- PUBLISHED 3:20 PM

This particular podcast speaks on marriages and those who view themselves as failures, due to the marriage not lasting.

I spoke with a friend on this topic and decided to speak on it, because if my friend feels this way I can only imagine how many others do too!

Are you in a marriage that's failing? Has your marriage already failed? Do you feel like a failure?

Speaking from experience I use to feel the same way, but not anymore. If you're going through this failure mentality, I hope this podcast can help turn things around and inspire you at the same time! If it helps you please pass it on to others who may be going through the same thing.

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

I had to have this conversation with some folks, who were judgin' females' way of dressin' androgynous.

I'm always tryin' to explain about masculine and feminine energies, and how all people embody both. Growin' up I didn't know about energies and instead was taught about the "roles" of men and women, and how they were to behave BASED on them being a man or woman.

This is one of the main reasons why I stopped takin' third party information, and instead began doing my own research. I always feel there's a deeper meaning to just about everything, because the world as a whole IS-SO-DEEP! 

In this podcast I veer off a bit into other topics lol, but the point I'm makin' is that we need to stop judgin' folks for bein' more masculine or more feminine whether you're a male or female. We're all individually unique and beautiful the way we are, and goodness knows if we were all the same THINK ABOUT HOW BORING THAT WOULD BE! 

I don't like bein' bored lol.

Peace & Blessings,

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 7:21 PM

It truly bothers me to see other women hate on other women, especially when that woman didn't do anything to you.

As women we need to gain a higher perspective on how we should treat one another, and acknowledge WHY we may feel negative towards another female.

It's bad enough when there's a race of people hatin' on each other, but women - especially black women, we really should be liftin' one another up. Tearin' each other down out of jealousy and envy, comes from a place of pain and it behooves all of us to find that open wound and do serious surgery on it. SERIOUSLY!

Let's applaud each other for our special gifts and talents and STOP the hateration.

Peace & Blessings,

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 1:35 PM

Like the title? Lol!

This podcast focuses on the heart chakra, and how important it is to keep it open. If we don't and constantly have a closed heart, then we're literally subjecting ourselves to being "zombies on earth". 

Do you get it?

We're on this earth to live, fully, which means giving and being love. No love? No heart? No life. No living. Zombie.

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 2:01 AM

Self-worth isn't always at the forefront of ones mind and not recognizing when it's being diminished within you, can not only be dangerous - it can cause different levels of healing to take place depending on the severity. 

Self-worth is necessary, just as self-love is imperative. These topics I feel should be discussed in classrooms; emotions and feelings and how to recognize red flags within relationships. 

I guess that would be psychology 101 right, lol? I don't know....just kiddin'!

Self-worth and self-love allows us to pinpoint bs a lot quicker, and ensures our futuristic progress 'cause our confidence will be on point.  There's so much to understand about the human mind and behavior; I didn't know I needed to get my PHD in philosophy and human behavioral studies too! SHEESH! I do however, appreciate the knowledge.

Peace & Blessings,

Shanda

Accepting ourselves is one of the hardest things to do, because we've been taught for so long that we should be anything but ourselves. 

Being who you are in private is one thing, but having to change that for the public I feel is quite another thing. I want to be accepted for who I am fully - not tolerated. I want to be loved fully for who I am in private, as well as in public. 

I don't wanna have to tone down my aggressiveness, because I'm a woman. I don't want my intelligence being diminished, because I'm a woman. I don't want my sexuality being frowned upon, because of who I love.  I don't want my voice being muted, because of how I choose to express myself artistically/authentically. 

For me art is the best way to be free. I'm seeing more and more it's where I belong, so second guessing myself will truly be a thing of the past. I know artist's second guess themselves but for me, if being an artist was my only career for the rest of my life second guessing would be non-existent, because I am fully aware of who I am. Ya feel me?

Peace & Blessings,

~Shanda

This podcast came about after listening to a tarot card reader speak about "users" and "takers". 

It made me think about how important it is to recognize the red flags within relationships, that often times people ignore. But ignorin' it will only cause you more pain down the road, so it'd be best to pay attention - listen to your gut and address it head on.

Our intuition is EVERYTHING, and it's necessary to see someone for who they truly are rather than overlook it - hoping you're wrong. 

If children are involved it becomes THAT-MUCH-MORE imperative to pay attention and weed out the toxicity immediately, or you'll have a new generation of children growing up broken; takin' on infected layers that should've never been passed down to them in the first place. 

If anyone feels me on this, please listen to the podcast and let me know your thoughts.

Peace & Blessings,

~Shanda

(EXPLICIT CONTENT: MUST BE 18 YEARS OR OLDER TO LISTEN)

SIDE NOTE: I posted this pod yesterday but removed it 'cause I felt my "Sarah Connor", might be to harsh for some folks' ears lol! But as usual, I thought on it and came to the conclusion that this particular message HELPED ME in situations. This specific message is how I was able to dissect disillusion in order to break away from toxicity. So if it helped ME, then it can help others - right? This is ALWAYS my thinkin' when I decide to post on certain subjects. I pray my message although raw and gritty, can help you if you're in this kind of situation.

Have you ever noticed patterns in a person's behavior, that made you pause to pay closer attention to the situation?

Many times folks don't create boundaries within relationships (any relationship) because, if we love the person or even like them a lot, we may feel there's no need for boundaries and therefore let our guards down. People like to let their guards down because it makes one feel safe, and not tense or anxiety-ridden. When one lets their guard down it's usually because, one feels the other person has also let their guard down - and is being real.

But what if you discover that the other person/s was playing games the entire time, and the only way you found out is due to their "repeat episodes".

What do I mean? Listen to the podcast in order to find out. Make sure you have your butter cookies to go with this pipin' hot tea!

PS, just jokin' about creatin' a TV MANUAL lol, I'd never put that much energy into this issue.

Peace & Blessings,

~Shanda

(EXPLICIT CONTENT: MUST BE 18 YEARS OR OLDER TO LISTEN)

Have you ever noticed patterns in a person's behavior, that made you pause to pay closer attention to the situation?

Many times folks don't create boundaries within relationships (any relationship) because, if we love the person or even like them a lot, we may feel there's no need for boundaries and therefore let our guards down. People like to let their guards down because it makes one feel safe, and not tense or anxiety-ridden. When one lets their guard down it's usually because, one feels the other person has also let their guard down - and is being real.

But what if you discover that the other person/s was playing games the entire time, and the only way you found out is due to their "repeat episodes".

What do I mean? Listen to the podcast in order to find out. Make sure you have your butter cookies to go with this pipin' hot tea!

PS, just jokin' about creatin' a TV Guide lol, I'd never put that much energy into this issue.

Peace & Blessings,

~Shanda

(EXPLICIT CONTENT: MUST BE 18 YEARS OR OLDER TO LISTEN)

Okay y'all, THIS podcast is VERY different from ALLLLL the other ones I've EVER done! Why do you ask?

Well, THIS particular pod I'm talkin' about sex lol. YUP! Let's talk about sex ba-by, let's talk about you-and-me lol! 

While I was writing today, my mind wandered to this specific subject which made me dissect myself within past relationships. It was definitely a lesson for me, but overall the breakdown and acknowledgement helped me get to know me better! A win-win situation.

Hopefully, it can help some of you females understand yourselves better too, if you've ever wondered why you never felt satisfied sexually in a relationship. Or why your sexual drive decreased until the point of being completely gone. Or why you may vibe more sexually with a female versus a male; for me, I discovered I'm more dominating which would make me the chaser in a sexual relationship. I know females can be use to males being the "chaser" in a relationship, but that position isn't limited to  only males ok, lol. Energy people! Go by the energy.

Lastly, please excuse my word usage of domineering - I used it throughout the discussion but I really meant to use the word dominating. And when I said "older women in marriages", please excuse me as I simply meant "married women", believe me age doesn't matter. Just wanted to clear a few things up as I rarely edit these pods, and most of the time I speak straight from my dome - as I prefer improvisation more than scripts. I'm a "go with the flow" kinda chick.

Peace & Blessings,

~Shanda