As We Get Older

J. W. (Terry) Freiberg has a Ph.D. from UCLA and a Harvard law degree. For 30 years he lawyered for many of Boston’s child social welfare and adoption agencies and scores of psychiatrists, psychologists, and social workers. His dual training made him the go-to attorney when legal questions came up in clinical therapy. He worked at the crossroads of law and psychiatry.

Terry is the author of five books, including the one we talk about in this episode - Four Seasons of Loneliness - and argues that loneliness is a sensation, not an emotion. It's like hunger or thirst.

We talk about that idea and a few others. 

More about Terry at jwfreiberg.com/

In this episode I talk with Elliott Katz. After he went through a divorce, he set out to understand what it means to be a man in a relationship. He found a lot of other men were asking the same questions he was, and they all struggled to find good ideas and useful information.

He finally found answers in some of the oldest notions about being a man and shares those insights in his latest book Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man. The ideas in this book can help you build a stronger marriage and a stronger love relationship. It is even available in 24 languages. 

Elliott's ideas seemed counterintuitive to me, but I found out how right he actually is. Even my wife thinks he is right. We got talking out of the gate so let's pick it up on the fly.

More about Elliott at www.ElliottKatz.com

 

Andrew Mann grew up in an upscale neighborhood in New Jersey. From the outside, he had it made. But behind the scenes, he suffered sexual, physical, and emotional abuse at the hands of his parents, especially his mother. He ended up a homeless drug addict on the streets of Camden, the most dangerous city in New Jersey.   He should be dead. And he has been. But he survived and was revived in all the ways that count. We talk about how he came back to live a fulfilling and successful life without drugs. It's an incredible journey. His book, Such Unfortunates, will help you understand addiction, why addicts are the way they are, and how to help them.   More at www.SuchUnfortunates.com

Stoicism has been around since the 3rd century BCE and my next guest, Matt Van Natta, has been studying Stoic philosophy for almost that long. In case you missed it the first time around, some famous stoics of the distant past include Marcus Aurelius (a roman emperor), Epictetus, Seneca the Younger, and who could forget Zeno of Citium?

Matt is the creator of the podcast Good Fortune and the blog Immoderate Stoic. His podcasts and writings focus on how to apply stoicism in the modern world. He writes books, drinks coffee, beer, and whiskey, and contemplates the human condition.

In this episode we talk about stoicism in the modern world and his new book - The Beginners Guide to Stoicism: Tools for Emotional Resilience and Positivity. The stoics managed life pretty well and this book describes lots of great life navigation tools you can use right now.

More about Matt at: https://immoderatestoic.com/ 

My next guest is Dr. Richard Pfau. He came to understand human behavior the long way.   He started in the "hard sciences" at the Baltimore Polytechnic Institute and studied engineering at Johns Hopkins. He spent several years with the U.S. Naval Engineering Experiment Station helping to silence submarines and other ships. He got his bachelors in psychology from the University of Baltimore, graduating summa cum laude by the way, and went on to the Peace Corps in Nepal. That experience led to him to a PhD in science education from the University of Pittsburgh. Then more work in Nepal and 11 years in Africa plus teaching at the University of Connecticut and private consulting as a human resource development specialist. He has been around the block.   Rich's many years of work and research have been aimed directly at understanding human behavior and have culminated in his new book "Your Behavior - Understanding and Changing the Things You Do."    In this episode we talk about how you can:

1. analyze your behavior and change it if you want to
2. understand why others behave the way they do
3. see how your perceptions direct your behavior
4. get more control of your life

More about Rich and his work at:
https://richardpfau.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/richardpfau/

Miha Matlievski is from Slovenia. He dropped out of high school to chase his dream of becoming a successful entrepreneur. After 12 years of hard work, he had built four successful businesses and a personal net worth of $15 Million dollars.   But during the fallout from the global financial crisis of 2008 and 2009 he got a call from his bank, they decided to foreclose on his real estate investments, and his world came crashing down.  All four companies dominoed into bankruptcy. At 30-years old he was $5M in debt.   Time passed with death threats and thoughts of suicide until he finally took responsibility and came to terms with what had happened - he had failed. It was his fault.   In 2014, he created a new startup, generating eight figures in less than a year and his story went viral in Slovenia. And he paid everyone back!   Now, he helps entrepreneurs around the world embrace failure, and have a healthy relationship with failure, so they can reach higher levels of success. He is the Fail Coach. Because it will happen.   More about Miha at -  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FrameWork4Freedom/ Web: https://framework4freedom.com/ Web: https://www.fail.coach/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mihamatlievski Email: [email protected]  

In this episode I chat with Jake Dermer, the founder of Do It At Your Desk. Get your mind out of the gutter. This is a company dedicated to helping office workers live healthier, more-active, and pain-free lives.    He got his Bachelor of Science degree in Kinesiology from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, and for over 10 years has been a strength coach, wellness consultant, personal trainer, and fitness writer.    His goal  is simple - to rid the world of neck and back pain caused by working a desk job.   Do It At Your Desk Wellness Programs also help individuals and companies reduce medical costs by creating a healthier work environment.   He is also the author of The Desk Job Survival Guide - Exercise and Nutrition for Those Who Sit All Day. If you spend a lot of time at a desk, this might be helpful.   More about Jake and his new book at www.DoItAtYourDesk.com.            

My next guest is a fine gentleman named Mike Nelson. He is a retired physician, and a writer (under the pen name of Michael Deeze), veteran, son, and father. He recently started something called The Legacy Project.   The idea first came to him when his Father gave him a diary of all of his missions as a tail gunner on a B-17 in World War II. He was a 17 year old kid when he went in. He came home 2 years later after almost 40 missions a much older and different man.   His father would never speak of his experiences during the war. But the diary explained it all in horrifying detail. And Mike only got to read it very late in his father's life. After reading it he understood a lot more about his father and why he was the way he was. Mike figured if he had known sooner he might have had a better relationship with him. He decided not to let that happen to his children and set out to document some of his own life.   He started the Legacy Project to help others pass their knowledge and life experience on to their children and their children’s children.   We are going to talk about that today and why it might be a good idea for every man to document his legacy.   https://www.michaeldeezebooks.com/ https://www.facebook.com/michaeldeezebooks/ https://www.amazon.com/s?k=michael+deeze&i=stripbooks&ref=nb_sb_noss_1

In this episode, I talk with Amy Schoen about how to find the right person for a great long-term relationship. She is a nationally recognized dating and relationship expert and since 2004 has helped hundreds of marriage minded individuals find their lifelong mates and helped couples create relationships that are more fulfilling and satisfying and lead to greater long-term commitment.   Amy got her M.B.A. from Georgetown University and had several successful businesses before dedicating her life’s work to relationship life coaching. She is the author of “Motivate to Marry® – Now There is a Better Method to Dating and Relationships” and “Get It Right This Time- How to Find and Keep Your Ideal Romantic Relationship”, and a fun, short book with a big message, “30 Very Good Reasons NOT to Get Married Until You Are 30!.” She is a contributing author to “101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life, Vol. 2” that features top experts like John Gray and Jack Canfield. You also may have seen her in The Washington Post, The New York Times, or the Wall Street Journal.   More information about Amy at https://motivatedtomarry.com/   You can also connect with Amy on Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn! Facebook www.facebook.com/MotivatedtoMarry Twitter http://twitter.com/coachamyschoen Linked-In: http://www.Linkedin.com/in/CoachAmySchoen    

Christopher Rausch is a coach, speaker, workshop facilitator, and retreat leader whose life apprenticeship started hard. That he was able to lift himself from victim to victor is a small miracle.   Today, Christopher empowers people to accept whatever life has dished out so far, embrace change, and take action to make their lives better. He helps people live a kickass life without excuses.   He holds a Master’s Degree in Organisational Management and over the last 30 years has worked hard on his own growth and development and brings that knowledge and experience to his clients.    He also gives back to his community by mentoring at-risk kids from The Brightest Star organization and the Olive Crest Children’s Foundation.   More at www.http://christopherrausch.com/