If you’ve ever been told you have an anxious attachment style this episode is going to make you pause.

In this conversation, I explore whether what we call anxious attachment is sometimes a nervous system responding to emotional inconsistency, unpredictability, or lack of safety in a relationship.

We talk about:

• What anxious attachment actually is
  
  
  
• Why women are often labelled “anxious” too quickly
  
  
  
• The difference between attachment wounds and ongoing unsafe dynamics
  
  
  
• How emotional unavailability keeps anxiety alive
  
  
  
• Why your reactions might make sense
  
  
  

This isn’t dismissing attachment theory. It’s adding nuance.

Before you try to regulate yourself into being less reactive, it might be worth asking whether your nervous system is responding to something real.

If this resonates and you’re ready to explore your attachment patterns more deeply, you can find details about working with me 1:1 (UK and EU only)

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