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In this episode, my guest David B. Alexander and I will discuss the essential elements of empathic communication, specifically focusing on Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication approach, and Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt's Imago Relationship Therapy.

Topics include Mirroring and Observations, Validation and Needs, Empathy and Feelings, and Behavior Change Requests, principles that apply to all of our relationships.

In this episode, my guest Michele Frimmer and I will discuss the importance and the power of an apology to heal a difficult relational moment but also how difficult it often is to use this powerful tool, because, depending on your point of view, an apology is either a heartfelt recognition of the hurt our partner is experiencing, or a completely undeserved criticism that must be defended against at any cost. We will discuss how to move from a position of defense, which creates a negative cycle, to a position of generosity, which creates a positive, healing cycle.