#AskAMan

Anonymous has been with her partner for about thirteen years and they have one child together. 

Her partner has never really worked throughout their relationship and hasn’t had enough income to be financially supportive in their relationship. 

He recently got inheritance and now wants to marry anonymous but she’s not sure she wants to get married to a man who she doesn’t believe will make something of his life. 

He also wants them to move in to his family home, which is something she’s not keen to do. 

Anonymous met a guy last year who she vibed with and they had some really good times together. 

He told her he really liked her and that he wanted to date her, but when she told him that she has a 90-day rule before she can get intimate with a guy she’s seeing, he ghosted her. 

Months later they rekindled things again and this time she ended up sleeping with him, however, things got weird again between them. 

She’s tried to move on from him, but he keeps reappearing in her life and she’s doesn’t know how get over her feelings for him.

Anonymous has been with her partner for about a year now and they moved in together about three months into the relationship. 

She says her partner is not an open communicator and tends to give her the silent treatment every time they have conflicts, leaving her to be the one to break the ice. 

She thinks he should be “manning” up and speaking up in these situations as that’s the kind of man she prefers to be with. She loves him and enjoys his warm character but doesn’t know if this the kind man she could marry one day.

Anonymous is in his late thirties and he’s currently in the process of getting divorced from his wife who he’s been with for about 18 years now. 

Early on in their relationship they were in a long distance relationship and he cheated on his wife with another woman who he impregnated. Over the years his partner, who he also has child with, knew about the other child but wouldn’t really allow anonymous to have a relationship with the child he had with the other woman. 

Fast forward a few years later, his wife cheated on him and this led to them separating. 

During their separation, he met someone else who he ended up impregnating….

Anonymous broke up with the mother of her two children back in 2018 and as a result she moved away, with their two kids, to her home province. 

They both found other partners and she even got married to someone else. 

The mother of her children moved away with his car and he let it go because the car would assist her in transporting their children. 

His worry now is that his ex’s husband is the one driving the car and it’s not even benefitting his children, he wonders if he should reclaim it from her or just let it go.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about 8 years now, she’s in her mid thirties, he’s in his late thirties, they have two children together and she came into their relationship with one child. 

They are both orphans and are responsible for their  siblings. She feels like her partner is having to sacrifice a lot in supporting his one brother…. The brother recently got into some trouble and….

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now and they have two children together. 

Her husband got sick and the doctors at the hospital were not able to diagnose what the problem was, so he then opted for spiritual intervention and started visiting a sangoma, despite their staunch Christian background. 

This made anonymous uneasy but she supported her husband in his quest to find healing. 

She says he’s now behaving differently and spends a lot of time with this sangoma. She doesn’t understand why all of this is happening but suspects the sangoma told her husband that she is cheating. 

Anonymous met a guy in 2018 and they started dating four months later, which was in 2019. 

When she met this guy, she was in a relationship that was falling apart and it eventually ended and she continued with the guy she met in 2018. 

Early on in their relationship he confessed to her that he is in a long distance relationship with another woman who lives in another province. He initially said he’d leave the other woman but later on this woman fell pregnant with his child. 

They were able to move on from this but their relationship has been weird and he has been offish towards her….

Anonymous has been with her partner for about a year now and she’s currently pregnant with their first child. 

She feels like they haven’t been on the same page about the pregnancy or the future of their relationship. As a pregnant woman, he hasn’t been caring for her or giving her time and she’s currently in her third trimester. 

She doesn’t know what to read into his behaviour. 

Anonymous has been in a relationship with her partner for about 3 years and says their relationship is great, and he ticks most of the boxes of what she’s looking for a in a partner. 

The only issue she has with him is his behaviour in the bedroom, as she feels like he’s become sexually selfish. 

It wasn’t always like this but lately he rushes through foreplay and doesn’t listen to what she wants and always wants them to do things his way in the bedroom.