jesus. They are one and the same, and they keep you in a safe, healthy place with God.

                              Pick Your Relationships Prayerfully

                              One of the greatest blessings is to have good, dependable relationships. People you can trust and count on. People who have your back. The alternative is to have unhealthy, bad, few, or worst of all – no relationships.

                              God made you for relationships.

                              • The first one He wants you to have is with Him. He chose you!
                              • Next are those people who are dear to your heart – family, friends, children, perhaps a spouse.
                              • Work and community relationships are important, too.
                              • Even global relationships are important.
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                                Ask God to help you choose and prioritize your relationships. He knows who is best to be in your life. You can experience peace, freedom, companionship, and growth from healthy relationships.

                                However – make God your First, Most, and Best relationship!

                                People

                                Let’s face it. People are one of the greatest blessings in life. Yet, they are also one of the greatest frustrations. It helps to see people through God’s eyes and principles. This affords you the skills to enjoy people more, call things what they are without judging people, and learn a lot from others.

                                Let your relationships with people shift, but keep working at healthy interactions.

                                 

                                Enemy

                                Did you know you have an enemy who camps-out at the gate of your soul?

                                • He’s crafty.
                                • Smarter than you.
                                • You can’t see him.
                                • Your defenses are limited.
                                • He deceives and hates you.
                                • His goal? To pull you down. Ruin you. Finish you off!
                                • His strategy? Throw you into confusion. Lie to you. Keep you out of your Bible. Block you from praying.
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                                  What can you do? This is an important question because it affects how your relationship shifts with God.

                                  What You Can Do

                                  When the enemy pounds on your life, when people change and you have no control, and when your relationship with God shifts, you can put action steps into place.

                                  Action Steps When Your Relationship With God Shifts
                                  1. First, remember, Jesus defeated your enemy, so live in this victory by faith. (Eph. 1:20-22)
                                  2. Refuse to fall back into your own devices and plans. (Prov. 3:5-6)
                                  3. Trust God! Don’t lean on yourself. He will put a path in front of you and safely escort you through. (Is. 52:12)
                                  4. Don’t listen to the enemy who wants you in bondage. You belong to Jesus Christ. (Is. 26:3)
                                  5. Stand firm – or you won’t stand at all. (Is. 7:9b)
                                  6. Stay hidden with Christ in God. (Col. 3:3) It’s like living in a protective force field. Like wearing body armor. (Jude 21) It’s your protection and provision.
                                  7. Be still. Listen to God’s still small voice – a gentle whisper. (1 Kings 19:12)
                                  8. Know He is God. (Ps. 46:10a) Know He loves you. (Jer. 31:3)
                                  9. Rest in God while turmoil swirls around you. (Ps. 23:5) He honors your faith. Wait and watch what He will do. (Ps. 37:7)
                                  10. Pick up your gifts of peace and freedom from Jesus. (Jn. 14:27 and Gal. 5:1)
                                  11. If you suffer, make sure it’s for good, not for doing wrong. (1 Pet. 2:20; 1 Pet. 3:17) God will redeem your sufferings.
                                  12. Gain control with God’s instructions and promises. (2 Pet. 1:4)
                                  13. In your heart, come near to Christ. He is super close to you. (Jas. 4:8)
                                  14. Ask God for wisdom and creativity to come up with fresh strategies. (Col. 1:9)
                                  15. Stay in God’s training. Learn His maneuvers. Get good at godliness. (1 Tim. 4:8)
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                                    Application Thoughts And Questions

                                    The above action steps are your Application for this content.

                                    Keep in mind: Everyone has a shift in their relationship with God – and with other people. When you follow the above action steps with God, it will have a positive impact on all your relationships.

                                     

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                                  17. We Have Jesus!

                                    Easter week is here! As a result, people love to celebrate with joyful traditions, activities, reflections, and food. Since this week is the highest pinnacle of celebration for Jesus followers (perhaps second only to Christmas), we celebrate the amazing, simple reality – we have Jesus!

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                                    Easter Celebrations

                                    Easter is set in the birth of spring for much of the world. New green buds appear. Early spring blossoms peek through the ground (or snow in some geographies). The sun’s warmth radiates into your body and soul. Bird songs fill the air with joy. New life emerges.

                                    Easter celebrations often involve traditions:

                                    • Daffodil and lily displays.
                                    • Coloring and decorating eggs.
                                    • Bright, cheerful, (sometimes new) clothing to wear.
                                    • Perhaps a bonnet or bow tie.
                                    • Easter baskets of candy / goodies hidden for children to hunt.
                                    • Sunrise service.
                                    • Family gatherings.
                                    • A special meal.
                                    • Perhaps communion.
                                    • Joyful songs like “He Is Risen!” (at full volume)
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                                      These traditions proclaim God’s redeeming love – a glorious reminder – we have Jesus! God’s love through Christ’s cross sealed His grace gift – to be forgiven and live forever. In addition to the incredible provision – we have Jesus – you are offered:

                                      • Intimate fellowship with God, Himself.
                                      • Invitation to live each day in partnership with God.
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                                        We Have Jesus

                                        Do you remember when you first became aware you are capable of doing wrong things? Perhaps you were a child. Perhaps you can pinpoint a moment as a teen or young adult when your conscience said “no,” but you chose to say, “yes.” As years add up, there’s increasing awareness that no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to be perfect.

                                        Do you know what that means? It means we all needed a Savior! And we are so fortunate to acknowledge – we have Jesus!

                                        Who Is Jesus

                                        Scripture refers to Jesus from Genesis through Revelation. Jesus is the central figure of the entire Bible. Every Old and New Testament book points to Jesus in some way.

                                        Before Jesus came to earth the first time (as a baby to be the God-man) He was called Logos, The Word. John 1:1 says, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through Him all things were made . . .”

                                        Ponder this! The Word has two presentations: the living Word (Jesus) and the written Word (Scripture). So, when you get into Scripture (written Word), you literally take Jesus (living Word) off the pages into your life. Incredible!

                                        Jesus is “King of kings.” No other ruler in history is as excellent as Christ. Because Jesus has submissive, yet powerful character, “God exalted Him to the highest place and gave Him the name that is above every name . . .” (Phil. 2:9)

                                        Further, Scripture states,

                                        • God – “has put everything under His feet.” (1 Cor. 15:27)
                                        • “At the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” (Phil. 2:10-11)
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                                          Jesus is many provisions for His people:

                                          Here are some names/offices Jesus has. Each of these is a focus in our FREE, Easter devotional focus this week – “Prepare For Easter” (below).

                                          • Sacrifice
                                          • High Priest
                                          • Lover of Your Soul
                                          • Intervener
                                          • Intercessor
                                          • Interconnector
                                          • Resurrection
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                                            We Have Jesus – As A Friend

                                            There’s an old hymn by Joseph M. Scriven – “What A Friend We Have In Jesus” – a favorite of many Jesus followers. Let’s look at some of the words:

                                            Verse 1

                                            What a Friend we have in Jesus, all our sins and griefs to bear!
                                            What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer!
                                            O what peace we often forfeit, O what needless pain we bear,
                                            All because we do not carry everything to God in prayer.

                                            Verse 2

                                            Have we trials and temptations? Is there trouble anywhere?
                                            We should never be discouraged; take it to the Lord in prayer.
                                            Can we find a friend so faithful who will all our sorrows share?
                                            Jesus knows our every weakness; take it to the Lord in prayer.

                                            Verse 3

                                            Are we weak and heavy laden, cumbered with a load of care?

                                            Precious Savior, still our refuge, take it to the Lord in prayer.
                                            Do your friends despise, forsake you? Take it to the Lord in prayer!
                                            In His arms He’ll take and shield you; you will find a solace there.

                                            Who Needs Jesus

                                            People need a Savior. Around the world. Down your street. In your career place. Right in your own home. In fact, the person in your mirror needs Jesus. “We all, like sheep, have gone astray. Each of us has turned to his own way . . . “ (Is. 53:6)

                                            Because Jesus stepped in to take the punishment for sin (death), everyone can receive this incredible gift – and live forever. Since He always, only, enjoyed beautiful fellowship with God, it must have been excruciating for Jesus to bear the justified anger of God as our stand-in. But through this extreme sacrifice, we have Jesus NOW!

                                            Let’s take the words of the above hymn. Consequently, because of the fallen human condition . . .

                                            • sins and griefs to bear
                                            • peace we often forfeit
                                            • needless pain we bear
                                            • trials and temptations
                                            • all our sorrows
                                            • weak and heavy laden
                                            • a load of care
                                            • friends despise, forsake you . . . 
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                                              . . . the Bible says – God loves you and values your life. God also cares about His creation. That’s why He declared His intentions toward you and all the earth: “Behold, I am making everything new!” (Rev. 21:5) This is fabulous news!

                                              Because We Have Jesus

                                              Because Jesus’ faithful life, death, and resurrection secures everything important in life –

                                              • The sin debt is paid for.
                                              • Death is conquered.
                                              • Hope is reborn.
                                              • Joy peeks through sorrow.
                                              • Since Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever, you can depend on Him for everything in your life. (Heb. 13:8)
                                              • Plus, He exercises great mercy and patience. (2 Pet. 3:9)
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                                                So, this is why we celebrate Easter with passion every year! Additionally, this is why we live with hope even while the world runs on a separate, destructive path. Because many are on this path, we must share this passion and hope with them.

                                                Incidentally, here is one way you can share Easter passion and hope with others. Tell them about this wonderful opportunity Easter week. Prepare For Easter! (more information directly below)

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                                                1. Brief Daily Focus – Using a short reflective thought to focus your heart for Easter, each day explores a special role Jesus has in your life. It’s very encouraging!
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                                                3. Teaching Point – By combining the Daily Focus and Fun Activity, each day’s content becomes deeply meaningful.
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                                                  The reason this Easter resource is so meaningful is . . . 
                                                  Because each session explores how Jesus provides for you!

                                                  Here’s a list of topics we will cover, one each day:

                                                  • Sacrifice
                                                  • High Priest
                                                  • Lover of Your Soul
                                                  • Intervener
                                                  • Intercessor
                                                  • Interconnector
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                                                    As you explore these special roles, you can know without a doubt that God’s love for you is sincere!

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                                                    “When You Run Out of Ideas of Where to Hide An Easter Basket.” 

                                                    Since Easter brings hope, joy, and cheer . . . take the opportunity to prepare your heart!

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                                                      Incidentally, it’s really fun to make your own set! But it’s also simple. By filling empty plastic eggs with little items, each part of the Easter story can be told. Since the online set (above link) shows detailed pictures of items needed, use that example. And not only kids love this set, but every age!

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                                                    • Prepare For Easter – Day 7 (Sunday): Easter Angel

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                                                    • Prepare For Easter – Day 6 (Saturday): Interconnector

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                                                    • Prepare For Easter – Day 5 (Friday): Intercessor

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                                                    • Prepare For Easter – Day 4 (Thursday): Intervener

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