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Anonymous has been with her boyfriend for about 8 years now and they have a child together. 

She’s in her mid-twenties and he’s in his mid-thirties. They stay in separate houses, both at their parent’s homes. 

After her grandparents advised that they should be married and living together for the sake of their child, anonymous’ boyfriend broke things off with her because of this.

Anonymous is in her early thirties and she is in a relationship with a man who is twenty years older than her. 

She went through her partner’s phone months ago and found out that he was cheating. After confronting him about this he said she wasn’t mentally well since losing her father late  last year and she needed to to deal with that. 

Months later she found out he was cheating again, and again 

Anonymous and his wife are married with two children, however, he recently realised that his wife has been having sex with multiple men and he even thinks some it is transactional. 

He discovered this on her phone and he finds himself confused by the whole situation.

Anonymous says when he previously realised she was sleeping with someone else, he suggested they make their relationship and open relationship, however, he feels like she’s taken that too far.

Anonymous’ younger half-sister recently moved to his house as she could no longer live at res. 

However, his girlfriend has expressed that she’s uncomfortable with him living with his sister suspecting that he might have an affair with his sister. 

They fought about this and are now not really on speaking terms. He’s offended by this and doesn’t understand why his partner is reacting this way. 

Anonymous has been dating a married man for a while now, and his wife found out about three years ago, despite this, they continued with their relationship. 

Her issue now is that she feels like the man’s wife is now keeping tabs on her movements and stalking her. 

Anonymous initially ended things with him after his wife found out but he came saying his wife was ok with the situation. However, it doesn’t appear that way now and she’s not sure what to do. 

Anonymous says she made a pact with herself that she would like to keep her past in her past but she recently ran into a guy from her past. 

Things didn’t end well between them, but it wasn’t too bad, as they were in a casual relationship.

They spoke for a bit and she enjoyed the moment so much that she now wonders if it’s worth rekindling. 

Anonymous met a guy a few months ago while at a funeral, they hit it off and ended up engaging in a one night stand. 

He revealed to her that he has a partner and they have two children, but they continued chatting anyway, although that faded because she became a little bored of him. 

They eventually ran into each other on Tik Tok and started talking again which led to them rekindling their relationship. 

They’ve since met up a couple of times but she says he never seems to have time for her, and while she enjoys their sexual relationship, she wants more from him.

Anonymous has been with her partner for 12 years and they’ve been married for 6 of those years.

Their marriage happened as result of anonymous falling pregnant and they had one other child after getting married. 

She’s found out a few times that he was cheating and when she addresses this and other issues in their relationship, he shuts her down and tells her that she should be more grateful of the things he has done for her. 

Anonymous has been with her partner since 2020 and two years after being together she fell pregnant and they moved in together. 

He’s always had a problem with over-drinking, and spends a lot of his time hanging out with his friends. This behaviour  has also affected his work life. 

He’s also epileptic and has had a few seizure episodes. As a result she’s been advising him to slow down on the drinking but he never heeds her advice.