Antonio Borrello

Are you worried that the guy you’re dating might be using you until someone else comes along?  Do you find yourself questioning, analyzing and overthinking things? 

The fact is, it’s not always easy to tell if you’re being used because when you’re emotionally involved, you’re blinded by love and It’s difficult to be objective and see what’s really happening. That’s why in this video, i’m going to share the most common signs that a guy is using you so you can finally take control of the situation and never be played again.

I’m Dr Antonio Borrello, and I’m a psychologist and relationship coach. This channel is all about helping you build great relationships so you can grow happy with the people you love. So, if you’re interested in dating advice and relationship advice that is focused on making your love life the best part of your life, start now by subscribing here.

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Sometimes men and women get dumped because they are too good? Because they are too nice… because they are trying to be a great partner. It’s actually quite common and happens more than you might expect. In this video, I will explain how and why people are taken for granted and lose their relationship because they are too perfect.

ccording to the Investment Model of Relationship commitment developed by Dr. Carl Rusbult, couples’ dependence on, commitment to, and desire for their relationships is based on three factors: 1. Satisfaction with the relationship, 2. The quality of alternatives, and 3, their level of investment. Let me explain.

First, Partners become dependent and committed to relationships when they experience high levels of satisfaction. Partners are satisfied when their relationships gratify their important needs such as companionship, intimacy, sexuality and belonging.

Secondly, Partners’ dependence and commitment also increases when they believe that the alternatives are less desirable than their current relationship. If a person’s needs could be better fulfilled outside of the relationship or if their partner is easily replaced, their dependence on the current relationship diminishes.

Lastl, Partners’ dependence and commitment is influenced their investments into the relationship in terms of time, energy, and other important resources. The more we invest in someone, the more we like and appreciate them as a result. Partners who share a home, family, friends, possessions, and income have made these huge investments into the relationship, making it far too costly to lose.

Because T invested so much more time and energy into the relationship, her love for Jacob grew. On the other hand, Jacob did not work hard to win T’s heart. So, his affection remained flat, T felt taken for granted and unappreciated, and Jacob thought that something was missing.

We need balance. Putting a partner’s needs first can be a beautiful gift; but only between partners who can share equally in the giving and receiving. If one partner is doing all the investing, the relationship becomes lopsided and the person who is trying so hard is taken for granted and unappreciated. Balance is essential.

Healthy relationships require sharing the effort and the work. That means sharing the decisions on choosing restaurants and deciding on movies to see. Happy couples share in deciding who they spend time with, the music they listen to (in the car), and the TV shows they watch together. But, they also share in helping one another with everyday chores and taking care of each others needs.

It can be difficult for some people to do this.. Some people are very agreeable and are constantly putting the needs and desires of others before their own. If this is you, be careful… this behavior is not sustainable and in time, will cause you to resent your partner. So, let your partner invest in you. When they do, they are increasing their feelings of love and appreciation for you. Better yet, invest in one another equally — share in giving and receiving and you will both be more satisfied.

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In this video, You will learn how to make a guy chase you! 5 psychologically backed tips that trigger a man’s instincts to pursue you.
I’m psychologist and relationship coach Dr Antonio borrello and I promise you this…. When you use these tips, you are going to become the irresistible catch that he just can’t get enough of.  And That’s going to make him pursue, chase, and court you because he wants you and needs you in his life.

I’m Dr Antonio Borrello, and I’m a psychologist and relationship coach. This channel is all about helping you build great relationships so you can grow happy with the people you love. So, if you’re interested in dating advice and relationship advice that is focused on making your love life the best part of your life, start now by subscribing here.

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If I’d said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times…. Modern Dating is hard. What was once synonymous with courtship OR the process of getting married has become a confusing and often frustrating grey area between the first date and a committed relationship that might never happen. These situationships are more than just hooking up or friends with benefits, but they are certainly not fulfilling relationships and can often be very bad “situations” to get into. So,
In this video, I’m going to share x signs that you're in a Situationship, I'll explain why they can be terrible for your well being. So stay tuned and don’t go anywhere.

Let me start by explaining what a situationship is. I guess you could call it a pseudo relationship… I’ve even heard it described as an imaginary relationship. It’s somewhere in the middle between “friends with benefits” and a “committed relationship”
You start seeing a person… you’re going on dates and you start doing things regularly. There is definitely a chemistry and attraction that leads to physical intimacy and sex, … but there is no talk of commitment, relationship, exclusivity, or future goals.
And this just continues…. Lasting for months and even years. Usually, one party catches more feelings and wants things to progress into a full relationship. After all, maintaining the status quo won’t magically turn your situationship into a relationship. At this point, they will initiate “the talk” or decide to move on. and what started out as lots of fun ends up in tears and heartache.
Does this Sound familiar? Chances are if you have dated in modern times, you’ve been in this place and know exactly what I’m talking about. But for those of you who are unsure of how to explain your unique “friendship”, here are some clues that you are in a situationship.

1. You have no words to define the relationship…or no official title.
2. You’re Dating someone that tells you from day one he is not interested in any type of commitment.
3. You avoid discussing the future.
4. Texting is the primary form of communication and And even that’s pretty casual.
5. You have no pictures together.
6. You aren’t going on dates with anyone else.. not seeing anyone else.
7. You have sleepovers routinely.
8. You don’t feel like you have a right to your feelings when your “friend” does something upsetting.

It’s okay to be in a situationship, if that’s what you want at the moment. Nothing is wrong with enjoying someone’s company and taking things slowly until you want to give them more. Sometimes it’s easier than a relationship because you aren’t in a place in life where you can squeeze in any additional commitments or responsibility. I get that. Just don’t look at your situationships as an inevitable stepping stone into a real relationship. Don’t get stuck in a situation where you’re hanging on to hope of something more developing, It probably won’t ever happen.

And, if you can’t ever see yourself in a relationship with this person, you have to ask yourself if you’re okay with giving this undefined person all of your time and effort. Are you’re okay with possibly gaining more feelings for someone who may have can’t be with? If you’re not satisfied and feel like your time and effort can be better spent elsewhere, respect and love yourself enough to let the situationship go. Don’t let an unclear situation cause you to forget what you deserve.

I’d love to hear about your experiences with situationships… Has anyone had a great experience? Perhaps one that led into a long term relationship? Marriage? Leave a comment below and lets chat.

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In this video, you will learn how to make a guy worry about losing you – So, if you’re feeling taken for granted, or unappreciated, and you want him to remember your value and cherish you again, then this is the video for you. 
 
Here is a harsh truth - If the guy you’re involved with never experiences any fear or worry of losing you, he will never fall deeply in love with you.  I know that sounds dramatic but it’s true - If he never worries that you could leave him or that he could lose you, he will never value, appreciate and love you the way he should.
That’s because when you are too good to someone and put their needs before your own, they often become overly confident of your love and convinced that you will never leave them. And that puts you at risk of being taken for granted and underappreciated. 
 
But the good news, if you use the tips in this video, he will worry about losing you and that will make him value, appreciate and love you more than ever. 

I’m Dr Antonio Borrello, and I’m a psychologist and relationship coach. This channel is all about helping you build great relationships so you can grow happy with the people you love. So, if you’re interested in dating advice and relationship advice that is focused on making your love life the best part of your life, start now by subscribing here.

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If you want to make your man worry about losing you, then look no further! In this video, I'll share with you 6 tips that will help you make your man love you more. From making him feel important to showing him you care, these tips will help you start to build a foundation of love that will last a lifetime!

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Are you dating a guy who doesn't want a commitment? Are you in a situationship but you want to be in a relationship? These 9 steps will take your relationship to the next level. In this video I'm also going to tell you the one thing... the one change you must make to Get him To commit now. No tricks, no schemes no games..

I’m going to share time tested advice and suggestions that are sure to get your guy to commit. And, I’m saving the most important one for last… without doing the last one.. without making the last change, the others won’t matter at all.. So make sure you get that one.. it’s absolutely essential.

1. The first thing you must do is change your mindset and Keep things light and fun..even though you’re disappointed by his lack of commitment, you have to hide that disappointment… and keep things light and fun and carefree.

2. STOP TALKING ABOUT COMMITMENT
If you’ve already had the discussion and you are on different pages of the book, further discussing or trying to convince him of your point of view, will likely backfire.

3. PRIORITIZE YOUR NEEDS… PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
Sometimes people go out of their way to show the person theyre dating how much they like them. In doing so, they feel like they don’t want to disappoint them… they jump at every opportunity to talk, hang out, text… Take care of you first… pick up some hobbies, make and KEEP plans with your friends.. fill up your social calendar….
4. Be Mysterious..
That means you don’t have to share every detail of your daily activities with him. No need to over explain every little thing… you want him to wonder.. to develop intrigue… share bits and pieces of your life slowly.. make him earn your trust.

5. Become Scarce.
This can be difficult to do.. because When you like someone, you want to spend as much time with them as possible, right? But this can often backfire… think about the principle of scarcity.. things that are scarce are more valuable…. If your time is scarce, it’s has more value.. Plus, absence makes the heart grow fonder….

6 Become Less Interested
This will only work if you are able to pull off the first step.. of keeping this light, fun and carefree. When you pretend to be less interested following a disagreement, or following the disappointing talk, he will take it to mean that you’re upset, disappointed angry and maybe even pouting..
7. Make him invest in you..
People care more when they put more effort into their relationships, so if you want your guy to commit, you have to let him to invest in you! And I’m not talking about money.. im talking about allowing him to help you with things.. small favors, helping you complete a project at home,.
8. Keep Your Options open. Lastly, until your guy finally realizes that you’re the girl from him, don’t stop dating other men. Keep your options open even if you’re not particularly interested in these other guys. Don’t be obnoxious or in his face about it… You don’t want to be accused of trying to make him jealous.. Instead, keep your social calendar full of dates with others, and you will be less worried about what your guy is doing, He will definitely notice that you’re not as available as you once were, and it will add just the right amount of anxiety to get him to take action.

Yes.. all of them feel risky… you’re fearing the worst thing that could happen… he will become less interested, right? It wont work.. I should just be myself… All of them are driven by fear.. the fear of being rejected.

So, the last one, the most important one… #9 is overcome your fear of being rejected… overcome your fear of the relationship ending.. What’s the worst thing that could happen… What is going to happen if you get rejected? Is the world coming to an end? Are you going to die? Nope! It is simple that the friendship is over and you are no longer dating, right?

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Do you question if the guy in your life is truly in love with you?  I mean, a guy can tell you he loves you, but how do you know for sure because some men will say and do all the right things to win you over.  And That makes it difficult to know for sure if his actions are genuine, or if he has ulterior motives?  The good news is, if you pay attention to his behavior and body language, and know what to look for, you can gain insight into his true feelings and remove any doubt.  That’s what we are talking about in this video - The 7 Undeniable Signs That a Man Loves You.

It can be tough to tell if a man is truly in love with you, especially early on in a relationship because some Men say and do whatever it takes to win a woman over.  But don't be fooled by grand gestures and empty words. The real proof of a man's love,  lies in his behaviors and actions over time.  You’ve just got to know what signs to look out for and pay attention to – So, check out the video for the 7 signs that a man is truly in love with you. 
 
I’m Dr Antonio Borrello, and I’m a psychologist and relationship coach. This channel is all about helping you build great relationships so you can grow happy with the people you love. So, if you’re interested in dating advice and relationship advice that is focused on making your love life the best part of your life, start now by subscribing here.

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Why Do Men Lose Interest?
In this video, I talk about attraction and dating and I’ll explain the reasons for why men lose interest, and when you can prevent it from happening to you.

Sometimes people need a reality check. If you get more than your fair share of rejection, it may be time for a self-evaluation. Did you turn your partner off? Perhaps a joke you made was misconstrued or misinterpreted. Or, were you drinking or smoking cigarettes on the date? Something as simple as a difference in lifestyle could explain everything. That’s not to suggest that you shouldn’t be yourself. You should be! In fact, it is essential you be true to yourself and not compromise your feelings and values to try to be the perfect partner.
It’s Not Always About You
New relationships are fragile and exploratory. Despite promising beginnings, it’s not uncommon for one (or both) partners to experience a sudden change of heart. When the reason for the change is not obvious, you’re left puzzled, confused and anxious for answers. Did I do something wrong? Was it something I said? Did I seem too needy or clingy? Or, does someone else have their attention?
The biology behind attraction is that we want better offspring. So whenever we see someone healthy, strong, smart, and better than us with traits such as loyalty, lovability, caring, and nurturing we feel their genes are superior and when coupled with ours, might produce better offspring. If the other person doesn't want us or is not available for a relationship, their perceived value goes up.
On the other hand, when someone comes around showing too much interest in us, we feel they have less value, it’s like ‘why the hell are you even interested in me?’ We have this deep rooted perception that we are flawed and anybody interested in us must be flawed too.

Whether we think about reproduction or not, much of what we consider attractive is compelled our subconscious minds. And when perceived value goes down, so does ones level of attractiveness. So when you show an uninvested person… a new person you’re dating too much interest, you’re perceived value (relative to theirs) goes down. Does that make sense.. so, check your emotions at the door and reveal your feelings slowly… as they become more invested in the relationship.

Remember, anyone who is dating will have these experiences and it won’t feel good. What’s important is that you quickly recognize when your feelings are no longer being reciprocated —and once you’re aware, adjust your behaviors and feelings accordingly. Don’t waste your time worrying about the person who isn’t showing as much interest as you are. Move forward and meet someone as eager about a relationship as you are. Don’t settle for anything less. I know I certainly wont… You deserve a person who’s just as excited about you and knows how to show it, right?

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In my last video, I shared the initial steps to reignite his attraction and get him chasing you again. But, your work isn't done because you want to make sure this never happens again. That’s why in this video, I share the final steps that will keep his attraction and desire for you growing for years to come.

If you've followed the tips from the first video, it’s likely that his attraction and desire for you is much more like it was in the beginning.  But your work is not done, as you don't want this situation to happen again.  That’s why the next three steps are so important because they ensure his attraction and desire for you grows into a deep and forever kind of love – and that will prevent him from ever pulling away again.

I’m Dr Antonio Borrello, and I’m a psychologist and relationship coach. This channel is all about helping you build great relationships so you can grow happy with the people you love. So, if you’re interested in dating advice and relationship advice that is focused on making your love life the best part of your life, start now by subscribing here.

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How to get over and heal from a breakup to heal a broken heart fast

Getting over a breakup or the end of a romantic relationship is never an easy process..  But, there are several things you can do to speed up the healing process and emerge from the breakup as a wiser, smarter and more beautiful person inside and out.  In this video, I’m going to share 9 steps to get your broken heart pumping better than it ever has.  So don’t go anywhere.  

Hi everyone.. I’m dr Antonio Borrello. If you’ve just stumbled upon my channel for the first time, I make weekly dating and relationship advice videos that will help you make your love life the best part of your life.  I hope you will consider subscribing so you don’t miss any of our weekly videos.  Just click that subscribe button and the little bell, and you’ll be good to go. 

If you’ve been in a committed relationship, whether it was for months or for years, you know that breaking up is hard to do.  Having a broken heart and missing someone doesn’t just hurt, it can feel overwhelming… impossible and leave you feeling helpless. Along with the pain, you’ll have so many questions like..  How can I move on? How do I get through this? Will it ever get better?  Yeah, having a broken heart sucks!  The good news.. is that there really are things you can do to speed the mending of your broken heart and make it a little less painful in the meantime.  So without further ado, here are 9 things that you should be doing.

1.  Acceptance. The process of healing from a broken heart begins with accepting what has happened. 
2) Stop Communicating, Negotiating and Scheming 
3  Delete them or unfriend them from ALL Social Media… 
4.  Build Your Support System. This one is huge…super important. 
5  Give Yourself Permission to Grieve
6.  Writing instead of Ruminating
7 Get to Know the Real You Again.
8. Take Good Care of Yourself.
9  Take Advantage of Being Single

So there you have it… nine steps to a new and improved you…  if you're hurting right now. I promise that if you practice those nine things, you will feel better.  It doesn't happen overnight, but it will happen.  Take care of you...  and nurture your relationships with your friends and family.  

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