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In this episode, we have invited Wyle McGraw. He is a Performance Accelerator and the Founder of Radical Performance Acceleration. For over a decade, Wyle works behind the scenes doing life-altering work with powerful CEOs, executives, entrepreneurs, and public figures across industries—accelerating their performance personally and professionally. Today, Wylie will share how you can take your personal and professional life to the next level.

[2:31] Why should we listen to you

You should listen to me because I got a fantastic story. My purpose and passion for my work are to transform the paradigm of high performance and leadership development. And through my crazy life experiences, I’ve discovered this uncanny ability to erupt and eradicate stresses and unleash the untapped potential of high achievers. So my work is specifically for those leaders that need that elite environment to stretch their capacity and optimize themselves both personally and professionally. I’ve curated my business and skill for the last 13 years. Giving real-world challenges to leaders who are willing to do whatever it takes to blow past their limits and reach optimal levels of success. 

[6:11] What is the common theme you observe people battle?

The common theme I’ve noticed is people are designed to find the path of least resistance. We are designed to find ways to create comfort for ourselves. People tend to overlook life’s experiences that have caused the biggest negative impacts in their life. They tend to avoid them, overlook, or ignore them. And they feel that there’s a way for them to reach high levels of success while still carrying around all of that unresolved darkness that still resides within them.

[7:17] People, especially high achieving leaders, build their empires with chaos and stress as foundation. And they have done everything they can to accomplish as much as they want, but they’re still left unfulfilled and looking for more.

[7:44] How do you navigate past the egos?

There’s a difference between helping and optimizing. Optimization requires something completely different than the traditional helping systems and fields that are out there. Though, there’s nothing wrong with them because they create a movement for people. But if you want to optimize yourself, you have to be willing to create new dramatic experiences with someone who knows how to get into the trenches with you, challenge you, and push you beyond those limits.

[9:09] What are the roadblocks most people wouldn’t know that they could climb over faster?

Mindset first and willingness to put yourself in those radical unconventional challenges that stretch you stretch your capacity. We all have different levels of capacity. The masses themselves are in one place, but high performers are high-achieving leaders with a completely different capacity. Each resource needs to meet people where they’re at with their capacity. And people need to look at the things that they least expect that are holding them back. When you look at certain dynamics you have in your life, and you start paying attention to whether or not they are uplifting you, there are things within that could affect your performance and ability to rise to the next level.

[11:43] What are the things you go to see things you may not be aware of?

Describing what specifics happen with clients is impossible because everybody has their own unique set of challenges and setbacks that they’re unaware of.

[12:18] When working with high-powered leaders, I try to understand that their personal and professional lives are not mutually exclusive. It’s about delving into how all of that overlaps and how it affects their optimization ability. But as I do work with people, I can’t specifically give unique challenges that everybody will go through. It’s always different from each relationship that I have with my clients.

[13:31] Taking the Leap

People say they want it, but when it comes to accepting that challenge towards it, they tend to make up these reasons or excuses. If something feels uncomfortable regarding your personal growth, you need to step towards it. You need to jump fearlessly.

[13:57] When I show up in a leader’s life, it’s the right time for them to make that decision to jump. And if they’re not ready to jump, they’re never going to be ready to jump. So I look at it that way where if there’s anything that’s coming up for you when it comes to your growth, you have to look at how it uplifts you. It can feel like it can be the thing that could take you to the next level. But it will challenge you in ways you never had. You need to start to feel the pullback and take the opportunity to step towards it. 

[15:24] What are the outcomes you get to experience in helping people?

I wake up every day looking at how leadership causes more detriment in our world today than to benefit, especially with politicians and people worldwide. I’m just driven to get to those groups of leaders who want to live life on their terms to feel a sense of peace and freedom that they longed for. I want them to lead from a place of balance and become the most optimized version where not one aspect of their life is sacrificed, stress, pain, or suffering.

[16:50] My business is the antithesis of what typical businesses are. I built it on purpose, where my focus is on the leader. All I care about is the handful of leaders that I get to support and push to a completely different level. So when I get to go to bed at night, and I’m exhausted, I feel great about that exhaustion.

[17:18] Focusing on Leaders

The typical paradigm is “How do you scale? How do you grow?” And I’m not built for that. I’m not made for the masses but for the high-capacity, high-achieving leader. For the last 12 years, I’ve been behind the scenes unknown, with no following and no community because it’s all about focusing on the person I’m working with. It’s all about that privacy and intimacy that they need to take their game to the next level as a leader to go out and create a bigger impact in the world.

[19:19] Acceleration

Get acceleration and get out of your way. I don’t need to spend years with you. I’m not going to have you rely on coaching for the long haul. This shouldn’t be a marathon but a sprint. We are very dynamic and intimate in what we do in a short period. I get you at the top of your game and keep you there. Then I get out of your way so you can go off and do even more badass stuff.

[21:13] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

I was brought into this world to bring real transformation and healing to people in positions of power. Transformation is dark, ugly, and uncomfortable. It doesn’t happen in the bright lights of the stage or through a book. It happens in the dark corners. I knew that and discovered more of it at a young age as I grew through those personal challenges from sports to writing to the military and beyond. I started to formally study and understand more about all of those things that can optimize someone.

Key Quotes:

[13:31 – 13:37] “If something feels very uncomfortable when it comes to your personal growth, you need to step towards it. You need to embrace it and fearlessly just jump.”

[13:57 – 14:01] “When something shows up in your life, you need to take the opportunity to jump.”

[16:15 – 16:23] “My business is the antithesis of what typical businesses are. I built it on purpose that way where my focus is on the leader, first and foremost.”

[23:29 – 23:55] “You got to face your demons if you want to accelerate your performance to the highest levels. You have to look at those unresolved truths or realities that are holding you back. Those are the things that are hindering you and not adding more things into your life, hoping that that somehow builds you up to a level of success you desire.”

 

Learn more about Wylie McGraw on:

Website: https://www.wyliemcgraw.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wyliemcgraw/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5eB02vV_S78ryDCra7BnZw

Email: [email protected]

Phone: 561-803-5150

In today’s episode, our guest is Anat Peri. She is a transformational life coach and the Founder and Head Facilitator of Training Camp for the Soul. She is committed to bringing positive energy, compassion, and tenacity to catalyze the elevation of life, relationship, and performance. By sharing her leadership expertise, formulas, healing modalities, and priceless wisdom from her life experiences, she helps her clients to own their power and create a life by design. Today, Anat will talk about the Mind & Body connection and the stages of life transformation.

[5:20] Why should we listen to you?

I am very human, and I am very much in this human experience even though I have 17 years of experience in the self-development space. What sets me apart from other people is that I have great tools to navigate everything with resiliency.

[6:04] Where did these tools come from?

My tools came from learning and experience. I’ve spent 17 years in the self-development space and eight years in cognitive work. Through that experience, I became a master of awareness. But life didn’t look any different for me when I was 32 years old. I had a failing relationship, I was in debt, and I was lost in my career. So when I dived into body-mind connection, I realized that the mindset stuff I’ve done is so important. There was no connection to me and my body and how it puts me into a fight or flight response.

[8:05] What are the steps you took, and what did you unfold?

What unfolded for me was hitting my ground zero, where I didn’t know what was best for me. And because I had that New York mentality, I thought I knew it all because I’m developing myself. But then, life hit me hard where I realized that I didn’t know what was best for me. I didn’t have anything to show for it. From there, I just surrendered to God and let Him take the wheel. It was the start of letting go, living in force, and allowing things to unfold.

[9:39] The challenge I realized was if you don’t know on a conscious level what it is that you’re clearing out, you’re not replacing it with something new. And if you’re not replacing it with something new, then you go back out in your daily world, behaving the same way and reinforcing.

[12:16] I just felt ready to leap. I thought I knew enough. I knew enough because of what I experienced, not so much what I learned. But I knew that I could take people to where I’d been.

[13:04] Why do people take a long time to achieve transformation?

The root of it is they’re skipping the stages of Transformation and Healing. The first stage is awareness. It’s what brings people to pick up a book, listen to a podcast, or hire a coach. You’re aware of something that you want to change. So you gain more awareness for sure as you work with someone or explore it deeper.

[13:48] Stage two is acceptance and commitment. This is where a lot of people get stuck, or they skip. You have to accept what you’re experiencing or what happened to you without wanting to change or fix it. Often, when people approach something they don’t like about themselves or something that happened to them, they immediately try to fix it. So there’s already a rejection of it. And the level of needing to accept it would mean that you have to feel something that you probably don’t want to feel.

[15:13] Was there a moment in your life where rejection became a reality for yourself?

I painted my dad as a workaholic. I love him dearly, but he worked running a hotel in my formative years, and I didn’t see him often. So I made up my way of surviving it and created a picture for myself as daddy’s girl. I lived in an illusion where I always helped him out. I thought that I had a relationship with my dad, but I was just his assistant. And facing that was heartbreaking to me. It was the most grief and sadness that I’ve ever felt.

[18:35] When did you realize that you were going to become a coach?

There was always that desire in me. When I was like 16 years old, my friends would come to me for advice. And whatever I said to them would always create a level of peace of mind for them.

[19:12] In my first eight years of self-development, where it was a lot of cognitive type of work, I was still drawn to coaching then. But to me, it was really about integrity. It was about not starting coaching if I’m not living the example I want to give my clients.

[21:16] Where does the spiritual base fit into your work?

Stage three is getting to the root of it. Just like in nature, the root is not on the surface but below the ground. Sometimes, it is weaved into ten different roots. So it’s the same thing where it’s not just in our head. Getting to the root of it is through our physical body. It’s in our emotional body, and it’s in our energetic body. It’s learning how to be with whatever you’re experiencing at the level of sensation.

[22:27] Importance of mind & body connection

It’s about the good or bad, and the opportunity is to start to relate to it at the energy level. And that it’s just the sensation in the body. Excitement and anxiety feel very similar in our system. But the difference is the context you give to it.

[22:55] It’s also essential to connect it with a strong mindset because there’s also a difference between feeling and indulging in emotions. Indulging happens when we have an experience that creates this emotion for us. But when we’re feeling it, our mind is feeding it with more stories and evidence, and it’s making more of that feeling where you feel like you are drowning.

[27:05]  Expanding the nervous system’s capacity

Trauma is any experience that your nervous system could not be with. The nervous system is just holding energy and sensations. When you observe these sensations with no judgment, curiosity, and love, you expand your ability to be with that frequency and energy.

[28:54] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

Healing trauma will be normalized. And that it will be a thing that everyone knows, that they’re capable, can do, and will walk towards.

Key Quotes:

[09:12 – 09:17] “Do it only if it calls to you. It’s only a good idea if it calls to you.”

[20:48 – 20:51] “You can’t rob the world of the gift of you.”

[26:45 – 26:51] “The things that are going to trigger you are not going to stop necessarily. Life’s going to keep handing you things.”

 

Learn more about Anat Peri on:

Website:   https://www.trainingcampforthesoul.com/

                 https://www.anatperi.com/

Instagram:    https://www.instagram.com/anat.peri

                 https://www.instagram.com/trainingcampforthesoul/

LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/anat-peri/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trainingcampforthesoul

 

In this episode, we have invited Chris Kidawski. He is a seasoned Strength Coach with a proven track record of success in health, wellness, and fitness industries. He also possesses expertise in Athletic Training, Fitness Training, Athletics, Strength & Conditioning, and Public Speaking. Regarded as the go-to structural therapist in South Florida, Chris has a strong community and social services. He worked with various professional athletes ranging from basketball, football, baseball to even UFC fighters. Today, Chris talks with us about breaking boundaries and instilling a positive mindset into his clients. 

[09:04] Why should we listen to you?

With my degree and life experience, I carved my path in life. As a result, I’ve done many things that diet books suggest you shouldn’t do. It is frowned upon by many, but I did it and had considerably better results than others. And it includes most people, not just athletes. I’ve worked with professional athletes who were college or high school athletes. I created techniques for being faster, stronger, decreasing weight, or getting rid of pain may vary. You won’t find much of it online or in other books, except in mine. 

[10:46] Where do you diverge from common thought or theory?

What you must do to affect someone’s body or mind is begin with what’s mechanically true. The human body may quickly change when working with mechanistically genuine components rather than a mill and grind for modest gains. All you have to do is work with the human body, keep testing to see what works best for you, and fearlessly explore or push the boundaries. 

[11:57] Despite my lack of experience, there was always a small, white lie under everything. It prompted me to look for an answer to increase my skills as a massage therapist, a trainer, or a teacher. And when you talk about that group of folks, you can see they get it. Working as an employee versus as an entrepreneur differs significantly. Every day, as an entrepreneur, you have questions to answer. As an employee, you get the answers first, and anyone can answer your questions. 

[17:18] What are concepts you extracted from your time with these individuals that are beneficial to the average person? 

The essential thing is organizing your thoughts. Everything is a result of your ideas and thoughts. If you have the same attitude, you’re going to wake up hating the world you live in. As a result, you will have few opportunities. Each of these gentlemen with whom I work is at the pinnacle of their profession or game. They rise each day with the utmost gratitude for where they are and the mission they are attempting. And they have such a great mental attitude that changing them would require a bazooka. 

[19:18] How do you create that positive mindset and develop the right attitude?

It begins with mindfulness and observing your thoughts. Thoughts become emotions, emotions become feelings, and feelings become actions. Consider the Vaughn case. He grew up in Oakland’s ghetto. On his birthday, he witnessed his uncle get shot in his front yard. The person was shot and killed, but he never used that as a reason to halt his life’s progress. He never used it to say, “Oh man, where I live is terrible, and I’m never going to get away.” He used to wake up every day, journal, and write down what was most important to him. And then he would begin to reassemble those pieces. 

[20:23] Many people want to wake up thinking of winning the lotto and believing that the rest of your life will be a breeze. And then you discover that the majority of people who won the lotto wind up deeper in debt. Once all of that money has been expended and spent, everything falls apart, everything. And it’s entirely down to their mentality; they lack direction. And, if I may be so bold, many people reach a point where they refuse to learn anymore. 

[21:56] Alternatively, you may wish to use the term committed. Many folks want to jot something down like, “I want a million dollars.” Though that sounds reasonable, the cosmos does not fully comprehend this. It is incapable of understanding an affirmation. Instead, write something along the lines of “I am determined to acquire the talents that will earn me a million dollars.”. 

[23:00] How did you learn all this and earn the trust of your clients?

I have a strong belief in reincarnation. I believe that none of us is embarking on our first journey through life or the world. Neither energy is created nor destroyed. It only transforms into new shapes and forms. My ultimate mission is to share my experiences that others might have experienced physically and how I overcome them.

[26:22] If I want to do anything in my life, I need to increase my intelligence and wisdom and share it with others. That is what I have accomplished in my life through reading my books, practicing pain management, and continuing to do so to this day.

[28:27] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

Simply knowing that there will be significantly more hope, serenity, and happiness before and after I depart.

Key Quotes

[12:31 – 12:43] “There’s a big difference between being an employee and being an entrepreneur. As an entrepreneur, you wake up every day, and you’re handed the questions first, and then you have to go and find the answers.”

[26:51 – 27:02] “I have a tattoo on the inner portion of my arm that says never get tired to study and teach others, and I just tried to live by that creed every single day.”

Learn more about Chris Kidawski on:

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/KismetFitnessNC/ 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/chriskidawski 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-kidawski-5201a994/

Our guest for today’s podcast is Chad Edward Mendes. He is a professional bare-knuckle boxer from the United States of America and was previously a mixed martial artist and collegiate wrestler signed under the Bare-Knuckle Fighting Championship (BKFC). Chad rose to prominence in the Ultimate Fighting Championship’s (UFC) featherweight division and was a three-time UFC championship challenger. While competing as a Cal Poly Mustang, he was a two-time NCAA Division I All-American and Pac-10 Conference champion in folk style wrestling.  

Chad bravely shares his struggles, his inspiration to be a professional wrestler, and what prompted him to build his own business entirely different from his chosen career.

[02:55] Why should I listen to you?

I’m simply going to tell you a bit of myself and hope that something I say motivates you or inspires you to push yourself to the next level in your life and generally make progress anywhere. I’ve had some odd things happen in my life from a young age to now, and some people enjoy listening while others don’t. However, I hope something motivates you. That is most likely what I would say.

[03:53] How did you get to this point where this is what you do? What was the upbringing that created this individual with such raw drive like you do positively?

I believe my father had a significant influence on my sports career and helped me get to where I am now. I was raised in a large family, yet legally it was only my mother and father. I was the sole child, and they divorced and remarried. I began wrestling when I was five, and he was a coach.

[04:41] I wrestled every year until I graduated from high school and was offered a recruiting chance at Cal Poly San Luis Obispo. I wrestled there and graduated the next day after moving all my belongings in the U haul. I moved up to Sacramento, and your beloved allowed me to move into his spare room and house at the time. I immediately plunged into pro-fighting, so my father greatly influenced me to where I am now.

[05:25] Did you have a love and hate relationship with your dad?

My father was a bully. There were several points in my life when I was thoroughly burned out on wrestling - I was sick of it and didn’t want to do it anymore. He expressly stated that baseball is for cowards, and because we both enjoy wrestling, there were moments when we bumped heads, and he said, “You know, I want to go do some other things,” which I did.

[05:57] As a small child, he required me to participate in gymnastics or body awareness between wrestling seasons. Water Polo was tough for four years, but I did the preseason wrestling to be in shape, but I never played. I always wanted to play baseball and football, but I was a tiny man, weighing only 80 pounds my freshman year of high school. As a result, I was ruled out of doing things like football and other sports and thus didn’t have a lot of options. 

[06:37] Wrestling is what I ended up sticking with, and I’m grateful for it. After all, if I had quit and my father had allowed me to stop, I would not be sitting here with all I have now because I would not have been a fighter, and everything happens for a reason.

[09:14] What was UFC journey like for you?

It was reasonably swift. It was, which is rather remarkable. I came from a wrestling background where I finished as the NCAA runner-up my senior year, and I possessed a wrestling pedigree that translated nicely into MMA. I trained for around three months and created my first profile before venturing out. It was one of those things. I told myself that if I’m good at it, I will do this until I’m approximately 35. If I survive this first fight and its chaos, I will get a real job and earn a degree. I will go without fear of being punched; I went out there, submitted in the first round, and made roughly three grand. I said to myself, “This is the finest thing ever.” I’m going to continue doing this indefinitely. As you are aware, that was the initial altercation. I believe I was involved in five fistfights in the intelligent manner of a modest show.

[10:07] For whatever reason, the world of extreme cutting was divided into lighter and heavier weight divisions. The world of extreme cutting was owned by Zuffa, which also owned the UFC. They signed me, joined the WEC, fought for a few, and merged, bringing us to the UFC. Then I spent the remainder of my career there. I remained undefeated. I believe it was my first nine or ten fights that secured me a crack at the belt versus Josie Aldo.

[10:40] Coming into the sport and joining the UFC, I was a baby who was barely out of college and facing a guy like him who is a complete juggernaut, explosive, swift, and technical. I was unprepared for that. When you’re coming off a lengthy winning streak, they toss you in there, and it was an eye-opener. It was my first defeat, and I returned and developed tremendously as a result of that fight. To experience what it’s like at the top, you ascend to the top and beat everyone, but you’ve never felt what the top fighter feels like. You enter and have your buttocks whooped in that manner. You’re thinking, “All right, now I know what I need to do.”

[11:58] At what point did you choose to leave?

I resigned from the UFC in 2018 because my initial aim was to fight until I reached the age of 35 and then examine my life and decide whether to continue or hang it up. I’m an idiot, and when I signed my last UFC contract, it was an eight-fight deal. I’m not sure why we would have signed the mini-fight agreement in the first place, but, as time passes, that deal was decent at the time, but it’s no longer suitable; it’s as if it was passed up a long time ago.

[12:41] If you show up and fight, you receive a specific portion of your money. The way the UFC works is that they split your money in half. If you win in the other half, you accept the remaining amount of your money. If you lose, you only receive half. Thus, it’s as if you receive your Payday after deducting 10% for managers, personal trainers, and camp-related expenses. Essentially, the last bout I’m sitting on was a loss against the current champion. You walk away with about $30,000 - $40,000, and I was like, “I just got my butt thrashed for $30,000. What am I doing?” As a result, my wife and I discussed it before the fight.

[13:29] I still have four fights remaining on my contract, so if I had fought another two years of fighting, I was thinking, I’m not sure whether this is still worth it for me. I could go out and earn more money with the other enterprises that I’ve started. I no longer need to be on the daily grind to be punched in the head. I believe the time has come, and the fact that we are about to embark on our first break has altered the course of my life. As a result, I’ve decided to suspend it from the UFC.

[16:44] How do these kinds of businesses come to fruition?

My good friend and I had discussed this concept for maybe two years before that, but what truly sparked my interest was my knockout loss to Frankie. There was a fight, one that I worked so hard for and knew I could win. And I went out there and got caught within the first round. Within a couple of minutes of the first round, and the fight was over in a flash. It’s one of those things that serve as a wake-up call that I can’t keep doing this thing forever.

[17:40] What type of business could we establish that eventually incorporates my enthusiasm for the outdoors, hunting and fishing, and being able to teach it. Thus, our thinking was fins and feathers. We formed partnerships with hunting and fishing outfitters worldwide and created a year-long timetable, which we then used to book clients for all these hunting and fishing trips. However, what differentiates us from other hunting and fishing outfitters is that we bring different athletes or celebrities on trips with clients.

[18:35] And now they get to go not only stock their freezers with all kinds of wild, organic, free-range meat but also learn how to live off of it for a year. The first year we launched, we began in 2015, and we sold out everything. Since then, we’ve added trips and have sold out everything from 2016 on. That is our primary business—hunting and fishing. We educate you on how to do it, how to go out, and provide for yourself.

[19:24] American almond beef sparked an idea for us when there was a movement to understand the health benefits and adverse effects of everything that comes with slaughtering these animals while knowing where they came from and what they were intaking. Remember that you are now feeding to your friends and families and subsisting on it.

[20:57] These cows are never given any hormones, antibiotics, corn, or soy for the last 100 to 150 days of their lives. We feed them a proprietary blend of almonds, sunflower seeds, prune pits, and brand off of rice, with great proteins and nutrients. Appropriately providing them with these foods gives their meat a perfect buttery flavor, tenderness, and marbling. People can buy this meat, which is not a wild game, but the next best thing on the market, knowing they have no “chemicals” ingested.

[25:19] We wanted to create the provider because the next generation is dying out with their love for outdoor activities—why we hunt and why we are providers in the first place. Bad things are commonly associated with “hunting,” and we want to change that narrative. It’s to preserve that mentality and to teach the next generation something good. Something has to die, and understanding that is the first step towards becoming a genuine provider.

[28:42] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

I’m hoping God did something right in allowing me to motivate people and do good in life. There are many misconceptions, and if there’s anything I can do in my life that keeps people on track and helps them move in the right direction, I believe I did my job.

 Key Quotes

[03:54 – 03:59] “I think my dad was a huge influence as far as athletics and getting me to where I am now.”

[09:35 -09:46] “If I go out through this first fight and it sucks, then I’m going to go get a real job, have a degree, and not worry about getting punched.”

 

Learn more about Chad Mendes on:

Website: https://www.finsandfeathers.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChadMoneyMendes

Twitter: https://twitter.com/chadmendes

In today’s episode, we invited Robb Kelly. He works with people going through, treating addiction problems to the actual root cause and not the symptoms. He’s gone to the ups and downs. Alcoholism crippled him and set him in a place where he was homeless in the streets of Manchester, England. At one point, Robb found the courage to save himself, and then after he saved himself, he’s had this commitment to protecting other people through many things he does as a CEO.

[4:48] Why should we listen to you?

Two things, the cool accent, and then catching me on my favorite topic, helping people. Everybody knows somebody who suffers from addiction.

[5:58] Addiction

It’s more on the brain science of the addiction, and I knew there was something wrong somewhere because I literally couldn’t stop drinking. Seeing a doctor who would send me to a 12-step room wasn’t good enough for me. So, I got a Ph.D. in psychology and a Ph.D. in behavioral science. It became fascinating to me, and then it became a challenge to me.

[8:10] What did you learn, and how did you figure the best way to apply it?

The first thing I didn’t know was alcoholics are born. They’re not made. So you can’t drink yourself into becoming an alcoholic. It’s impossible. Predisposition, trace it back in your family, and it will be there.

[9:09] Neuroplasticity is a way of changes like molding the brain to what I want it to be. So what happens is through the therapy that you get here, we have more self-care neural pathways, and you self-sabotage your paths.

[10:57] For people, they don’t think that they’re good enough. Secondly, I don’t even believe they can achieve that. You can achieve anything you want to do. This mindset is not just set for everybody. Everybody, in my opinion, is born with a million-dollar mind.

[12:17] Addicted Minds

They call me the Gordon Ramsay of addiction because I will curse at you in the office. And if you’re not pulling your weight, I will throw you out. You are going to do this deal, or you’re not. You’re in, or you’re out. That’s the deal with me. I don’t answer to nobody. If you don’t like it, you can leave. If you’re not doing what you’re supposed to be doing, you can leave, or we will fire you.

[14:03] Is everyone’s drawn to that, or a select kind of person can handle that?

We’ve had a few thousand women on board, and they’re direct. They want to get it done. We’re assessing bringing anybody on. We turned down many guys, or they’ve decided not to come because of my audacity. Sugarcoating this stuff kills people.

[15:25] Would you say that life for you seems easier now than it did back then?

That’s 100% the truth. Everything I’ve got, I’ve fought for. But then you learn how to fight mentally, psychologically, physically as you grow up around these tough people. When you develop the mind, you become an unstoppable force, and there’s nothing I can’t do. You’ve got to get serious about yourself and go back and do the work on yourself.

[19:21] Fostering connection

There are loads of methods for doing that. But you have to look at it. First, if your phone takes you away from your family or friends, there may be a problem. But there are safer addictions like going to the gym, eating healthfully, grooming yourself, especially the younger generation. I think that that works well, and they can connect with that.

[20:23] Is there a thin line between addiction and habits?

There’s a fine line. Alcoholism as a whole is the only self-diagnosed illness in the world.

[27:28] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

The promise he gave was for those who suffer Isaiah 61. I’m not a religious guy, but there’s a whole new story around that. Isaiah 61 is brought me into this world to heal the sick and give good news to their families. That’s what he did. He just took a few years to make me that sharp tool that I can go out, but that’s a walk in God’s grace. I’m a spiritual guy. I believe He directs me every second of the way, and his timing is impeccable.

Key Quotes

[9:49-9:51] “Don’t tell me you can’t do anything because you can.”

[11:08-11:13] “Everybody, in my opinion, is born with a million-dollar mind.”

[11:17-11:19] “ Show me your friends, I’ll show you a future.”

[17:07-17:09] “You need to hear stuff from other people to encourage.”

Learn more about Robb Kelly on:

Website: https://robbkelly.com/

In this episode, our guest is Nicky Billou, a champion for fathers and children towards family sustainability. He devoted his attention to helping and preventing families from falling apart. Over 60 families have been saved from divorce thanks to his efforts. Nicky is a motivational speaker and the author of the best-selling books “Finish Line Thinking: How to Think and Win Like a Champion” and “The Thought Leader’s Journey: A Fable of Life.” He’s also the co-founder of eCircle Academy, a year-long mastermind and training program for coaches, consultants, corporate trainers, clinic operators, realtors, mortgage brokers, and other service-based business owners. 

[3:58] Why should we listen to you?

If I got something that catches your interest, you should listen to me. And if I don’t, you shouldn’t. It’s that simple.

[4:29] What excites you?

I believe in freedom, free expression, and free enterprise. We’re living at a time where many bad things happen. In my country, the federal government and the provincial government are introducing vaccine passports. You have to show an internal passport if you want to get into a movie theater, gym, or indoor space. 

[5:28] I want to preserve freedom. I want to protect free enterprise and maintain freedom of expression. All those things are crucial.

[6:27] If there is no freedom, we can’t live a life that we want to live, we can’t do what we want, we can’t say what we want, we can’t create what we want for ourselves. It’s super important that those of us that believe in freedom bond together and take a stand.

[9:14] The Great Patriot and Protest Boycott Book

The book was written to help those who believe in freedom to stand up and say, “Look, it’s all good that you have your views. But we have the right to have our views.”

[13:26] How do people genuinely stand up?

Look at some of those companies and see if you’re doing business with them. Find out a bit more about their stances. If they sense weakness, they’re going to come at you.

[19:48] What is the book about?

The book is written for every man and woman who believes in freedom, is a patriot, and wants the promise of America to be real for future generations. The book was written to tell the big corporations that we’re giving in to a “woke ideology” because they’re scared.

[21:49] People need to understand what’s happening out there. Take your dollars away from corporations and organizations that don’t share your values. And give your dollars to corporations and organizations that do. 

[22:05] The next book we’re going to write is The Great American Patriotic American Icons. These are the companies that we think you should be buying from. These are the companies that share your values. My company believes in freedom, free expression, free enterprise, freedom of choice. If you believe in those things, and you’re looking for the kinds of services we offer, then consider doing business with us.

[25:51] If you’re smart, you’re going to do business with people that share your values. And likewise, you’re going to not do business with people who don’t share your values.

 

Key Quotes:

[14:56-14:58] “If they sense weakness, they’re going to come at you.”

[19:27-19:34] “We need to give people the right to choose. When you don’t give people the right to choose, that’s a problem.”

Learn more about Nicky Billou on:

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Patriot-Protest-Boycott-Book/dp/1952106990/ref=sr_1_2?refinements=p_27%3ANicky+Billou&s=books&sr=1-2 

https://www.amazon.com/Power-Connecting-Activate-Profitable-Relationships/dp/B099TJ56B8 

Website: https://ecircleacademy.com/ 

Podcast: https://podbay.fm/p/sovereign-man-podcast

In today’s episode, our guest is Oliver Wood.  He has over 200 active clients as a wellness coach for career-driven individuals. He helps people, not only for themselves but also for their families, by creating their worlds and experiences. He focuses on long-term skill sets rather than quick cures to achieve smarter health. Today, we'll peel back the layers and expose what he does so you can get a better understanding of how it works and how it might help you.

[2:08] Why should we listen to you?

One thing I make sure of before diving into a particular issue is that there is buy-in. I’m the buyer, not the seller. If there’s an awareness I’m going to help you, there needs to be a buying into why you’re going to listen. Because I think all of us, including myself, use it in the gym industry. I’m not going to tell you about the modifications that must be made until there is an agreement. 

[3:41] When did fitness become pivotal to helping people get in shape?

I was working with higher-level customers to the point where I discovered I invested a lot in movement awareness and advancement. I became excellent at maximizing the workout and progression of where that was heading. However, I was conscious that it didn’t matter because the person walking through the door were stressed out and inflamed that they wouldn’t ever recover. They wouldn’t be able to bounce back from the training we were doing. 

[6:15] How is this a skill set brought in and duplicate results for people with certainty it’ll work?

I believe the initial phase of that is a re-evaluation of what is essential, correct? We’re all attempting to fix 30 things at once and doing nothing. I believe it is a matter of locating those linchpins to generate a concept. 

[6:42] When we’re talking about how your body works, it’s not just about what food you eat but also about what you absorb. Taking the time to become more conscious of your gut health is something we jump right into. However, becoming mindful of how that relates to your sleep energy will be a more immediate victory.

[06:57] Our involvement must be limited if we are to consider long-term sustainability. That will be an emphasis. It’s about figuring out what health anchors are coming through for the individual. They learn about the liver, thyroid hormones, and other things that aren’t on our side. Forget about another supplement or biotech fix. What do we do to find the root cause of this issue and rebuild your body so that you are conscious that it is not always a problem? It’s a fine line between science and art. 

[8:34] Do you find that people go from not identifying as a fitness person to identifying as a fitness person, and it becomes easy to keep in shape?

It needs to be something you relate with or not. You’ll stay and find a method to reaffirm that this is a new lifestyle; this is how I feel dependent on how I show up. No chore. The discomfort is a good time to reflect on my new identity and how I want to present myself because I know that what I eat now will affect how I feel in two hours, and I’m more active in the serotonin release of long-term happiness. The identity transformation is powerful because your body will reinforce it, and we’ll always find a way. 

[10:33] Do you guys utilize any wearable metrics? Do you find data useful? 

The point and reason why we’re trying to engage our guys is to bring that awareness right alongside them in a project that is now high-level software. Take the time to bring in the tools you already know. Your body is already sending you all these signals about how you should feel. And if we lean into that, there is a great deal going on. 

[11:25] With attention as our most valuable resource and the one that’s being tugged in a hundred other directions, I believe it’s the one we need to lean into first. Therefore, before we add new distractions, we should eliminate those that are no longer useful. However, we dive into the vast fandom of wearables with our higher-level clientele. We tend to forget there are a couple of things that many individuals overlook when laying that foundation. Following that, ensure that it makes sense. 

[13:37] Tell me more about how people are failing to set aside time for themselves?

We can carve out time for the things that matter to us. And sometimes that is not our choice. Thus, I believe that the critical point is to be deliberate about where that comes in. And, as mentioned, while we cannot grant you a 25th hour of the day, we can better use the hours you are awake and asleep. Taking the time to create that initial backup is simply a matter of preference. 

[14:49] Being able to reconstruct that area does not require you to train there. You must meditate independently, but you must also do something to anchor yourself and establish the focus and headspace necessary to perform that day. 

[15:44] What are some viable, concrete steps that folks who are not already working with you can take to learn how they can work with you?

It’s going to come down to the individual and the nature of the behavior. Let’s take one of the activities that we know will be beneficial. It might be yoga, walking, going to the gym, writing, meditation, or simply reintroducing breakfast with a reasonable amount of protein. 

[16:47] Taking that time in the first hour of the day to anchor in just one item for you, I believe, should be the beginning point. Suppose you’re interested in merely inwardly turning and learning more about the resources your body currently possesses. Take 60 breaths before each meal. Take the time to recognize your state before eating. You will not only know how you are feeling, which is significant, but you will also increase your body’s ability to absorb the food properly. You are not what you eat; you are what you absorb along the process. 

[18:24] How do you work one-on-one with 200 people?

I’ve allowed myself to set aside my ego and accept that I am not the best in all of those areas. As a result, I’ve got some fantastic people on my side. Considering the growth of a personal trainer, I believe we all begin by acknowledging that a unique personality is a significant component of being a PT. And then, as we progress through that process, we start to recognize that there is a pattern emerging, a sequence, and then there is the possibility that the message may differ from what is received.

[21:33] Once you’ve restored your financial situation, that becomes such a small part of it; it’s almost as if that’s what we accomplished. As so, it represents a little piece of the pie. And there’s a significant benefit in terms of, I believe, simplifying what to focus on. Where we’re up against government laws regarding what constitutes good food, we’ve got every coach telling us what diet to follow. And we have this black and white, as well as a culture, of what we should be doing. 

[23:27] Do you construct your own workouts that you listen to?

My primary concern is recognizing the sheer number of variables at play; this is not a case of gradual overload. And at some point, that’s not going to be the best course of action for me. Thus, I believe it provides you with the tools necessary to negotiate the adjustments being made. I think there is a specific evolution that occurs.

[24:09] I’ve established certain specialty phases or progressions. Additionally, I have that structure in place. At this stage, it’s pretty intuitive. I’ve spent four or five years bodybuilding, and my objective has shifted from simply acquiring as much muscle as possible. It’s ensuring that I present myself in the best light possible. It’s a lot more variable in how I feel about the performance and what I want to accomplish that day.

[24:50] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

The ability to look into someone’s world, see their stories and help them move forward.

Key Quotes

[13:42 – 13:45] “I think a big thing there is trying to be intentional with where that comes in.”

[20:45-20:48] “Once you’re in the flow, once you have you know what to focus on, it becomes so much more simple.”

 

In today’s episode, our guest is Aryeh Sheinbein, Managing Director with Alvarez & Marsal’s Valuation Services practice and a member of the Alternative Investment Services group. Aryen has over 20 years of expertise in the financial services industry, having held senior roles in private equity and hedge funds, as well as valuation consulting firms. He advises private equity businesses, hedge funds, and business development firms on valuation (BDCs). His knowledge includes appraising private equity fund portfolios of illiquid stock holdings as well as the underlying equity valuations of portfolio firms. And today, he'll reveal business concepts you didn't know you were aware of.

[3:03] Why should we listen to you?

I would probably not start talking about myself. I’d probably try and get to know you and talk about you. So I don’t think there would be anything to tout myself as to why you should listen to me. But I have four kids and have been married for over 20 years, so I guess I have some experience in that realm. In terms of business, I have been doing finance stuff for 20 some odd years. Other than that, I’m more of a listener rather than a talker. I prefer to listen and to talk.

[5:57] Integrity in Work

I don't think I'm alone in thinking that there are people who aren't completely honest, but I believe that for the most part, people are honest. However, when I'm dealing with clients, whether selling or advising them on the value of a business or an investment, I know that they are aware that I may not always tell them what they want to hear.

[8:55] Daily Work

I describe it as simply as possible because I get hired by private equity firms, hedge funds, and all kinds of asset managers. They want me to help them value businesses or investments that they’re making that aren’t necessarily like public information. And then we’re going to work with them to help those businesses or those investments be worth more.

[10:45] Valuation of Business or Work

I think there are a few things that you said that are important. And then you can kind of break down and get into the weeds on some of these things. The most important thing is that history isn’t irrelevant, but it’s not what they’re buying. Cash flows are critically important. 

[11:59]

Can I pull a person out? or drop a person in? These things make your business much more valuable. The CEO’s job is to be that visionary, but not to be the day-in and day-out of the business. If you have a physical product business, you can email these people, mail them or call them or get in touch with them.

[12:58]

You may reinvigorate them even if they haven't bought in the last two weeks, a month, or however long it has been. From a conceptual standpoint, you must detach yourself from the day-to-day operations and make them more valuable.

[15:30] Lion’s Den Podcast

I didn’t realize how entrepreneurially driven I was until I got this job. I think many people get into a business or want to get into business. And there’s something that they don’t know about it. And there are many things you didn’t even know that you shouldn’t have. So the idea is that when you have someone who’s gone through something, you will be able to extract that information from them and educate people and bring it to people.

[19:47] What’s the hope for the world with the podcast?

When I started, it was one thing, and now it’s pivoted and shifted to another. And that is as people get access to other people’s stories, it’s a connection matter. It builds that trust for people to say this guy has some value to bring to me. I want to understand least like what to do with my money or understand it. I know that I can potentially talk to this guy and feel reasonably trustworthy from it.

[22:33] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

That I will leave it a better place than I came into it.

 

Key Quotes

[4:15-4:22] “A lot of times, people are nervous about making that connection because of the stereotypical and the negative bias that comes with it.”

[9:38-9:43] “When they’re investing, they’re looking for a financial return because they’re going to they’re going to exit it at some point.”

 

Learn more about Aryeh Sheinbein on:

Website: https://linktr.ee/aryehthebu 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/aryehsheinbein 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aryehthebusinessman

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aryehsheinbein 

Podcast: https://insidethelionsdenpodcast.com/

In today’s episode, our guest is Mark England, a certified language geek. He holds a master’s degree in education and has been researching, presenting, and coaching in the power of words and stories for more than 14 years. 

[3:17] Why should we listen to you?

A one-trick pony. One of my business partners joked about that once upon a time. And I took it as a compliment. That’s how our language works for us and how it works against us. I’ve been researching, presenting, and coaching on this one topic for somewhere from full time to overtime the whole time for the past 14 years, and it’s been one of the most enlightening and beneficial studies and practices for myself both personally, professionally that I’ve ever gotten into.

[4:25] When I talk about language, I’m talking about our internal and external dialogue - what we think, what we say and what we write. Most people’s education about language comes down to spelling, grammar, and definitions. Very few people have had any training on how to use their language to stay focused on the things that are important to them.

[6:12] We educate people on how to get their language work for them—another way of saying that is how to use ordinary everyday words to dismantle the victim mentality. 

[6:52] Breathing in mentality into the victim mentality

The victim mentality is an acquired personality trait where a person tends to regard themselves as the victim of the negative actions of others even in the absence of clear evidence. The victim mentality depends on a habitual thought process and attributions. If there’s a habitual thought process, in context to me is staring at worst-case scenarios over and overplaying the blame game, creating a ton of anxiety and indecision in my life. And that’s what we did. What are the patterns to it? We mapped them out.

[8:41] How can we convince that person that they’re wrong, but they should spend some time thinking about how they’re thinking?

The Bhagavad Gita says that “self-reflection will take a man further than prayer.” I always thought that was interesting. Do it by giving people straightforward experiences about how one word can make a huge difference in how they see things themselves, their imagination, and how they feel. One specific exercise is to repeat the sentence for me, “how can I ever get over this?”

[24:39] Certification

We have three levels of certification. Level One is where we go into the art and science of systematically and methodically deconstructing people’s victim mentalities using ordinary everyday language.  Most people don’t write anything down. It is beneficial to get our thoughts and words written down on paper, including the stories that have haunted us. Once we begin that process, we analyze the words and how we’re telling the story. For all of you coaches out there, it is important that our breath is trapped in our chest. Good luck changing your client’s minds when their breath is trapped in their chest. Get them breathing better.

Key Quotes

[8:56-9:02] “The Bhagavad Gita says that self-reflection will take a man further than prayer.”

[25:06-25:12] “It is so beneficial to get our thoughts and words written down on paper, including the stories that have haunted us.”

Learn more about Mark England on:

Website: https://www.enlifted.me/

In today's episode, our guest is Christopher Dedeyan. He is a professional speaker and peak performance expert who helps entrepreneurs, leaders, and employees manage stress, increase productivity, and have more energy. He developed his entrepreneurial and communication skills during the five years he built and ran his real estate brokerage company. During that time, Christopher noticed that he could help his colleagues with self-development by incorporating new rituals and habits that help them in their business and personal lives. And today, he will share with us about finding our life's purpose and overcoming our fears.

 

 [1:58] Why should I listen to you?

 

You would only listen, or you should only listen if you feel something within your gut that you should listen. And that's energy. It's not about what he's wearing or how he's acting. It's about how he's showing up energetically.

 

[2:30] The only reason you should listen to somebody is if it feels good, and there's this gut feeling. That's the way I would speak to it. That's what I've done for all of my life business decisions and my personal life. It's always brought me the right way because your subconscious mind, gut, inner voice, and heart already know where you should go.

 

[3:40] Diagnosed with Dyslexia

 

I'm a learning disability advocate because at eight years old, I was diagnosed with dyslexia. My parents noticed that I had some difficulty trying to read when I was young, and they used to compare me a lot to my sister, who is two years older. I was putting in the effort, but reading is just not happening. Then after a couple of years of testing with a specialist, they found that I'm eight years old dyslexic.

 

[4:36] At eight years old, all I understand is that I'm losing my friends and I'm going into this different school. The first thing I realized was that I wasn't alone. There are hundreds of kids like me that have learning disabilities. Not only that, I now have access to professionals and teachers that are speech therapists who are teaching specific methodologies techniques on how to go about it. So I started becoming more comfortable about what dyslexia is, and I started to understand how to learn and navigate those waters.

 

[5:15] Becoming an Entrepreneur  

 

The first thing that pops into my mind is that I want to be a lawyer. As I was looking into what it takes to be a lawyer, I learned that 95% of my job is reading and writing. So I realized that that's not an avenue that I want to go down. Then I started researching careers that don't have a lot of reading and writing. What I found was a fireman. I made it through the fireman school. And as I was going through the process, I realized that that wasn't my life's purpose. Something was calling me towards something else. And that was entrepreneurship.

[6:33] Subconsciously, I was developing delegation and negotiation at a young age. So as I started going into that, I realized that I needed to be a broker. I wanted to go into brokerage as a realtor and begin developing that aspect. Now I'm going to bring this all together very soon and work my career as an entrepreneur. It took a little while to succeed back for a year and a half as a broker.

 

[7:14] Becoming a Speaker

 

I was succeeding very well as an entrepreneur. One of my speech therapists from high school called me up to ask me about real estate. Afterward, she told me that she was the keynote speaker at a specific event that the Learning Institute of Quebec put together. She wanted me to come and talk about my journey as a dyslexic entrepreneur.

[8:14] She sent me an email saying that I shouldn't do the speech. Many people still have a harmful misconception about dyslexia, and it might cause me to lose some clients. I knew she was coming from a place of love and protection. But at that point, I wrote her an email saying that I would call her on Monday to talk about the speech because I believed that the speech must continue. If I'm not out there giving this speech, I'm not helping the kids on school benches right now. I'm not helping the next generation. I'm not helping my future kids.

 

[9:04] Christopher's Life Purpose

 

I started getting ready for this speech, and I walked into the room. On the day of the event, I opened the door, and there weren't 200 people. It's more like 1000 people. At this point, I am dripping in sweat, and my heart is pounding. I'm like, "What did I just get myself into?" Now I'm sitting down with speaker after speaker going into the stage.

 

[9:41] It was like magic for me. Like my whole life was preparing me for this moment that I didn't even know. And that's the moment when I stepped on stage for the first time. And I got such a fantastic response from the crowd that I realized this was my life's purpose: to be on stage, help others, and teach people. So that was the arc that I got into this personal development world. From that moment, every decision I made was about being the best speaker and coach who serves others.

 

[10:42] Limiting Beliefs

 

A lot of performance is very similar. So it doesn't matter where you are within your process. We're going to be working on the fundamentals. And those fundamentals are from waking up early, how we are showing up, and the state and story that we're telling ourselves and structuring that.

 

[10:59] One thing that I've realized in working with top-end CEOs from fortune 500 and outstanding entrepreneurs is that they all have the same level of limiting beliefs rooted 

down to certain anxieties, and they think they're alone at having that.

[12:38] Fear vs. Danger

 

People confuse fear and danger, but it's two different things. Fear is getting you out of your comfort zone. It is making you grow and expand, while danger is going to get you hurt. Every time I've made a move within my business that I'm hiring is was out of fear. Though it might be risky, it's helping me grow. Fear is making growth, while danger is what can hurt you.

 

[15:08] The Four Pillars

 

I break it down by looking at everything that we work on towards this my speaking, my group coaching for C suite employees, or my one-on-one coaching or one. And there are four pillars that I look at.

 

[15:22] First thing we're going to do is look at your limiting beliefs. I don't care who you are on this planet. Everybody has limiting beliefs. And these limiting beliefs have been given to you when you were born. Some of these limiting beliefs have been created by you. So we will look at which ones are empowering you and which ones are disempowering. You destroy the ones that are disempowering, and you use the ones that are empowering.

 

[15:44] Second, we're going to put a specific blueprint for your success because, like Benjamin Franklin says, "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail," so we need that structure that we need to go. You need to know where you're going. If the GPS is not set, you're going to be turning around in circles.

 

[16:01] Third, we're going to create a massive impact. And income will follow after the impact and value that you bring to your game. So it's enormous value and impact, making the income that will come into play.

 

[16:08] Finally, we're going to put your systems and processes in place. If you want to be highly successful, the only reason it will get there is that you have good systems and processes in place. If you look at somebody fit, they have good systems in place.

 

[17:31] What Promise did God make to the World when He created you?

 

I'm presenting you with the agent of change. I'm just a vehicle of the universe that's here to serve. And I am one of the universe's vehicles. And this is the way I serve such as everybody else. My job is to make people live in their greatness. If everybody lives in their greatness as a society, we'll go forward with more joy, love, happiness, respect, and empathy. So God created me to be an agent of change for the people around me.

 

Key Quotes

 

[11:58: - 12:02] "You can't try and identify with the end destination. You have to identify with doing the work to get there."

[13:54 – 13:58] "Fear only helps you, and danger is something you should essentially avoid."

[17:03 – 17:12] "Many people think about making money. But it's actually about what value you're bringing to the world, what impact you're creating. The more you do that, the more abundance will follow your way."

 

Learn more about Christopher Dedeyan on:

Website: http://www.christopherdedeyan.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopherdedeyan

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChristopherDedeyan/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherdedeyan/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/chrisdedeyan

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChYsxip-UNPFydaDReRjsVQ