Awaken The Rebel

This week I have TEDx Talk speaker, best-selling author, and viral TikTok sensation Terrance McMahon on the podcast. Terrance has lived a LIFE ya'll, from selling life insurance door-to-door to finding major success as a CEO to almost dying of massive organ failure to writing the comeback story of the century. And he's here to tell us what it truly takes to transform.

In this episode, you will hear:

• How his near-death experience set the stage for him to live a life of meaning
• What he did to recreate his self-image from broken to beautiful
• The definition of strategic philanthropy and how to use it to serve others while monetizing your ideal lifestyle
• Why changing your environment could be the key to changing your life
• How to craft your own comeback story

Coaching Questions & Thoughts: What reputations do you have that you're currently living up to? What new ones could you adopt to help create a new, more-aligned identity?

Can you think of a time where the worst thing that's ever happened to you actually turned out to be the best thing?

What is your healing message that the world needs to hear?

If today was the start of your comeback story, how might it look?

Quotes: "The Japanese believe that your scars shouldn't be hidden. There shouldn't be paint over your scars. They should be emblazoned and celebrated as an achievement." - Terrance McMahon

"It's about being broken and loving the fact that you are blessed with such an opportunity." - Terrance McMahon

"Sometimes it's not the player. It's the stadium." - Terrance McMahon

"It's not really about being happy all the time because you're happy when you're watching Netflix. But are you fulfilled? Do you feel like you're making an impact?" - Shereen Thor

"The persona I've created out in the world is someone who does not tolerate things that she is unhappy with. And because of that, I then live up to my own message." - Shereen Thor

"You getting out and sharing a healing message is part of your own healing." - Shereen Thor

Resources:

Bronnie Ware's Book "The Top Five Regrets Of The Dying"

Terrance McMahon's TED Talk "From From Broken to Beautiful:

An Algorithm to RE-create Yourself"

Terrance McMahon's Best-Selling Book "Superhero Self: How To Recover From Anything"

Kintsugi, The Japanese Art Of Restoring Broken Pottery

Ikigai Diagram

Terrance McMahon's TikTok

How To Win Friends And Influence People

Terrance McMahon's Instagram

Terrance McMahon's Website

Stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at www.awakentherebel.com.

This week I have successful entrepreneur, multimillionaire real estate investor, author, speaker, and my homie from high school, Jamil Frazier joining us to talk about how chasing freedom changed his life. Jamil is a true testament to what can happen when you become the surgical master of your mind, and there's so much we can learn from his story.

In this episode, you will hear:

• How he went from growing up on welfare and living paycheck to paycheck to becoming a multimillionaire entrepreneur
• What shifts he made to pull himself out of a two-year battle with depression
• The magic that can happen when you stop asking yourself what the world can do for you and instead question what you could do for the world
• The one sentence that changed his entire worldview
• Tips for shifting from an egoic perspective to one that's more service-oriented
• How to stop holding yourself captive to an outdated playbook and start designing a life you love by leading from the future

Coaching Questions & Thoughts: Where in your life have you been living from an egoic place and questioning, "why is this happening to me?"

In what ways could you start to shift your perspective to one that's more service-oriented?

Who do you have to become to achieve the goals you've set for yourself?

Quotes: "In order for me to heal internally, I had to figure out how to help other people heal." - Jamil Frazier

"It's not actually about the money, it's about who you are becoming." - Shereen Thor

"We can get stuck in the ideology of why is this happening to me, and when we start to live from that space, and we lack the ability to take responsibility for our lives, then things get really, really challenging." - Jamil Frazier

"It doesn't take much to become highly successful, but it does take a shift in the way we think." - Jamil Frazier

"Most of us are living in a cage that's not even ours. Somebody else has given us that cage, and now we become prisoners to it." - Jamil Frazier

"Once we start to understand how to control our mind and our thought processes, we can literally create whatever it is that we want to create." - Jamil Frazier

Resources:Jamil's second book "The Twelve Shifts: Your Superpowers for Creating an Invincible Life"

Jamil's first book "The Richest Man In Direct Sales"

Think Life Is Different

Stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at www.awakentherebel.com.

At its core, reality TV shows are just about people fighting. While it's great to watch when you want to decompress, series like Keeping Up With The Kardashians can actually teach us a few critical things about conflict and bullying. This week, I'm breaking down a particularly disturbing episode I watched recently and how it highlights the importance of giving yourself permission to do what you want in the face of bullies, shame, and societal pressure.

In this episode, you will hear:

• A lesson in group dynamics (and which one the Kardashian sisters are experiencing)
• The importance of respecting others' values and how they choose to live their lives
• What can happen when you let people dictate the narrative of your life for too long
• A case for living your truth and owning your desires (and how not doing so can impact your relationships)
• How to handle the bullies in your life before you snap like a maniac and draw blood

Coaching Questions & Thoughts: Where in your life are you disrespecting your own boundaries in an effort to make someone else happy?

Where in your life are you honoring someone else's needs over your own?

Could you honor yourself more and give yourself what you need and want more than you currently are?

Quotes: "Life will be better if you accept me for who I am and what I choose and if I accept you for who you are and what you choose." - Shereen Thor

"Let's not be a bully who shames and blames and outcasts people for not falling in line." - Shereen Thor

"There will be the bullies out there who try to force you to be who they want you to be. It's up to you to not contort so long that you snap like a maniac and draw blood." - Shereen Thor

Resources:

A deeper dive into group dynamics

The disturbing fight between Kim and Kourtney

Stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at www.awakentherebel.com.

This week, we have retired firefighter turned women's empowerment coach Lauren Glick on the podcast to talk all things confidence — and how movement is the key to self-esteem. Through her community BadassBods, Lauren is on a mission to take the work out of working out and make exercise fun again.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Her personal experience with how a stressful environment can lead to serious autoimmune issues (not to mention stubborn weight)
• Her transition from retiring early from her dream job to becoming a Tony Robbins coach
• How weight loss is just a byproduct of building confidence
• Ways to ground yourself in the present moment
• What "signs" really look like (and what it truly means to be "ready" for the next step)
• The vital role community plays in our motivation
• And how healing your relationship with your body can help you uncover your true power

Coaching Questions & Thoughts: How would you describe your relationship with your body and movement? Do you see exercise as a form of punishment or self-care?

Describe your current work and home environment. Are there any stressful or toxic situations that could be impacting your health?

When was the last time you felt confident? What was it that contributed to that?

If you want to lose weight or change your body in some way, what's the underlying reason? Is there any way you could make that reason a reality without a physical change?

Quotes: "You are what you become, and I became that stress." — Lauren Glick

"The scary things are the things you must do to grow in life." — Lauren Glick

"The people who are 'ready' are the ones who go after it." — Lauren Glick

"Helping women lose weight is just a byproduct of helping women gain their confidence." — Lauren Glick

"Let's ground ourselves in movement. Let's feel good in our bodies." — Lauren Glick

"When you get down to somebody's reason why they want to lose the weight, most of the time it has something to do with how they're feeling about themselves." — Lauren Glick

Resources:

@thelaurenglick on Instagram

BadassBods.com

The BadassBods Facebook Group

Heal, a Netflix documentary about the power of the mind

Untamed By Glennon Doyle

Fast Foundations Mastermind Group

Lindsey Schwartz of Powerhouse Women

Stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at www.awakentherebel.com.

This week, I wanted to introduce you to one of the coolest guys I know. Jason Stapleton is an entrepreneur, business coach, and host of "Wealth, Power & Influence with Jason Stapleton," which became the number one libertarian podcast on iTunes within 18 months of launching and currently has over 30,000 daily listeners. In this episode, Jason takes us to church and goes deep on how he grew a multi-million dollar brand and found his definition of true freedom.

In this episode, you will hear:

• How Jason went from being a veteran struggling to find satisfaction in his post-military career to building the "perfect business"
• The philosophy behind his new book, "The Nomadic Wealth Formula"
• What three things we must acquire if we want to achieve true freedom
• Why we're much more in control of our lives (and our income) than we think
• What it means to improve your human capital
• How to maintain your voice while still changing the world
• Easy ways to start adopting a winner's mindset (even when you feel like a total failure)

Coaching Questions & Thoughts:

How much control do you have over your income right now? Are all your eggs in one basket, or are they more spread out?

How could you reorganize your life so that your income was more secure and in your control?

What experience or skill do you possess that other people could benefit from learning?

How close are you to true freedom right now? What's one thing you could do to bring yourself closer?

What "little wins" can you be grateful for?

Quotes:

"Controlling the source of your income, being able to choose how and when your money comes to you, who you work with, who you're going to take money from is a necessity in order for us to be free." - Jason Stapleton

"It's not the government, it's not the election, it's not the Constitution that gives you your freedoms. It's you." - Jason Stapleton

"Whether you're whether you're on the mountain and everything is going good, or you're down in the gutter, if you accept the fact that you're responsible for where you are, then that means you can change." - Jason Stapleton

"It's about creating converts, not winning arguments." - Jason Stapleton

"The best thing you can do if you're trying to sell somebody something is to enter the conversation they're already having in their own heads." - Jason Stapleton

Resources:

Jason Stapleton's Website

Wealth, Power & Influence with Jason Stapleton

The Nomadic Wealth Formula

Stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at www.awakentherebel.com.

Don't worry — I'm not about to become another true crime podcast. Conspiracy theories and tragic news stories are almost a form of entertainment in today's society. And in this episode, I want to dissect how giving our attention to things like conspiracy theories can impact our energy and prevent us from living a life on purpose.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Why you should be aware of the type of information you consume and how it makes you feel
• How to be a good steward of your attention and energy
• What it means to live your life on purpose and how negative things like conspiracy theories can distract you from that
• Why searching for darkness and corruption is a waste of your life force (and what to focus on instead)
• The beautiful magic that happens when we process our own pain and learn to have compassion for ourselves

Coaching Questions & Thoughts: How does reading the news or following conspiracy theories make you feel?

In what ways are you allowing negative information to take up your time and energy?

How can you set filters around the information you allow in? What are some of the ways you can better protect your energy?

What are you giving your attention to?

Quotes: "As the leader of your life, it's very important for you to be careful about the information you are consuming." - Shereen Thor

"If you're living your life on purpose, you're not going to go searching for darkness and corruption." - Shereen Thor

"We need to quiet the noise of life in order to tune into our soul's unique path, contribution and purpose." - Shereen Thor

"What you give attention to and what you give energy to will grow." - Shereen Thor

Resources: Stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com.

As human beings with trauma and triggers, fighting is inevitable. But how you fight can be the difference between learning from a situation and just stirring up old wounds. In this short episode, I'll teach you the art of setting conflict boundaries so you can fight fair, every time.

In this episode, you will hear:

• How having no set rules for conflict can lead to messy, triggering situations (and how boundaries prevent fights from getting gnarly)
• What to do when someone crosses a boundary you've set in place
• How to honor the other person and yourself while you're working out a disagreement
• Why setting boundaries and enforcing boundaries are two totally different things
• The role a neutral third party can play in conflict resolution (and when to use one)

Coaching Questions & Thoughts: Have you ever set any conflict boundaries? If so, did you enforce them?

Is there a conflict boundary you often have trouble enforcing? Why?

When your conflicts go south, what happens? Do things get mean? Do you shut down? Get specific.

What is one or two conflict boundaries you'd like to set for future conflicts? What's important to you when it comes to fighting fair?

Think about a recent conflict you had. How could the boundary you've chosen to set help resolve that situation?

Quotes: "We often have no rulebooks to subscribe to that help us manage those conflicts in a way that honors the other person and yourself while you're working out a disagreement." - Shereen Thor

"Boundaries are nothing if they are not enforced." - Shereen Thor

"We got pain points from the past, and when they get pushed, we can pop off." - Shereen Thor

Resources: Stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com.

People have a funny way of getting under our skin. While it can be momentarily cathartic to send that angry text or blow up on the spot, reactive actions get us nowhere — and they can even prevent us from some major opportunities. In this episode, I'll teach you the two types of triggers we experience and how to use them to improve your life.

In this episode, you will hear:

• The two types of triggers we face (and what they really mean)
• How triggers are a body response that signals us to what still needs healing so we can self-actualize
• Why the way we handle triggers can be major opportunities for inner and outer growth
• How codependents often need their boundaries pushed to the absolute limit before they realize something's wrong
• My personal experience dealing with triggers as a codependent
• The different ways to handle each type of trigger to get the most out of it

Coaching Questions & Thoughts: When was the last time you felt a trauma trigger? How did you handle it? What is one way you can use a known trauma trigger of yours for personal growth? Where can you get support for healing when facing a trigger that keeps coming up? When was the last time you experienced a righteous indignation trigger? How did you react? What area of your life do you think that trigger was signaling to you to change? What's one way you can use that experience for outer growth?

Quotes: "When the punishment doesn't fit the crime, you know you have baggage." - Shereen Thor "The trauma response trigger is really an opportunity for inner work." - Shereen Thor "The trigger that is more of the righteous indignation response is actually an opportunity for outer work." - Shereen Thor "I wouldn't even notice that I was being disrespected because I was so tuned in to what somebody else needed." - Shereen Thor "We can often have these relationships with amazing humans that trigger us. And it's not necessarily a bad thing." - Shereen Thor "Triggers are an opportunity for growth." - Shereen Thor

Resources:Stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy! Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com.

In relationships, it's common for one partner (usually the woman) to take on the role of the mother. We wash dishes, do laundry, and cook dinner in an effort to serve and attract a partner. In this episode, I'm dissecting how mothering is actually masculine energy, and how it repels your partner and keeps you from the relationship you really want. In this episode, you'll hear:

• What masculine (yang) and feminine (yin) energy looks like, specifically in dating, love, and relationships
• The key principles you need to follow to find success in love
• How mothering your partner pushes away really good masculine humans (especially in the initial stages of dating)
• Why learning to receive will completely change your love life
• The resources and books that taught me how to shift my natural masculine energy
• How being feminine will attract masculine partners

Coaching Questions & Thoughts:

Do you naturally exhibit masculine or feminine energy? In what ways does that typically show up in your relationships? In both your current and past relationships, in what ways have you mothered your partner? What was the result?

Can you think of a time where you embodied more feminine energy in a relationship? If so, what was the result? What's one way you can start to exhibit more feminine energy? What's one masculine behavior you can let go of starting today?

Quotes: "Masculine is yang energy. It knows it needs to give, protect, and cherish." - Shereen Thor "Yin energy is supposed to be more focused on the self." - Shereen Thor "Mothering is masculine." - Shereen Thor

"If you mother a masculine person, you will repel them." - Shereen Thor "Masculine and feminine energy is kind of like magnets; you need positive and negative ions to have that connection." - Shereen Thor

"Be feminine so you can attract the masculine." - Shereen Thor

Resources: Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com - stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy. ❤️

When you're in the process of expanding and growing as a stellar human being trying to live out their purpose, you're inevitably going to ruffle a few feathers. I'm a big believer that conflict is change just trying to come through. So Instead of rattling off an angry text message or shrinking down to make the other person feel better, listen to this episode to learn my five steps to productive conflict resolution.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• What it means when you trigger someone and why it's so confusing when you do
• What you should (and shouldn't) do when someone's made up an inaccurate story about you inside their head
• How to turn a triggering moment into a moment of healing
• What co-dependent people need to look out for specifically when it comes to conflict resolution
• Why you should seek to understand during conflict, but not assume full responsibility for it
• My 5-Step Productive Conflict Resolution Process (including the ONE step almost everyone forgets to do)
• How avoiding conflict will keep you from experiencing peace, happiness, and joy
• And my favorite style of relationship therapy that I've used to heal many conflicts in my life

Coaching Questions & Thoughts:Is there anyone in your life right now who might be triggered by you changing? If so, how is that conflict showing up, and what could it be a call to heal? In this conflict (or a past, recent conflict), did you allow yourself to speak authentically about how you were affected? If you didn't, how would you now? Have you ever experienced what it was like to "make it right" after a conflict was resolved? If so, what did that look like? What are some ways you could close the loop on a current or recent conflict?

Quotes: "When somebody's triggered, there's not much reasoning to it." - Shereen Thor "When you've triggered someone, it's likely triggering their past trauma. So they're seeing you through the lens of their past trauma." - Shereen Thor "It's always a good idea in conflict to seek to understand and to seek to listen." - Shereen Thor "If you do it right, triggers can be really beautiful because you can trigger healing." - Shereen Thor "When you cut yourself off from sad, you also cut yourself off from glad. They're two sides of the same coin." - Shereen Thor "Things are not black and white. Things are not right and wrong. Things are more gray than we'd like to admit when you're navigating through conflicts." - Shereen Thor

Resources: Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com - stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy. ❤️