Awaken The Rebel

Today's episode celebrates the 7 year anniversary of when my hot hubs proposed to me. So in lieu of a celebration I will roast the hell out of him lol! Get ready for a hilarious and ridiculous story that outlines how insane marriage can be sometimes lol. This is just a peek into the quirks of a long term relationship and all that can come with partnership. Enjoy the hilarity and ridiculousness that is my love life lol.

In this episode you will hear:

• How Kenny proposed and how super sweet it was
• How we have been fighting about the infamous couches for eight fucking years lol.
• How to compromise and create a win-win scenario when you and your partner are both at odds
• How to get what you want in conflict
• One of the universal truths that effects every area of your life
• How our interpretations and the meaning we give things can over-complicate your life
• How surrender is like a little magic trick
• How to navigate uncertainty and conflict "mo betta"

Coaching Questions & Thoughts:

• What's one area of your life where you need to surrender?
• What's one area of your life where you are in resistance?
• What's one area of your life where you would benefit from being more compassionate?

Fun Quotes from the Show:"Every long-term relationship has the one or two conflicts that they repeat over and over again. It's not a big deal, just know what they are and be compassionate with your relationship."

"I am going to drown underneath the weight of all his furniture." hahaha

"What you resist persists."

"This is marriage, you don't get everything you want."

"Once you stop resisting that shit might resolve itself."

"You need to advocate for your needs in all areas of life even, and especially in your marriage."

"We are celebrating the triumph of Kenny and I sticking through a nagging conflict to get to the other side." YEAH!!!

"If you are in a conflict in any relationship in your life, there is hope."

Resources: Download the free happiness cheat sheet at: www.awakentherebel.com - stop keeping up with the Jones' and learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy. ❤️

Today's episode is weird lol. We talk about taming your inner beast vs. Awakening your inner rebel. Historically I have needed to set myself free from the limitations placed upon me in order to live my best life. But sometimes it's the opposite. We need to tame our inner beast in some areas of our life in order to live our best life.

That's why it's so important for you NOT to listen to others or follow a cookie cutter approach. You are unique and ultimately only YOU know what's best for you, so it's up to you to make that choice. Get it boo! In this episode I share a bit about an area of my life where I've had to tame my inner beast, and how that's ultimately served my highest good.

In this episode you will hear:

• How I woke my rebel when it came to career and motherhood
• How everyone in Santa Monica is krunk, but not as krunk as you and I lol
• About expanding vs. Contracting when it comes to your life
• How I have turned to food in times of stress
• How self-calibration and self-coaching will serve you in choosing whether to awaken the rebel or tame the beast

Coaching Questions & Thoughts:

• What's one area of your life where you need to awaken the rebel?
• What's one area of your life where you need to tame the beast?
• What's one thing you can do right now that will move you closer to optimal health?

Fun Quotes from the Show:"You're your best coach, you know what's truly best for you – where do you need to change your behavior to move forward powerfully in your life?"

"These are the moments that will actually change your life when you have these conversations with yourself."

"What is it costing you to be reckless in this area of your life?"

"What is compromising your integrity in your life? That thing is lowering your self-esteem, and it needs to go. These are the things that drain your personal power."

Resources: Find Shereen at: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones' and download the free happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned from Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️)

We have a lot of noise coming at us and it's non-stop! If you are like me, you attempt to manage the noise. We already know we can take the time to unsubscribe from emails, but I want you to take it a step further and unsubscribe from ideas that don't sit right with you. Let's talk about dangerous thoughts. This is my Coachy hack to help you unsubscribe from the top 3 thoughts that are trippin' you up day to day.

In this episode you will hear:

• The top 3 thoughts you need to immediately unsubscribe from
• My biggest fear in coaching
• How and when to calibrate with truth and perspective
• A reminder about who is in charge of your great legacy

Coaching Questions & Thoughts:

• What, in your words is are the 3 thoughts you need to unsubscribe from?
• What do you desire to create in your legacy?
• If you were to stop right now and listen to your inner voice, what would you need to do today to embark on a life that is your soul's masterpiece?

Fun Quotes from the Show:"Thank you for being here today and entertaining the musings of a rebel girl. We are going to take a jump into my crazy little brain. And hopefully that journey, that adventure inspires you."

"I want you to unsubscribe from the thought that anyone other than you is your master."

"You are always going to have to be your own coach. You know you better than anybody else."

"You get to decide what legacy you want to embark upon, what legacy you want to leave, what mark you want to leave on the world and who you want to be in the world."

"Thank you for giving a sh#t about what this little rebel girl has to say."

Resources: Find Shereen at: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones' and download the free happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips from Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️)

Buzz word alert: Quarantine is taking its toll as we face new challenges. Just look at our educational system with school and it's never ending uncertainty. Will parents will have to homeschool when they weren't planning to? Will kids be forced to have their entire education through remote schooling? How does that impact our jobs (parents) and ability to work? That is just one slice of the Covid-19 pie. Oh, the gifts of 2020.

It's tough to feel NORMAL or like we're in control of anything let alone our own PERSONAL REVOLUTION. Whether it's 2020 or not, and whether we find or way back to normal, growth always creates beautiful things. And we need to grab onto this little bit of hope and positivity.

What I've learned over the years, and even right now as I go through weird new changes with all of you, is that growth doesn't always feel very nice but the in the end it's oh so worth it. Keep your head up rebel, you're doing great!

I'm here to tell you, your personal revolution is on track, because this is a unique time of conflict that will undoubtedly make you ask new questions and come up with new solutions. Just be careful to continue to nourish your soul, and dive into the uncertainty and you will get 10x more out of this than anyone else. It's human nature to be adverse to growth and change.

In this episode you will hear:

• How to persevere through the pain of growth
• What growth looks like and what it's like to be in the midst of it
• How to navigate uncertainty
• How to nurture and nourish your soul during times of growth

Coaching Questions & Thoughts:

• How do you manage your emotions and thoughts during uncertainty?
• What are ways you nourish and nurture your soul?
• What could you do today to feedback into yourself?
• Even though things may be painful during a growth season, what are ways you've seen yourself change and grow for the better?

Fun Quotes from the Show:"When you're disrupting things it's like an earthquake. The ground underneath you is cracked and it's wonderful because it is opening new possibilities, it is giving you more solid ground moving forward. While all the positive energy is there, it feels very disconcerting while you are in it."

"You really can't create what you want moving forward with what you were doing or who you were being with what you currently have. And you have to let go of who you were being and what you were doing."

"It's about navigating uncertainty."

"You're doing great even if you don't feel super excited, high vibe, and super positive and everything doesn't seem like it's going your way. It doesn't always feel good to grow. It doesn't always feel happy to progress."

"Even if you are in pain or there is discomfort, it's all part of the process of growth. Find ways to nurture and nourish your soul while you are expanding into a new version of yourself."

"I hope you feel encouraged and have a little more gas in your rebellious tank to keep on chugging along."

Resources: Find Shereen at: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones' and download the free happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️)

Hey Rebels! The $h#t is about to get real. You know you are living your life's most true purpose when you are running hard after the things that keep you up at night. So here I am, writing the very book that in its unwritten form haunted me late at night to write it, called "Revolutionary Woman" and a thought came to mind about you, and us, as women, choosing to live life as a KING. (pause) Wait what?!

In ancient Egypt, believe it or not, women had EQUAL RIGHTS and far more rights than even modern day women today. There were many times in history where a woman, yes a WOMAN operated as a Pharaoh, y'all. Let me say it one more time, a motha f*ckin' PHARAOH. Does this blow your mind? I'm 100% Egyptian, raised in America and I'm picking my jaw up off the floor. Who would I be today, if this was taught to me in school? I can tell you I would have spent my 20's completely empowered, building pyramids for my kingdom, instead of asking for the worlds permission at every step. WTF.

It made me wonder how differently we would approach life if we did it with the mindset of being a Pharaoh. A modernized female King with permission to rule our own vision, hopes and dreams for our kingdom. We would have kingdoms, that's for sure. There is enough sunlight for all the Pharaohs to bloom, ladies.

In this episode you will hear:

• History about the role of women in different cultures/societies.
• How the oppression of women have caused us to lose our power and voice.
• When to act as King in your life and what areas of life call for it.

Coaching Questions & Thoughts:

• What are ways you give up your rightful power in everyday life or in your career?
• When was a moment in life where you felt powerful, completely yourself, and feeling like a King?
• How can you step into the attitude of a King?
• If you could do anything without hesitation what would it be?

Fun Quotes from the Show:

"I am a woman's empowerment crackhead. So, what I am trying to do is make sure you are in command in areas of your life."

"I don't need to be this [a king] in every area of my life, however when I am coaching a woman, it's so important to start here because we are so very much socialized to be second in command."

"There is this inference of being second in command to the king – there's so many things about being a Queen, while lovely, that still keeps you second in command in your world."

"We have been oppressed terribly and there's so much systemic disempowerment towards women. In an effort to bust that up, and buck the system, I am wanting to invite women to really think about what their lives would be like if they were acting like a King." Resources: Find Shereen at: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones' and download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️ )

I recently sat down with Bonnie Fahy, hiring expert and creator behind Source It, the world's leading program on hiring and managing remote teams according to Forbes. We talked about finding opportunity in disaster, how to manage yourself, and the importance of creating rules in a world where the only rule is to stay home. Bonnie is funny, wise, smart and deeply insightful – you don't want to miss this.

Quarantine has forced many of us to work remotely and that can come with a lot of challenges. There are many tools a leader and team can use to keep productivity high and teams mentally and emotionally connected. And of course, it wouldn't be a true Awaken the Rebel episode if we didn't cover handling conflict – especially in a remote situation. Face those fears y'all! Bonnie is so full of knowledge and wisdom, so I hope you enjoy this episode even if you find yourself unemployed and contemplating what the future holds for you.

In this episode you will here:

• How to embrace your new lifestyle perks
• How to keep teams engaged when face-to-face communication isn't as readily available
• How oxytocin plays into leading teams
• How to be successful as a remote manager
• What are the differences between a team in real life and remotely
• What is the right way to give feedback
• How to set clear boundaries and expectations
• How social time contributes to productivity

About tools that will help you manage remotely and connected with your team in a personable way so communication stays clear

Coaching Questions & Thoughts:What are ways your team's dynamic has shifted since becoming remote?

What are ways you've succeeded and/or failed in maintaining clear communication?

What could you be doing as a leader or employer to make sure everyone is still connected and productive?

What are workflow challenges you've identified since becoming remote? What are solutions or tools that would help fill the gaps or fix the broken systems?

When handling conflict while being remote, did you confront the issues face-to-face via Zoom or a call or did you write a lengthy text/email? What was the result of the action you took?

Fun Quotes worth entertaining:"Be gentle with yourself, this is a new skill you're learning in a new world we are all living in." Bonnie Fahy

When you have a best friend at work you will be the most productive - Gallup

"Communication is the response that you get." Eban Pagan

"Communication breakdowns break down relationships." - Bonnie Fahy

"You need to look at this from the framework of opportunity. You need to take yourself away from the shit storm of 'What the F, this sucks so bad' to 'oh my god, this tremendous opportunity is here." - Bonnie

"Leading a remote team isn't any different than driving in the day time vs driving in the dark. Just like you wouldn't drive in the dark without headlights, you don't want to lead a remote team without adding back in what you're missing - i.e. the visual, the non-verbal communication." - Bonnie

"As a leader of a remote team, you're going to want to make sure that you're taking full responsibility for communicating in the clearest way possible." - Bonnie

"It's important to establish boundaries – when will you be available and when you won't be available." - Bonnie

"Email is the best way to waste hours of your day and not keep track of things in an effective way." - Bonnie

"Conflicts are going to come up. From a teamwork perspective, you need to make sure you don't take the easy way out. If you have a conflict with someone, get on the phone with them or get face-to-face. Do not be that person who writes up a huge email – that is going to breakdown your relationship so fast." - Bonnie

"When you don't have trust, you don't have a productive team." - Bonnie

"While it might seem as though it would be unproductive to have a chat room or social bonding time built in, that's actually the glue that holds everything together. For remote leaders and remote teams, what can you do to create shared rituals?" - Bonnie

"In a remote environment, you have to add the socialization back in." - Bonnie

"How am I going to allow this huge pivot of life to be the best thing that ever happened to me and not the worst?" - Bonnie

Resources: Find Bonnie Fahy at: www.BonnieFahy.com

www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones'! Download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale on what actually makes us happy ❤️)

Today's episode is all about being a risk taker verses being cautious. Being in your heart rather than in your head. I've been watching the musical Hamilton incessantly lately and it's been inspiring me tons. The characters Alexander Hamilton and Aaron Burr are so different and it's got me thinking about you, me and what style of life we choose to live. One leads with his head and one leads with his heart. Regardless of which character type you lean towards this podcast will support you in moving closer to who you want to be, stretching yourself and always leaning into that growth edge. As a coach, I help clients find their north star and that vision pulls them towards the goals they want to attain, and the person they want to be. Listen in to have your thoughts provoked and glean some inspiration from these characters in our history. In this episode you will here:

• How we can change our lives by identifying what our north star is and working towards that
• How to identify who we are now and who we'd like to be moving forward
• How coaching can benefit you in moving toward your dream life

Coaching Questions & Thoughts

• Taking into account the characteristics of Alexander Hamilton and Aaron Burr, which archetype do you fall under? Are you scrappy & hungry with nothing to lose or are you cautious, careful, and strategic?
• How does your archetype help or hurt you?
• What is one thing you'd like to change about your approach to life?
• What is your north star?

Fun Quotes worth entertaining:"When you're actually just being real about what is, that's where you can really see the benefits, the cost, and then make a decision moving forward."

Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones'! Download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale ❤️)

Today's episode is all about how much we are all going through as a collective right now. I had my own little civil war with my husband and realized how tough this must be for everyone to be enduring. Luckily he is a man of steel, so we will be okay lol. But there are big topics on everyone's minds lately, and navigating those conversations when differing opinions are present - can be really difficult. We're all on edge from having to experience the trauma of a pandemic, the chaos is getting to us, and I wanted to address it.

In this episode you will here:

• How quarantine is making it difficult to manage conflicts that we can usually work around
• How Shereen herself has experienced conflict due to quarantine and stress
• How it's important to embrace the gray areas because wanting to be right can block harmony and understanding

Coaching Questions & Thoughts

Have you been experiencing more conflict with family members or friends since quarantine started?

What area in your life do you experience the most confusion?

When talking with someone about your point of view, do you always strive to be right? Or do you seek to understand their point of view too?

What is one thing you can do this week that'll help you manage conflict during quarantine?

Fun Quotes worth entertaining:

"When we're quarantining, we're all stuck together. A lot of the things that we'd normally be coping, normalizing, and rationalizing are sort of in your face. You're just stuck with this tension and conflict that you're normally able to manage, but you just can't manage it anymore."

"I think when you're trying to be right there isn't space for listening, there isn't space for true understanding, and there isn't space for harmony."

"We're going to take the right/wrong dynamic out of the picture. We're going to enter the gray, darling. No more black and white, gray is the way."

Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones'! Download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale ❤️)

Today we explore masculine and feminine energy in the dating game. I secretly have an obsession with helping people have healthier relationships and when it comes to the dating phase this is the key to getting to "I do." I share some pointers from my personal experience, as well as some insights I gleaned from watching Rudy and Matt crash and burn on the show Listen To Your Heart. The bottom-line is that you must feel confident, empowered and secure in your star power when it comes to matters of the heart. Our insecurities can ruin our potential for love and connection if we don't get them in check, so listen up. I know quarantine is getting in the way of dating, but what better time to adjust your strategy before getting back out there, amiright?!

In this episode:

• Learn about masculine and feminine energy
• Discover when to lean into your feminine energy to support you in connecting with the masculine
• Hear how insecurities can block a relationship from coming to fruition
• Learn how reading your "audience" can help you in your relationships
• Hear how believing in your worthiness, and raising your self-esteem is everything in the dating game

Coaching Thoughts & Questions:

What type of energy do you think you give off in general?

What type of energy do you give off in a relationship?

What insecurities that creep into your mind when dating someone you like?

What is the source of those insecurities? When do you feel the most confident in your life? How can you carry that confidence into your dating life?

Quotes:

"Women need to be secure within themselves, and comfortable in their power – not being overly aggressive with it, but knowing it's there and that they would be fine with or without a partner."

"You're it. You are it. If someone isn't showing you that - that's on them. You don't need to do more or be more - you just need to let their ass go!"

"When a woman displays masculine energy towards a masculine man she repels him. It's just like magnets that repel instead of magnetize towards each other. If you have two positives or two negatives they repel each other. You need complimentary energies. This could be in any variation of gender in a relationship - in a same sex marriage you need one who displays the feminine energy and one who displays the masculine energy."

"Part of mastery, as a woman, is knowing where to express your feminine energy and where to express your masculine energy. And when it actually benefits you one way or the other."

Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones'! Download my Happiness cheat sheet - get all the science-based tips I learned at Yale!)

Let me prep you for the insane rant you are about to witness (and hopefully enjoy lol).

In this week's episode I discuss the Martyr Archetype. Women (especially after they become mothers) are viewed as selfish when they prioritize themselves and it's disgusting.

Today I get kind of wild with my cuss words after hearing a friend refer to herself as a C word for establishing and holding her boundaries. She had a coffee date planned with a friend and wouldn't cancel it when her partner expressed last minute distress (a woman with boundaries – oh the shame!).

You'll also hear a story of when I was called a "narcissist" by a prominent woman in leadership for being enthusiastic about prioritizing my needs at an event in front of 400 other woman lol.

This energy of shaming women into martyrdom is disgusting and I gave myself the gift of having a gnarly rebel rant about it today. If you ever feel guilty for prioritizing your health and wellness as a woman, listen up because this rant's for you sister! Enjoy!

In this episode you will here:

• How society holds women & mothers to an unrealistic standard
• How guilt is so pervasive amongst women for choosing themselves.
• How putting yourself last hurts you (and your family) long term
• How sometimes empowerment means saying "no"
• How life is meant to be lived and enjoyed on your terms
• How some women have chosen not to prioritize themselves, but that doesn't mean you have to follow their lead.

Coaching Questions & Thoughts

Do you live life on your time making your own priorities?

What are some lies you believe about what it means for you to take time for yourself?

How do you feel when you put yourself last and don't prioritize your needs?

What are ways you can start prioritizing yourself today? List 3 things you can focus on this coming week.

Fun Quotes worth pulling:

"Can we just acknowledge how insane it is that a woman feels like a selfish cunt if she says "no" and prioritizes her joy?"

"We are women. We are supposed to do it all, right? We're supposed to look perfect, have the meals cooked, take care of the kids 24/7, not a need to inconvenience anyone else - and do it with a smile."

"If being called a selfish cunt is what needs to happen to me for me to actually have a moment of joy and freedom away from my children, a moment of serenity overlooking the lake having a cappuccino with a girlfriend, I am here for it!"

"This life is meant to be lived and enjoyed. I often feel that, as people pleasers and as women, we live life but sort of on everyone else's terms and make everyone else's priorities our priorities."

"I am calling into question the racist male patriarchy that even suggests a woman is a selfish cunt if she prioritizes her happiness."

"I 100% rebel against and reject any system that makes a woman feel like a narcissist for being happy, prioritizing her needs and requiring her partner to show up for the family."

"We as women have subscribed to a trash system."

"This paradigm that makes women wrong for prioritizing their needs is so unhealthy. Please, please AWAKEN THE REBEL. Because sometimes when the system is fucked it's real good to be bad."

Resources: www.awakentherebel.com (Stop keeping up with the Jones'! Download the happiness cheat sheet - learn all the science-based tips I learned at Yale!)