Every family has the constant critic, sarcasticist, or bully. In this episode, Dr. Himmer and Cheri address civility with boundaries by using a workplace case study. Fred is a bully boss and Nancy is nice, meaning, she doesn’t know how to hold her boundaries. In Take 2 of the case study, Nancy is civil with boundaries and takes control over the conversation with Fred.

In this podcast we discuss dealing with the in-laws or family during holiday get togethers. Too often family gatherings are like petri dishes of dysfunctional behavior. It’s important to recognize and itemize your FOOD (Family Of Origin Dysfunction). The Himmer’s reminisce about their first Christmas.

What does it mean to have civility with boundaries. Today’s case study highlights two long-time friends and the addiction of venting. Friends don’t let friends vent. Review of Rules of Engagement.

Description: TED vs. TING (interesTED vs. interesTING). One is safe space without unsolicited opinions and one makes it all about them. Today we learn how to develop trust in space where none exists. We use the acronym of FLPPN (Frequent, Low-risk, Personal, Positive, Neutral).

We, as a society, are normed to offering our opinions without invitation. In our attempt to grab the three A’s (Affirmation, Affection, Approval), we remove safe space from our conversations and push family, friends, and coworkers away. Listen to our case study of a new Scoutmaster and his attempt in getting one of his Scouts to the meetings.

The classic argument of nature vs. nurture. We get the ball rolling with research done on the Maori people and the warrior gene. How our FOOD (Family Of Origin Dysfunctions) plays a significant role in our lives.