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Anonymous and her husband have been together for 16 years now, and for the most part their relationship was fine until he started gambling. 

He became more distant, wasn’t present in their relationship and started defaulting on some of his financial responsibilities. 

He got help to fix his gambling problem, but it didn’t seem to help and she feels like he didn’t really take it seriously and he returned to his gambling over and over again. 

At some point he became suicidal, and she brought this to the attention of his family but they didn’t really help either. 

He’s suggested that they get divorced in order to separate their assets but anonymous feels like she won’t re-marry him as he’s now a different man from the one she married….

Anonymous has been with his wife for 15 years now and they’ve been married for 5 of those years. 

The was an incident a few years ago in which his wife lied to him and said she was sleeping at home but he then realised that she wasn’t home and he tracked her car to a shared living property. He found her there with a man but she told him that she visiting the ladies who were also at the property. 

A couple of years later, a similar incident occurred, with the same guy….

Anonymous has been in a homosexual relationship with her partner for about 10 years now. 

A few years ago her sisters discovered that she was in a same-sex relationship, they told the rest the family, who then made things difficult between her and her partner for some time. 

Their relationship was then strained which led to them drifting apart, however, they eventually found each other and decided to build their relationship. 

They are doing well now and she wants to get married to her partner but she hasn’t come out to her family which has become a stumbling block. 

She understands that coming out to family is difficult, but she really would like to make things more solid between them. 

Anonymous has been engaged to her fiancé for about four years and since then they’ve been living at her fiancé’s father’s home, as the father is late. 

Her fiancé’s mother recently had a stroke and this led to anonymous and her fiancé needing to move in with his mother as he’s her only child. 

Her fiancé’s job keeps him away from home a lot so she’s often at the mother’s house without him there. This has caused a rift between them as his fiancé’s mother alway complains about her and the things she’s doing in the household. She doesn’t address these things with her directly but will speak to her son about these things. 

Anonymous got a new job back in 2023 and started going on casual dates with the guy that actually hired her, and they ended up having a casual sexual relationship with guy no.1.

They never really defined their relationship, and as a result anonymous was seeing other people and ended up sleeping with another man, guy no.2. 

She then fell pregnant and thought it was definitely guy no.1’s child but after finding out that she’s pregnant, guy no.2 suspected it was his baby and it later turned out to be true. 

She told guy no.1 about the paternity of her child, and to her surprise, he wasn’t moved by this and ended up helping anonymous through her pregnancy.

Anonymous is in a long distance relationship and says things took off quickly became serious between her and her partner. 

Anonymous says in the beginning of the relationship she told her partner that she likes living life on the fast lane and her partner said she’s fine with that, quote, “she can stand the rain”.

Ever since she lost her job, anonymous says,  her partner starting getting a bit cold and she wasn’t the same. There has now been situations where her partner would go out without really giving her much detail about her whereabouts and she finds this suspicious…

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 5 years now and says she was taking a break from relationships when she met him. 

As a single mother, she was attracted to the guy because he was a single father living with his children. The relationship was going well and they became a blended family and moved in together with her children, while his children moved to live with their mother. 

Her partner lost his job and they downscaled so her children moved back to the house that anonymous and her ex husband used to live in. 

He was a bit of a party animal and would come back home in the early hours of the morning, she called him out on this and he stopped that behaviour. 

They then had a conflict of sorts and he ended up sleeping over the mother of his children’s house...