- PUBLISHED 11:40 PM

Taking a seminar where I had to write out my DREAM for homework, proved to be harder than I thought.

I wrote it out twice and STILL wasn't keepin' it real with myself, and I only discovered this after listenin' to other people's DREAM's.

We sell ourselves short sometimes, thinkin' that our dreams have expiration dates - which was the case for me. But I didn't even realize I was doin' it! I had to get completely real with myself, I even shed a few a tears for treatin' my person in a limiting way. I'll never do that again.

What are your BIGGEST dreams? Have you ever thought about it? Are you living your dreams? If not, what's stopping you?

Peace & Blessings,

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 12:46 PM

This piece came about today, when I realized as a Realtor® how I could play an intricate part in the real estate industry.

I'm always looking to see how I can be a pioneer and I got so excited about my new idea, that I became eager to put it into motion. Until I recognized that once again, I'd have to neglect my other businesses in order to STOP long enough to build up my new service. Then I got frustrated and yelled out "I'm tired of building on my own!" 

It became clear to me in that moment, that what I need is a partner or team to delegate tasks too. 

The good part is, I know how to do everything, I'd just need to either show a person how-to do it or find someone that specializes in what I need. I'm just tired of having to STOP my entire program just to take out time to build things. Granted, I'm grateful that I've acquired the knowledge to do so, but it becomes physically draining doing it all - especially being a full-time mom.  

So this piece was written outta frustration lol, and venting out on paper did make me feel better. At least now I know what I need, so I'll put my prayers out into the universe and let it handle the rest. 

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 5:54 PM

When sometimes you just gotta let a n*$g@ know....

(Explicit content must be 18 years or older to listen) 

- PUBLISHED 6:00 PM

First, please excuse my smacking while talking in the beginning lol, my aligners can make me speak funny...it drives me a lil crazy.

Second, this episode is about gaining clarity over your life as a means of moving forward. Sometimes, when negative experiences or people happen to us it can throw us completely off our game. A lot of times that's exactly what negative people are trying to accomplish - throwing you off your game. 

But what if speaking out about it is the only way for you to stay sane and as a result gain clarity from the situation? What if speaking out gives you a new pair wings to be able too fly? 

I'm never one to talk about my personal business (folks who know me well will tell you it's like pullin' teeth to get information out of me lol), but past situations left me feeling forced to speak due to the fact that I felt like I was going insane. When you've reached that level of craziness it becomes imperative to find an outlet to vent; my audio journal was my place. It was also imperative for me to look within myself to understand why I allowed certain things to go on for so long, and how I played a part in ignoring the red flags.

Food for thought: documenting your experiences only helps you to prove your case if need be in court, or to whomever you need to prove it too. So when thinking of how to protect yourself and/or your kids, documentation is a really good way.

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 10:48 AM

Have you ever thought about what lights up your soul?

For me it's my kids, writing, music, philosophy and nature.  My kids is self-explanatory, writing helps me make sense of things, singing makes me happy and feels so damn good, philosophy allows me to create my own interpretation of how I see life and the spiritual world. Nature, sweet, sweet nature, is the gift that keeps on giving; beautiful in all its complexities and dare I say flaws? Can nature have flaws? If it's purely authentic to itself which nature IS unabashedly authentic, how can it be flawed? Hmmmmm.....the wheels in my head are spinning lol! Thank goodness for our brains!

Anyway, now you know what  lights up my soul. I've learned that what keeps me positive is, incorporating these things into my daily routine of life. It's what breathes life into me and is therefore a consistent need within my daily routine. 

I encourage you to write down 5-10 things that light up your soul, and then incorporate them somehow into your daily routine! Then take note of how positive you become as the days go on. I'd love to hear your feedback!

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 7:04 PM

JUST LISTEN....

PEACE & BLESSINGS

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 3:44 PM

So I was forced to face some hard truth about myself yet again lol. It's a good thing though, because it only means I'm growing.

How do you handle hurt? Is this something you ever thought about? 

Do you close people off? Do you project your anger out on others? Do you begin harming yourself as a means of coping with hurt?

It's crazy 'cause once we can acknowledge our problem and not be in denial about it, then we take one step closer to healing ourselves. At the end of the day, loving ourselves will ALWAYS be our greatest victory! And I don't mean lovin' a false self, I mean lovin' our true selves; who we are all on our own without anyone else's opinions or characteristics being placed upon us.

Just some food for thought. I hope you enjoy the podcast.

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 4:53 PM

I felt called to speak on this topic and I truly hope folks can benefit from it.

It took me some time to realize just HOW important it is for one to live in their truth, because if you don't you're literally suffocating yourself. It dawned on me that people live everyday NOT being who they fully are, and they project their anger on others for doing the opposite. I understand that it's easier said then done because it took me a minute to get back to who I truly am, due to allowing others to dim my light. That was an issue that I had and one I needed to correct. No one could do it for me, I had to do it for myself. 

But there are folks that "feel" they can't do it for themselves.  

What they're not realizing though, is that THEY'RE placing limitations on themselves! Keep it real...most of the time we don't do the things we want to do, is because we're afraid of what someone else is gonna think or say! We allow the opinions of others to hold us back - which causes fear and anxiety, which in turn makes us unhappy and then we start hating on other people who ARE happy! Who ARE living the same "truth" that YOU wanna live. 

That's not fair to project that anger and toxicity on another person, because they CHOOSE to live and express themselves freely.  

The same way YOU can CHOOSE to live and express YOURSELF freely. Guess what though? It takes cojones to do it. Do you have the balls? Or are you gonna waste your life away trying to please other people? YOU choose.

Peace & Blessings,

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 4:06 PM

OK, somebody was supposed to receive this message TO-DAY! 

I'm not gonna break this down in writing, because listening to it should make enough sense. Trust me those that know understand ex-act-ly what I'm talkin' about.

I do however, have to correct myself because I stated that someone came outta left-field to my face. That is incorrect I had trouble remembering; the person came outta left-field via text message. Again, just proving my point of how some folks will never come outta left-field to my face, because they know how good I am to them. So doing it behind a device or behind my back, I'm assuming is a form of respect lol. 

For those that have been taken through the ringer by another person, please protect yourself. Your heart and mental is precious and fragile and doesn't deserve to be mistreated, used and abused by those that can't get themselves together. Your heart deserves another heart that's equally matched in love and giving (and I'm not talking about material things). There are people that like to buy you, and there are people that like to spoil you - there's a difference. Those that try to buy you are only covering up something dark and toxic from within, that's manipulative and controlling. Those that spoil you do it outta love for you, wanting you to always have and feel your best. Sometimes the two can be misconstrued so it's always good to be mindful of why something is happening the way it's happening. 

I hope this recording can be beneficial to your mental health and overall well-being.

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda

- PUBLISHED 1:55 PM

Hearin' a random melody made me jump up like a bolt of lightenin' struck me, and I ran to grab pen and paper!

Then I created my own melody and wrote fiercely on paper the words that filled my head space.

This is an a cappella song and I can ONLY imagine what it'd sound like with actual music. I hope you "love" it as much as I do!

Peace & Blessings

~Shanda