Sabotaging My Goals Because I Was Afraid of Loss

(My Follow-Through Formula for Goals enrollment is open this week only!)

In this episode, I talk about how I was sabotaging my own goals—not because I didn't want them, but because I was afraid of the loss that came with growth.

I break down:

• Why fear around goals is normal and valid

• How fear of loss, grief, and change can show up as procrastination, inconsistency, or pulling back

• My personal experience with avoiding follow-through because I didn't want to shed people, identities, or stability

• The shift I made to move through fear instead of letting it stop me

If you've ever found yourself starting strong and then losing momentum, this episode will help you understand what's actually happening beneath the surface and how to respond differently.

My upcoming course:

The Follow-Through Formula is a four-part mini-course for anyone ready to finally see their most meaningful goals through from start to finish. Through nervous system work, inner child healing, and epigenetic rewiring, it helps you release the DEEP subconscious patterns that hold you back and build lasting grit. By the end, you'll move forward with clarity, confidence, and the ability to consistently follow through on what truly matters to you

Enrollment is open this week only (January 28th - Feb 1)!

Here's the waitlist: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/smoefqswjz

Full info on the course: https://www.asiahilario.com/followthroughcourse

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Book a free self love coaching call: https://calendly.com/asiahilario/selfloveconsult (I have a 6-month self-love coaching program, you can read about it here: https://www.asiahilario.com/self-love)

My Substack (first blog post in 7 years!).

"Getting a tattoo with my ex": https://substack.com/@asiaandalchemy?

My new Youtube Channel:

Episode 1: Letting Go of Someone I thought was My Person

Episode 2: Doing a Breakup Ritual with My Ex

https://www.youtube.com/@AsiaAndAlchemy

My instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario

This year stretched me in ways I didn't expect.

There was loss, grief, and endings I didn't see coming.

This is the official first episode of the Asia & Alchemy (podcast) rebrand, and it's one of the most honest conversations I've shared to date!

In this episode, I talk about:

• The 8 pains I transmuted this year

• Clean pain vs dirty pain (and why suffering in life is optional)

• What transmutation actually looks like in real life

• Why letting go can be an act of self-trust, not failure

Tune in!

Also:

*Enrollment opens January 28th*

The Follow Through Formula (my deepest subconscious-rewiring course yet) for anyone who's tired of setting goals their nervous system can't hold. Yes- the lack of follow through is a nervous system problem- NOT a capability problem. This course will be a course to actually follow through with your New Years goals for the long-haul!

Details for the course will come out soon. Hop on the waitlist so that you don't miss the small enrollment window.

Here's the waitlist: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/smoefqswjz

Full details about the course: https://www.asiahilario.com/followthroughcourse

My email list: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/xfeesxdy61

FREE release shame meditation: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/mdthexhd06

FREE cord cutting meditation: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/pltqap92n8

My website: https://www.asiahilario.com

Book a free self love coaching call: https://calendly.com/asiahilario/selfloveconsult (I have a 6-month self-love coaching program, you can read about it here: https://www.asiahilario.com/self-love)

My Substack (first blog post in 7 years!).

"Getting a tattoo with my ex": https://substack.com/@asiaandalchemy?

My new Youtube Channel:

Episode 1: Letting Go of Someone I thought was My Person

Episode 2: Doing a Breakup Ritual with My Ex

https://www.youtube.com/@AsiaAndAlchemy

My instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario

In this short but sweet episode I'm officially announcing saying goodbye to Business Coaching and what I'm pivoting to! I also talk about some changes on the podcast, as well as something I just recently launched!

Tune in for the deets!

Link to my first Youtube episode: https://youtu.be/rGD_LFgchaM?si=OLKNGTjD2qR4_9M0

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🎙️ Episode: When No One Believes in Your Dream

Let's talk about what it actually feels like when you're building something sacred and soul-led… and no one around you gets it.

What do you do when the dream you're being called to walk doesn't have a cheering section?

This one's for anyone quietly carrying a big vision while navigating silence, doubt, or straight-up skepticism from the people they love most.

One-on-one Coaching

Apply to work with me in my 6-month private, one-on-one coaching container for entrepreneurs wanting to elevate their business or if you wanna start a passion project (podcast, blog, academy, business, etc) (more details in the application): https://form.jotform.com/251211114809042

FREE RESOURCES:

Part 1 of my 4-part series: Thank You Next Level

My Thank You Next Level series is my most transformative 4-part course designed to help you release fear and self-doubt and take bold action towards your goals. Get access to part 1 for free (limited time)! https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/xrxvyytzbn

Cord-Cutting Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/pltqap92n8

Period Productivity Webinar https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/nd1rrhnvv3

Release Shame Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/mdthexhd06

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Healing My Relationship with My Mom Part 3: Healing through Reparenting

"Every time I choose to protect myself, speak my truth, and feel my feelings—I'm becoming the mother I always needed."

In this powerful final episode of the Healing My Relationship with My Mom series, I dig deep into the transformative process of reparenting your inner child, the essential (and most freeing) step in healing generational wounds, even if your mom never apologizes or changes. I share the exact tools and practices that helped me create emotional safety, set unshakable boundaries, and build self-trust after a childhood filled with silence, abandonment, and survival mode.

Furthermore, this isn't about fixing your mom, it's about reclaiming your power, breaking cycles, and becoming the parent you always needed. Whether you're navigating complex family dynamics, struggling with people-pleasing, or yearning for healthy relationships, this conversation will help you understand reparenting as a daily act of self-love, not a one-time event.

If you're ready to stop searching for validation outside yourself and start healing from within- let's get into it!

Episode Highlights:

• What reparenting really is (and what it's not)

• How reparenting helped me build self-trust and emotional stability

• The four core aspects of reparenting

• The four core wounds I had to reparent

• How cultural and generational trauma shaped my mother's parenting

• What forgiveness really looks like (hint: it's for you)

• My personal reflection on living in Saipan and understanding my mom through a new lens

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One-on-one Coaching

Apply to work with me in my 6-month private, one-on-one coaching container for entrepreneurs wanting to elevate their business or if you wanna start a passion project (podcast, blog, academy, business, etc) (more details in the application): https://form.jotform.com/251211114809042

FREE DOWNLOADS:

BIZBaddies Broadcast: Free telegram channel for business owners - tips, mini-trainings, inspo, so much more! Download Telegram & Add the group here: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/svrnoe9m15

Cord-Cutting Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/pltqap92n8

Period Productivity Webinar https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/nd1rrhnvv3

Release Shame Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/mdthexhd06

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Healing My Relationship with My Mom Part 2: Unpacking Resentment

This is hands down one of the most raw episodes I've ever released. At one point while recording, I actually paused and asked myself, "Do I really wanna go there?" And the answer was: yes. Because this is my truth—and if you've ever felt resentment toward your mom or held onto unspoken anger, this episode is for you.

Inside this conversation I unpack:

• What resentment really is and why it's often misunderstood

• The ways it showed up in my life and body

• The unspoken truths I held growing up

• What I learned about anger, forgiveness, and emotional safety

• How I learned to process resentment in non-destructive ways (because ya girl used to fist fight people )

• And finally, I offer you some reflective journal prompts to meet your own resentment with compassion instead of shame

This episode isn't about blaming, it's about validating the parts of you that never felt seen or heard.

Let this be an invitation to explore your truth, even if it's messy. You're not alone ❤️

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Apply to work with me in my 6-month private, one-on-one coaching container for entrepreneurs wanting to elevate their business or if you wanna start a passion project (podcast, blog, academy, business, etc) (more details in the application): https://form.jotform.com/251211114809042

FREE DOWNLOADS:

BIZ Baddies Broadcast: Free telegram channel for business owners - tips, mini-trainings, inspo, so much more! Download Telegram & Add the group here: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/svrnoe9m15

Cord-Cutting Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/pltqap92n8

Period Productivity Webinar https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/nd1rrhnvv3

Release Shame Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/mdthexhd06

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Asia's Email list: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/xfeesxdy61

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Healing My Relationship with My Mom (Part 1): Realizing I Had Abandonment Trauma

In this deeply personal episode, I'm kicking off a powerful new series: Healing My Relationship with My Mom. This first part dives into a huge realization I had recently—that I was carrying abandonment trauma from my mom, even though she was physically present for most of my life.

Someone in the community requested this topic, and I knew I had to speak on it—because so many of us walk around with unspoken wounds, not even realizing they stem from emotional abandonment.

I unpack what emotional abandonment looks like, the subtle ways it can show up (even if your mom was there), and some key indicators you might be carrying this trauma, too. This episode is for anyone who felt unseen, unheard, or unsupported—and is ready to start healing.

This series is about truth-telling, inner child healing, and reclaiming your power one layer at a time. Thank you for being here!

IMPORTANT LINKS:

Apply to work with me in my 6-month private, one-on-one coaching container (more details in the application): https://form.jotform.com/251211114809042

FREE DOWNLOADS: BIZBaddies Broadcast: Free telegram channel for business owners - tips, mini-trainings, inspo, so much more! Download Telegram & Add the group here: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/svrnoe9m15

Cord-Cutting Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/pltqap92n8

Period Productivity Webinar https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/nd1rrhnvv3

Release Shame Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/mdthexhd06

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EPISODE 39: Transmuting the No: Turning Rejection into Power On this episode of the Business Baddies Podcast we're talking about something every person faces: rejection. Yep, the dreaded "no." But what if I told you that "no" doesn't have to stop you? That it can actually fuel you? I'm breaking down the difference between clean pain (the kind that helps us grow) vs dirty pain (the kind that keeps us stuck), and how you get to decide how much you suffer. Spoiler: suffering is optional, and power is a choice. I'm also spilling some tea of my own (you know the vibez)- real examples of how I've turned no's into power and confidence. Plus some mindset shifts to help you stay productive (even when you're in your feelings). This one's for the baddie who's learning to lead herself no matter what the world throws at her. FREE goodies: BIZBaddies Broadcast: Free telegram channel for business owners - tips, mini-trainings, inspo, so much more! Download Telegram & Add the group here: [BIZBADDIES BROADCAST]

Cord-Cutting Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/pltqap92n8

Period Productivity Webinar https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/nd1rrhnvv3

Release Shame Meditation https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/mdthexhd06

Asia's Email list: https://welcoming-union-712.myflodesk.com/xfeesxdy61

Asia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/asia.hilario

From Feeling Unworthy of Success & Procrastination to Launching her Dream Biz & Booking Clients with BBB Grad Lua Kiana

In this episode I interview recent graduate of my Brand Building Baddies group coaching cohort Lua who became a new entrepreneur at the start of the program and launched her dream business she had been sitting on for over a year!

In this episode we talk about the limiting beliefs BBB helped her push through and the deep inner child wounds (wounds from childhood) that were keeping her back from launching her dream business

Brand Building Baddies is my group coaching program for aspiring entrepreneurs (to officially launch their business and grow it) and the already established entrepreneur to elevate their online presence to grow in revenue and impact through mindset work and strategy (marketing). Open enrollment Feb 4th - 9th!

Baddies Group Coaching Cohort [INFO HERE]

Period Productivity Webinar [HERE]

Asia's Email list: [HERE]

Asia's Instagram: HERE

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Lua's info:

[Coaching information]

[Her instagram]

Facing Fears to Expand your Business: Booked out and Launched a New program as an aesthetic educator with BBB Grad Amelia of the Beauty Bar

In this episode we talk about:

• Her fears behind launching a new program as an aesthetic educator
• The inner child wounds that showed up in her business
• Her growth in my Brand Building Baddies Program
• Being a mompreneur

Brand Building Baddies is my group coaching program for aspiring entrepreneurs (to officially launch their business and grow it) and the already established entrepreneur to elevate their online presence to grow in revenue and impact through mindset work and strategy (marketing). Open enrollment Feb 4th - 9th!

Baddies Group Coaching Cohort [INFO HERE]

[January 28th, 2025] Content That Converts: Nail your Messaging to Create Demand Workshop: SIGN UP HERE

[January 29th, 2025] Mindset Workshop: Transmuting Fear into Courage: Sign Up Here

Period Productivity Webinar [HERE]

Asia's Email list: [HERE]

Asia's Instagram: HERE

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Amelia's info:

Instagram: [HERE]

Training, booking, more info: [HERE]