- PUBLISHED 6:25 PM

Thinkin' about The Elements and how they pertain to human beings, sent me on a spiral of emotions in which it became very easy to comprehend the yin yang connection. 

The Elements; they are US and WE are them. One must never forget the importance of all elements, in turn making all humans equally as important. 

Just as the elements are two sides of the same coin - so are we.

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 7:28 PM

I was buggin' a lil in this pod lol, but only because I had just recorded after all this information came flowin' into my brain!

In this pod I speak on my reflection of a past issue, that allowed me to dissect it enough to figure out not only WHERE it came from but WHY it had such a strong hold on me. After my reflection, I began stretching my body while being fully present in the moment - 'cause you know it's easy for us to NOT be fully present.

We can be joggin' and listenin' to music, or stretchin' and thinkin' about errands to run, or watchin' a movie and thinkin' about a future project. BEING PRESENT isn't always as easy as it sounds. But this particular time I made it a point to be present while stretchin', and my discoveries were just out-of-this-world to me - which is probably why I may sound crazy to some folks lol.

Then I bounced to self-love and how if we can put so much effort into makin' money, or gettin' good grades or even trying to impress other people, then we can damn sure put extra effort into lovin' ourselves - which changes ev-er-y-thing in ones life! Basically, y'all are listenin' to me process information that downloaded after serious reflection which caused tremendous healin' to occur, and had me end on a SUPER happy note lol!

AND THIS IS ALL I WISH FOR YOU! To be able to reflect on past hurts/issues that's plagued you, in order to reach the answers that are within you, in order to heal you and bring about massive self-lovin' upon you. Amen!

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 12:32 AM

I didn't realize just HOW NORMAL Narcissism is to our society!

When I finally decided to pay attention I felt like I had been livin' under a rock. The topic is everywhere and soooo many people know what narcissism is, so why was I late in payin' attention to it?

I'm beginning to think that EV-ER-Y-ONE will eventually discover what it is in their own time, because it's that common. But I feel we as a people need to start making it uncommon to the point it'll become EASIER too pinpoint the toxic behavior. 

I don't feel you should have to be abused for years before realizin' it, because some folks don't make it out sane. Some folks may succumb to the abuse in which they'll either begIn abusin' others, OR they'll just become unable to adapt to reality and will forever lose their balance/stability. It's not easy for everyone to be "mentally strong", because folks handle negative situations/people in different ways. 

However, if you ARE lucky enough to remain mentally tough to fight through it, then you must serve as a sounding board in order to warn others about the red flags/patterns. 

I feel the more folks that speak up about it - eventually it'll scare those muthaf@$*@& back into their toxic human shells. Hopefully, it forceS them to stay with their own kind; all they'll end up doing is self-sabotaging anyway.  Also, speaking up will make folks aware of newer trends/patterns of abuse, as it may change or be upgraded over time.

This is NOT-A-JOKE and nothing to play with, this is about people's lives. I for one love my life and my children's lives, which is why I'll do WHAT I must do to protect us. You should do the same.

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 2:29 PM

I felt it necessary to let you know what obvious signs to look for, should you either encounter or end up in a relationship with someone of very, very low vibrations. 

Yes, we are all two sides of the same coin - good and bad, but the challenge for most people is balancing the light and dark parts of themselves. If one dwells to long in the shadow part of themselves it becomes toxic, which can in turn harm anyone around them or very close to them.

Sometimes, we feel we can help people out of their darkness by loving them more, but what if after years of trying it doesn't work? What if all the love you pumped into another caused you to completely deplete yourself of your own reserves? You basically became a sacrificial tool to feed another person's ego, while allowing them to "steal" your light...literally. 

Fluctuating weight, feelin' like you're goin' insane - in circles, confusion, no energy, negative thoughts, taking on their toxic patterns/behavior, bein' taken away from friends and family, bein' made to feel dumb although you're super smart, killin' ya confidence to further rip apart your self-esteem, putting you in situations that make you look bad so they look better; THESE-ARE-ALL-OBVIOUS-SIGNS of being around a very, very low vibration person and/or one with narcissistic qualities. 

If after reading this and/or listening to the podcast it all begins to make perfect sense, then do yourself (and your kids if you have them) a favor and get the hell away as quickly as possible. Seek out help and support if need be by friends/family or medical/legal professionals but get away. 

By saving yourself you'll end up saving others; just like if you want to change the world, seek to change yourself first? It all starts with self.

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda 

- PUBLISHED 7:05 PM

Have you ever thought about what YOUR "Just Right Relationship" would look like? If you could dream up your "perfect" relationship how would it be?

It's crazy 'cause back in the day, I know for a FACT my current answer would've been different; I've evolved so much. I've also done a lot of living and with that comes A LOT of lessons. I know I have more livin' to do, which will in turn expand my awareness. I'm lookin' forward to it though. 

Happy Listening!

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 5:23 PM

Due to the many imbalances in life, it leaves you paying attention to JUST how important energy is to our well-being.

EVERYTHING is energy. EVERYTHING has a vibration. EVERYTHING is connected one way or another. Sometimes it's necessary to disconnect from certain energies in order to keep yourself balanced - on track, due to some energies being to toxic too handle. 

If you don't grow up with this information, you're left as a sheep amidst wolves; brushing up against bad energies and not recognizing what it is...sometimes until it's to late. I'm so grateful I can teach my children what I DIDN'T know, as a means of keeping them aware. 

Have you ever been around someone and felt completely depleted of energy? Are you usually a happy, bubbly person but as soon as you get around a specific person/people, your mood changes to that of negative or sadness? This is "transfer of emotions" or the classic case of energy sucking. Beware!

Peace & Blessings Y'all

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 10:30 AM

I came across some powerful peace and just HAD to share it.

I love us, I do. In all of our broken and flawed selves, lies a purpose GREATER than ourselves. A lot happens to our beings as we travel on this journey we call life, and it changes us. Our experiences are unique to us, because only WE can create from those experiences and in doing so - we offer a greater understanding to others that may need HELP in understanding. Do you understand?

We're all connected one way or another, but in connecting we must be mindful that our connections aren't becoming so poisonous that it poisons others. Being connected only means what affects you, affects me. 

Don't be so poisonous that it chases folks away, leaving you scorn with negativity 'cause you're not understanding what you just did - you only see the void of the absent person. But you fail to realize what caused them too flee. Look within - look deep within and listen to your pain. What is it telling you?

Nature will always be the GREATEST connector; pure, raw and complex in its way of being - but also the best teacher. I learn from nature; we must all come back to the GREATEST connector for GREATER understanding. I guess we DO have something to thank Coronavirus for...bringing us back to Mother Earth, grounding oneself.

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 6:16 PM

(EXPLICIT LYRICS MUST BE 18 YEARS OR OLDER TO LISTEN)

Ha! So I ran across a beautiful picture of a room with bed, candles and BIG picture windows - showing the towering trees of the forest. 

Immediately, you see where my mind went 'cause this song came about LOL! It was SO much fun to write though! I'm likin' this untamed version of me...I make my own self blush - and in my eyes that's pretty amazing. 

I feel like I'm explorin' my sexuality more and more; I can't believe it took so long. It's like a part of me that was an untapped resource, but also I think it's more "accepted" for men to be more open about their sexuality then women. 

I'm a whole otha kinda beast lol! I wonder what will come out next?

Stay tuned!

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 5:48 PM

So I just had an epiphany lol!

Have you ever had a spouse who was secretly in competition with you? It can happen in other relationships too, but specifically I'm speaking on spousal relationships. 

If you're not aware of the red flags you can be subjecting yourself, to a lifetime of emotional manipulation and not even know it. There are indeed some spouses who are intimidated by the smarts and/or talents of their lover. 

This is why it's important to be able too recognize what the red alerts are, so that you can handle it early on in the relationship. If it's something that can't be worked on, then leave that relationship because you don't need ANYBODY trying to dim  your light - let alone steal it. 

Over time the emotional abuse can wear on ones self-esteem, self-confidence, self- worth and self-love; you'd need to work ten times as hard to build yourself back up after you leave this person. 

I hope this "epiphany" podcast can benefit you.

Peace and Blessings

`Shanda

- PUBLISHED 9:15 AM

Some may get this, others may not. Use your imagination!

(Explicit 18 years and older to listen)