I grew up being guilt-leveraged (shame based parenting, teaching etc.) and most everything I did seemed like it was a sin according to the adults in my life. What if focusing on the sin is dysfunctional and not productive? For every sin there is a cause. You address the cause you stop the sin. Seems to make more sense.

Conclusion of trigger buster. Being aware of sounds, smells, words, phrases, people, positions, etc. Cheri practices a trigger busting protocol in mindfulness.

How to better understand the role of expectations in our triggers and addictions. Using two case studies, one about Cheri's mom, who was a human time vacuum, and the story of the toilet seat. Why are men always wrong when it comes to the toilet seat?

Full review of addiction, trigger-reaction-consequence vs. cue-respond-reward, immaculate perception and the trigger busting process

Expectations are a guaranteed pathway to frustration, especially when they are based on how you want things to be (Expectation B) instead of how things have always been (Expectation A). After you discern the difference, you practice acceptance for perceived dysfunctional behavior.

How to change your position from reactive (trigger to flooded) to responsive (cue’d to reward) in three steps. It’s time to preplan going into fight or flight. In other words, how to preplan being a jerk and then not being a jerk.

While in isolation, cloistered in the darkness of his room and skipping dinner, Bobby gets a phone call from Brenda excited to see him, having just woken up for a needed nap. Whoops! Bobby’s journey from being triggered to flooded has created unnecessary anxiety and family drama.

Bobby’s girl friend, Brenda, has found another love. OR has she? Is it possible that Bobby is making up something that doesn’t exist because he’s flooded and his immaculate perception has created multiple prediction errors?

Jillian’s intervention with Buck and her challenges to the team and to Buck.

The profile of an accidental bully. How to use emotional intelligence with your co-workers.