All of You

This week's episode is a little different…Instead of diving deep into one theme, Shiv and Dave are serving up their hot takes—the rants, opinions, and random musings that don’t quite fit into a full topic but are too wild and funny to keep off the mic. From believing that social media isn’t bad to discussing why sometimes eating “unhealthy” is actually the healthier choice, we’re sharing the things we’re currently chewing on.

These takes aren’t set in stone—we believe them today, might change our minds tomorrow, and that’s half the fun. Tune in for laughs, unfiltered conversation, and a peek into how our brains spiral when we let loose.

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Why do we sometimes get in our own way, even when things are going really well? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up in our lives—whether in relationships, career, or even moments of peace and happiness. We explore the beliefs that fuel it (“What if it all gets taken away?” “Do I really deserve this?”), and how old family patterns may have shaped what we think love, success, and safety are supposed to look like.

Together, we share personal stories of times we’ve caught ourselves sabotaging, the emotions that come up when life feels too good, and the practical tools we use to break the cycle. You’ll walk away with insights on how to recognize your own patterns, how to push through self-sabotage, and most importantly—what it looks like to actually let things be good.

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Attraction isn’t static — it ebbs and flows depending on our energy, our connection, and what’s happening inside of us. In this episode, we talk openly about what happens when “the spark” feels like it’s fading, and how to tell if it’s really gone or just asking for your attention.

We share how to discern whether a lack of attraction is about your own inner world or the dynamic between you and your partner, how insecurity and self-sabotage can make things worse, and why being with a secure partner matters. You’ll hear real stories from our own marriage about times we’ve felt less attracted to each other (and how we handled it), why quick fixes like big date nights aren’t enough, and the small daily habits that actually keep chemistry alive.

If you’ve ever wondered whether attraction can come back and what to do in those moments when it feels like it’s slipping away this conversation will give you the perspective, tools, and hope you need.

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In this follow-up episode, Dave opens up more about the beliefs he formed around money growing up, and together we unpack how those early messages shape the way we approach money today.

We explore the role of safety, control, and values in how couples relate to money, what habits have actually brought us closer, and why there’s no one right way to manage money in a relationship.

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In this first episode of our two-part series on money, Shiv shares how her old money beliefs were shaped by fear, scarcity, and survival—and how shifting those beliefs changed everything. We unpack the idea that couples aren’t actually fighting about money, but about the deeper stories and wounds attached to it. We also explore how someone's money behaviors—like overspending, withholding, or controlling—can create attraction issues, trigger power dynamics, and erode safety in a relationship. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood or disconnected when it comes to finances with your partner, this one’s for you.

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In one of our most listened-to episodes, we tackled defensiveness—and you asked for more. In this deeper dive, we explore how to stay open and grounded when your guard wants to go up. We share real stories from our own relationship, unpack why defensiveness shows up most with the people we love, and offer practical tools for staying regulated, curious, and connected—even in the heat of conflict!

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In this episode, we’re sharing the real, raw story of how we met—and how it nearly all fell apart. From big reactions to small things, to feeling controlled and walking on eggshells, our relationship brought our triggers front and center. We’re talking about what made us give it another shot, how we slowly rebuilt trust, and what the work actually looked like (spoiler: it wasn’t cute or easy). If you’ve ever wondered if it’s possible to come back from a rocky start—this one’s for you.

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Ever said yes when you wanted to scream no? Same. In this episode, we dive into the messy world of people pleasing — where it comes from, how it shows up in sneaky ways (even in marriages and friendships), and why trying to keep everyone happy might actually be robbing you of your real self.

We dig into things like:

You'll walk away feeling seen, maybe called out (in the best way), and reminded that it’s okay to disappoint others — and that the people who love you can handle it.

This one's for the over-functioners, the “I just want everyone to be okay” crew, and anyone learning to take their dang power back.

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In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most underrated relationship skills: feeling your feelings before they explode into a fight.

Shiv shares a real-life moment where she caught herself feeling irritated and chose to pause and go to bed — instead of picking a fight with Dave. That one small choice shifted everything.

We talk about:

If you’ve ever found yourself in a fight that started over something small but spiraled quickly… this one’s for you.

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If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why hasn’t love happened for me yet?”—this episode is for you.

Dave flips the script and interviews me about my experience being single until 32. I open up about the internal narratives I wrestled with, the societal pressure I felt, and the fears that made me question if real love was still possible for me.

We talk about:

Whether you're in your 30s, 40s, or simply feeling behind in love, this episode is here to remind you: your story isn’t late—it’s right on time. And yes, love is still possible. In fact, it might just be better than you imagined.

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