Why is change so hard? As a general rule, people would rather be ruined, crushed, belittled, or abused than change. Most of us are only willing to question 5% of our present knowledge. We introduce the two most unintelligent and uninformed words in the English language.

Best selling author, leadership coach, motivational speaker, and top-rated podcaster TJ Hoisington is back for a segment on Self Love. He recently wrote a piece in LinkedIn along with a video on Self Love. The time went too fast and we both concluded wishing we had more time to unzip this fascinating topic.

TING’s live in the Me Pyramid of seeking agreement, blaming, justifying and denial. What does it look like to hold a conversation outside the Me Pyramid where mutual trust and respect is present? Hear a true story of unfettered emotions in less that four minutes with virtual strangers using the techniques.

There are two positions in a conversation, power and control. Should I take both, maybe just one or do I avoid them both? How does a TED handle conversations?

A TED is someone who is interesTED. And a TING is someone who is interesTING. A TED knows how to listen, while a TING knows how to talk. Today we address the question of creating a sense of control in your conversations.

At 02:00, Officer’s Bruce and George receive a domestic dispute call in a rough part of town known for drugs and gangs. Using empathy and self-expression, we explore the potential impact of police officers making a domestic dispute call with low empathy and low self-expression. Then reverse it and imagine what happens with high empathy and high self-expression. The last story is how Officer’s Bruce and George actually handled the call. You’ll laugh at the ingenuity of their solution.

Cheri shares her mother’s feelings about her husband (me) for the first time in 36 years. This is a great example of how perceptions impact behavior despite words to the contrary. We can’t hide our true feelings (sub-conscious), which supports Dr. Rosenthal’s pygmalion theory.

Today we define Emotional Intelligence and journey through daily life probing the role of self-awareness and self-regulation. What do relationships look like when our self-awareness is low? One cannot regulate a different behavior if one doesn’t know that their behavior is dysfunctional. Today’s case study is a fictitious couple stuck in their immaculate perception box.

Each of us creates our own story and biases regarding life. Our social landscape is currently driven by individual and group immaculate perceptions and it’s ripping our families apart. Today we discuss Rosenthal’s research of fibbing to a teacher about her students’ IQ and then observing how her beliefs about the student increased their IQ scores after one year.

We are delighted to welcome a good friend and brilliant mind to our show today, TJ Hoisington.

TJ is an American author, professional speaker, entrepreneur, business consultant and publisher. His book, If You Think You Can!: Thirteen Laws That Govern the Performance of High Achievers is sold in 34 countries and also author of Return to Robinson Island, a sequel based Swiss Family Robinson. He is the host of Web show Lessons on Success, where he interviews high achievers.

Our final segment with TJ (for now). How does one move from being stuck in familiar? We summarize finding hope through awareness, accepting oneself and growing strength through acceptance and recognizing that living in your passion doesn’t mean you will always make money doing so. AND it’s okay if things don’t always work our perfectly. Listen to TJ explain how he met some of the most influential people in his life, in person.