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Anonymous has been single for about two years after getting out of a long-term relationship.

She decided to be celibate after the breakup and has kept things that way until she started seeing her former high school crush. 

Things were going well with this guy so and it ended up with her getting intimate with him and breaking her celibacy. 

She now feels a bit weird about sleeping with him and understand why. She has also found out that he’s actually in a serious relationship with someone else. 

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 9 years now, and says things were generally fine between them until she found out last year that he actually has children from a previous relationship that he didn’t tell her about. 

She was upset about this and confronted him, to which he responded by saying that she should be happy that he married her instead of the mother of his children. 

She is now in the process of divorcing him, however, the people in her life are calling her out, saying she’s overreacting by divorcing him. 

Anonymous says he persued his current partner for about two years before they eventually started dating. 

Their relationship was going well and she fell pregnant after they had agreed to have a baby together. His partner ended up aborting the baby as she was worried about how it would affect her mental health as she’s suffering from a mental condition.

This frustrated anonymous….

Anonymous started dating her partner about three years ago and says her partner cheated on her, with his ex, early on in their relationship but they overcame this and moved on with their relationship. 

She recently found texts on his phone to his friend where he was sharing with his friend about meeting up with another girl. 

She confronted him about this and he said it’s not something that actually happened or that he went through with, he was just trying to impress his friends, who apparently thrive on that kind of behaviour. 

She’s thinking of breaking up with him, but is not sure if thats the right choice. 

Anonymous was in a relationship with a lady last year and things were going until she confessed that she was actually in a relationship with an older man that she had previously claimed was her father. 

She told anonymous that she was going to break things off with the guy but he’s not sure whether she ever really tried to break up with him. 

Fast forward to this year, he found out that she is actually getting married to this other man, however, they hooked up the night before her lobola…

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 5 months now, they are both in their 30s, they have one child each, she lives with her child and he lives at his family home with his parents. 

He often visits her place on weekends when they are both free and while this arrangement initially worked she feels like he’s become a major cost to her pocket. She brought this up and ask him to contribute a little more to her household but he didn’t like her request and it has resulted in him breaking up with her. 

Anonymous has been in an on and off relationship with her high school sweetheart for about 7 years now and they are currently separated.

They’ve broken up for various reasons over the years, mostly because he keeps cheating on her with the same woman. 

Anonymous and this guy live quite far from each other now, and every time she’s away from their home town (for school) he seems to be with this other woman. 

She just wants to know if he really loves her or just likes having her around. 

Anonymous met her current partner while she was in varsity, while he was already working and had an established career. 

When she was younger she was more interested in building her career in her twenties and then maybe building a family in her early thirties.

However, her partner was really keen to get married and have children, something she wasn’t really keen for this early in her life but he was taking care of her and was really serious about her which she feels made her more open to the idea of settling down and building a family. 

They now have an 8 month-old baby but he’s changed his tune and is no longer supporting her and their baby in the way he used to. 

Anonymous has been with a man she’s “in love” with for about three years now, and they are both in their 50s. 

The relationship is going amazing, however, she has never been to his place and he always comes to his place. She has never met his family either and he never wants to go on extended vacations either.

She brought this up and he said she must give him time to figure things out in his life. She’s wondering if she’s the only women in his life. 

Anonymous has been with his partner and the mother of his children for about 16 years now. 

Things were generally fine between them until they had their first child in 2017, and says there was a rift between them and their families. They were able to get through all of that and even had their second child in 2021. 

In 2023 he caught her cheating when he saw her kissing another man. She initially denied this but they ended up breaking up. 

He moved out of their home and went back to his family home. Things fell apart in both their lives and he invited her to come stay at this family home with their children.