Authentic On Air with Bruce Alexander

On today’s episode of Authentic On Air the topic of worthiness is the focus and it is an intriguing exploration of where to look for your personal value.

Whether you see your value or not you have it.

When you see it you start to treat yourself like you are worth a shit. From there you can start to make decisions that drive you to your purpose.

Big takeaway: Know your worth and act accordingly.

Live by a code. Tell the truth about your situations and deal with what you can prove to be true.

Define a desired result and address the facts in a way that gets you the result you want.

If what you want is to stop letting life happen to you we should have a conversation.

At Impulsive we stop the guilt fear and shame conditioned into us and learn how to live by a code and deal in the currency of truth and the facts.

From there we teach you how to trust your impulses to guide you to a future of passion and purpose. www.impulsive.life/consult

If you are an ADHD adult it almost impossible to have a solid self-perception in this day and age. You were raised being told so much of what you naturally are is not ok.

Intense. Unfiltered. Impulsive. Emotional. Talkative. Awkward. Uncomfortable.

If you don’t feel like any of those things describe you try to remember the young version of you on the playground or the classroom being ostracized. Then try to shed the social norms that you have assimilated as preferred behavior and realize what is left is who you actually are.

The dissonance that is created between the core you and the one that is shown to the world today causes a lot of internal conflict that shows itself in some funky ways.

For me it was body dysmorphia and serial suppression to try and keep the depression and pain at bay. That started at a very young age. I just wanted to be a kid. But between my parents and the public school system I was told there was a specific type of kid I needed to be to be accepted in society.

In becoming that type I buried the real me deep inside until many years later and when I looked in the literal and metaphorical mirror it was always warped.

It showed parts of me as bigger than they were and others the reverse. Never could I just see myself for as I really was.

Long story short, do not make decisions based on how you feel about what you see in the warped mirror!

Live by a code. Tell the truth about your situations and deal with what you can prove to be true. Define a desired result and address the facts in a way that gets you the result you want.

If what you want is to stop letting life happen to you we should have a conversation. At Impulsive we stop the guilt fear and shame conditioned into us and learn how to do just like I said before. Live by a code and deal in the currency of truth and the facts and from there teach you how to trust your impulses to guide you to a future of passion and purpose. www.impulsive.life/consult

If you like my content and the way I teach then you will love my webinar on the connect method. If you are an ADHD parent I can almost guarantee there is at least one important relationship that you are struggling to find deep engagement in. Whether it be with your spouse, your teenagers or pre-teens, your best friend or your father. The Connect Method teaches you how to find a deeper connection than you have ever known so you can Connect with who matters most. That is taught on Thursdays @ 3:30 pm central go to www.impulsive.life/connect to register right now!

Indecision has costs me so much over my life!

Years of deep engagement with my family.

Hundreds of thousands of dollars left on the table.

My fitness. A 400 lb bench press that I was just days away from.

Everything I have lost in this life has been from 1 of 2 things. Indecision and lies. More often than not they could be tied to the same root!

What decision are you putting off and what is it costing you?

For example if you are putting off the decision to do everything that it takes to reconnect with your spouse in a deep and meaningful way it is going to cost you… big.

But it doesn’t have to. Thursdays at 3:30pm central I will be teaching the Connect method to engage in dormant, distant, or estranged relationships with your closest loved ones.

Go to www.impulsive.life/connect to sign up for this free webinar and learn this method which can bring even the worst connections back from the dead. If love ever existed in a relationship there is a path back, you just have to make the decision to do what it takes.

**Episode Description:**

In this enlightening episode of Authentic On Air, host Bruce Alexander welcomes Dr. Alondra Rogers, a dedicated social worker, autism consultant, author, and mother, for a profound conversation on neurodiversity, late diagnosis, and the journey of living and parenting within the autistic and ADHD spectrum. Dr. Rogers shares her personal and professional insights into the challenges and beauties of neurodivergence, highlighting the significance of self-awareness, acceptance, and the pursuit of authentic identity in a world that often misunderstands neurodiverse individuals.

**Key Takeaways:**

1. The Importance of Self-Identification: Dr. Rogers' story emphasizes the transformative power of understanding one's neurodivergence and advocating for oneself and one's family.

2. The Role of Professional Support: The discussion underscores the necessity of finding empathetic and knowledgeable support for navigating life as a neurodivergent individual or parent.

3. The Power of Community: Both guests advocate for the value of connecting with others who share similar experiences, reinforcing the importance of community in the journey toward self-acceptance.

**Resources:**

- Dr. Alondra Rogers' Books: "Thriving Together" and "Meeting Myself in the Dark"

- Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN)

- Neuroclastic

- Embrace Autism

**Learn More About Coach Bruce:**

Coach Bruce Alexander specializes in helping individuals, especially parents, embrace their authentic selves and manage the complexities of ADHD and autism in their families. With a focus on personal growth and community support, Bruce offers guidance and resources for navigating neurodiversity with grace and confidence.

Consultation: www.authenticidentitymanagement.com/consultation

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:37 Late Diagnosis and Personal Experiences

06:53 Comparative Diagnosis and Self-Realization

09:18 Challenges in Getting a Diagnosis

13:34 The Complexity of Eye Contact and Masking

22:13 The Importance of Sharing Personal Experiences

26:07 Choosing a Career Path and Authenticity

29:01 The Challenge of Showing Up as Yourself

32:12 The Boundaries and Education of Therapy

37:09 Life Coaching and Holding Space

38:28 The Transformative Power of Therapy

39:28 Managing Emotional Investment in Therapy

42:14 Living a Neurodivergent Lifestyle

45:59 Trusting Your Inner Voice

46:24 The Reversion of Skills in Autism

50:17 Orienting to a New Reality

54:26 Empowerment through Training and ADHD

56:56 Understanding Autism Speaks

59:36 Finding Resources for ADHD and Autism

01:03:05 Curating Social Media Accounts

01:08:25 Respecting Children's Privacy on Social Media

01:10:15 Dr. Alondra Rogers' Work and Consultancy

Summary

In this episode, Coach Bruce opens up his journal and discusses random topics. He shares his experiences of being off medication and the challenges he faces in preparing for his podcast.

He explores the power of his own thoughts and beliefs, particularly around self-worth and body image. Bruce delves into the concept of expanding capacity and the importance of being true to oneself. He also discusses the impact of unconscious lies and the need to uncover internal truths. The episode concludes with a discussion on the future direction of the podcast.

Listen... I've been off of ADHD meds for over 2 weeks now and I have had full schedule.

So today I am going to cover 4-6 random topics from my personal digital conversations called the stack. There is a lot of really personal shit in there that I could possibly regret airing out but I'm feeling impulsive.

I am trying to be totally transparent with my audience anyways so let's just do it!

If you are interested in living a life so real that you could read your journal live and not have anything to hide than I can help you!

But you have to ask for help first! Go to http://www.authenticidentitymanagement.com/assessment and take the ADHD Aimless Life assessment to get your Aimless Life Rating and free resources from me to start living your life on purpose!

Don't forget to like and comment on the video and follow me @AuthenticBruce on all platforms!

Takeaways

• Being off medication allows for more impulsivity and freedom to be oneself.

• Defining the problem and possibility is crucial for problem-solving.

Is Adderall my blessing and my curse?

I can’t really feel. I can identify.

I can define but I can’t capitalize on feelings as fuel if I don’t actually feel them.

You will forget this again and again unless you live by a code.

What is a huge fucking choice you have been ignoring that could unlock the next major step in your life?

That's ok. I am breaking that pattern so I don't find myself back in a life I don't know again. If you need help breaking your patterns go to https://www.authenticidentitymanagement.com/assessment and take the ADHD Aimless Life Assessment to see if you are on the road that was almost a dead end for me.

It is not my aim to Shepard every ADHD parent in the world to the life that they deserve but I do want every neurodivergent parent to find the passion for life I have found again! I want it for you! You are my people!

If my message resonates with you then you should take the aimless life assessment right now because I have clear steps for you to follow to start your journey to go and get that life.

If you don’t like me or my energy find someone else but do something. Put a message in the comments and I will even help you find resources that have nothing to do with my that fit you better!

But I want you to commit today to take control! Stop letting life happen to you and start making it happen for you. Time is a wasting!

I went all in on myself as a meat cutter, as a restaurant manager, as a firefighter, as a public educator and now as a business owner. Why did giving everything I had to the job not yield the success I desired?

In this compelling episode, Coach Bruce Alexander dives into his neurodivergent struggles within various work environments, from being a meat cutter to a public educator and now an entrepreneur. Bruce reflects on his journey of misunderstanding workplace dynamics, the challenge of building relationships, and his pursuit of success through hyper-focus on tasks, often neglecting the essential aspect of social integration.

**Key Takeaways:**

1. **Understanding Neurodiversity in the Workplace**: Bruce's story highlights the unique challenges neurodivergent individuals face in standard work settings.

2. **The Importance of Relationships**: The episode underscores the critical role of building and maintaining work relationships for career advancement.

3. **Self-Reflection and Growth**: Bruce shares his evolution in recognizing the value of feedback and the necessity of aligning with organizational goals.

**Resources:**

- **Aimless Life Assessment**: A tool for listeners to evaluate their career and life satisfaction, available at www.authenticidentitymanagement.com/assessment.

- **Support for Neurodivergent Individuals**: Bruce provides insights into navigating neurotypical work environments and advocating for oneself.

**Learn More About Coach Bruce:**

As a coach, Bruce Alexander specializes in assisting ADHD parents in finding balance and purpose. With a focus on authenticity and neurodiversity, Bruce is dedicated to helping others embrace their unique selves and overcome the challenges posed by conventional work structures.

**Episode Description for Authentic On Air with Bruce Alexander: Season 2, Episode 2 - "My Neurodivergent Struggle Against Work"**

In this compelling episode, Coach Bruce Alexander dives into his neurodivergent struggles within various work environments, from being a meat cutter to a public educator and now an entrepreneur. Bruce reflects on his journey of misunderstanding workplace dynamics, the challenge of building relationships, and his pursuit of success through hyper-focus on tasks, often neglecting the essential aspect of social integration.

**Key Takeaways:**

1. **Understanding Neurodiversity in the Workplace**: Bruce's story highlights the unique challenges neurodivergent individuals face in standard work settings.

2. **The Importance of Relationships**: The episode underscores the critical role of building and maintaining work relationships for career advancement.

3. **Self-Reflection and Growth**: Bruce shares his evolution in recognizing the value of feedback and the necessity of aligning with organizational goals.

**Resources:**

- **Aimless Life Assessment**: A tool for listeners to evaluate their career and life satisfaction, available at www.authenticidentitymanagement.com/assessment .

- **Support for Neurodivergent Individuals**: Bruce provides insights into navigating neurotypical work environments and advocating for oneself.

**Learn More About Coach Bruce:**

As a coach, Bruce Alexander specializes in assisting ADHD parents in finding balance and purpose. With a focus on authenticity and neurodiversity, Bruce is dedicated to helping others embrace their unique selves and overcome the challenges posed by conventional work structures.

Moments:

00:00

Introduction

02:23

Main Takeaways

04:18

Blaming Others and Lack of Relationship Building

05:15

Feedback and Perception

07:11

Recognizing Neurodivergence

08:38

Understanding the Neurotypical Workplace

09:38

Accepting Uniqueness and Seeking Help

10:08

Storytime: Recognizing Signs of Job Loss

11:39

Supporting Friends in Difficult Situations

12:39

Struggles in the Fire Department

14:20

Reputation and Masking

15:49

Distracting and Numbing Oneself

17:19

Consequences of Numbing

18:00

Losing Connection with God

19:45

Taking Control and Finding Purpose

20:44

Call to Action

21:30

Consider the Consequences

22:00

Closing Remarks

Does religious Practice need to look different neurodivergents?

In this groundbreaking episode, Coach Bruce Alexander embarks on a deeply personal journey, exploring the intersection of neurodiversity and faith. Titled "My Neurodivergent Struggle with God," Bruce delves into the complexities of maintaining religious practice as an adult diagnosed with ADHD and autism.

He shares his lifelong battle with self-doubt, the challenge of reconciling impulsive and consistent aspects of faith, and how neurodivergent individuals can redefine their spiritual path.

1.  **Neurodiversity and Faith**: Understanding how ADHD and autism impact religious practice and belief.

**Resources:**

•  **Free Assessment Tool**:

• Visit ADHD burnout/aimless life assessment quiz for personalized guidance on navigating neurodiversity and control.

• Engage with communities that focus on neurodiversity and spirituality.

**Learn More About Coach Bruce:**

Bruce Alexander is not only the voice behind Authentic On Air but also a dedicated ADHD life coach. His mission is to guide individuals through their struggles with neurodiversity, offering tools and strategies for embracing their authentic selves and leading a life filled with passion and purpose.

Consult with Coach Bruce

00:00 Introduction to Season 2

03:13 My Neurodivergent Struggle with God

04:12 Religious Practice for Neurodivergent People

08:07 The Impact of ADHD and Autism on Religious Practice

16:00 Setting a Different Standard for Neurodivergent People

23:30 The Importance of a Foundation and Personal Goals

25:06 Does Religious Practice Need to Look Different for Neurodivergence?

30:44 Redefining Success and Making Choices

37:24 Taking Action and Saying Yes to Growth

38:07 Conclusion and Call to Action

Podcast overhaul| Coach Bruce discusses rebranding his podcast

Yikes! I am burning everything I have done for my podcast to the ground!

Well not exactly. I am going to hang on to a couple of assets and ideas but what comes on season 2 of Authentic On Air with Bruce Alexander should feel drastically different. I hope you will love it!

And if you don't that's ok because someone will!