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Anonymous and his partner have been  together for 8 months. 

They recognised early on in their relationship that they have differences in terms of their religious beliefs but continued with their relationship. She’s tried to follow his religion but it hasn’t really worked out and she’s told him that she sees God differently to how he sees God. 

They are now in conflict over this and are not seeing eye to eye. He’s not sure if their relationship will survive but he loves her a lot. 

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years. 

They met during a tumultuous period in both their lives as he was going through a divorce when they met and months into their relationship she lost her mother. 

This meant that there was a lot of trauma bonding early in their relationship, however, as they healed from their difficult situations, they started to get into a lot of conflicts because of their different outlooks on life including marriage, children and financial prospects.

They’ve been separated for two months now, and she’s not sure if they should get back together. 

Anonymous started dating a guy early this year after he moved into her neighbourhood late last year. He’s generally a great partner when he’s around but he has a tendency to switch off and ghost her. When he’s back he showers her with gifts, and wants to act as if this are fine and back to normal.

Anonymous was in an 8 year long relationship that ended less than two months ago as result of her now ex partner being abusive. 

Shortly after breaking up her long term partner she reached out to another guy who had been pursuing her for over a year. They started casually dating as the guy was in a relationship with someone else. 

She’s was ok with the fact that he was with someone else as that would keep their relationship casual. 

The guy now wants to break up with his girlfriend so he can be with anonymous but she’s not interested in having anything serious currently as she’s still recovering from her previous relationship. 

She’s not sure if she should break things off him as she also does have deeper feelings for the guy.

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost 9 years and says while he was the perfect gentleman when they started dating, she cheated on him in the early stages of their relationship. 

After that he was a changed man and was also cheating on her. At some point he got physically violent towards her after he incorrectly believed  that she had slept with his best friend. They broke up after this incident but got back together because she was pregnant with their child, who was born in 2022.

He continued to be unfaithful and they’ve been in an on-and-off relationship since then as result of his cheating.

Anonymous has been with his wife for 8 years and they’ve been married for two of those years. 

He has been in a relationship with another woman for the last three years. His wife once found out about the other woman, he left lady no.2 as a result but ended up getting back together with lady no.2 without his wife knowing. 

His wife has once again caught on to his side relationship and has given him an ultimatum. He, however, loves both women and would like to pursue a polygamous relationship, but he’s note sure how to go about it. 

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years and says the most part their relationship has been great. 

They struggle with conflict management in the relationship and she feels like he doesn’t really consider her feelings or her needs. 

He also says she doesn’t take accountability for her actions, but she feels like it’s actually the other way around. 

While she thinks he’s a nice guy, she’s not sure if he’s good at being a romantic partner. 

Anonymous was caught cheating by his partner yesterday after she looked through his phone, while he was sleeping, and saw texts between him and a lady he cheated on her with, who is now pregnant with his child. 

He says he was a womaniser for many years and he’s now in a committed relationship but is struggling to say no when ladies make advances towards him. 

He knows this is a problem, and he wants to change but he’s struggling. 

Anonymous is in her mid-twenties and is currently dating a man who’s ten years older than her. 

They met online and got to know each other really well as they were chatting a lot. Through this he was able to share that his mother is not well, dealing with a metal health issue. She’s since met his sister who is also dealing with a mental health issue. 

He did reveal to her that he once went through a depression when he went through a tough time in his business which he lost. Times are tough in his family and he’s struggling with this, which has affected their relationship. 

Anonymous says her brother is the problem in her relationship. They don’t have parents and it’s just the two of them at home. 

She has been with her partner for a while, they came into their relationship with children and she’s now pregnant with their first child. 

Her partner wants to marry her but her brother is refusing, which is blocking the traditional processes they need to follow in order to get married. 

This is now affecting her relationship with her partner, who’s not happy that they can’t be a family because of her brother.