B4U Swipe

In Season 2, Episode 10, Kris and Lauren discuss two men with their stereotypical, heteronormative gender role flags flying high.

Kris’ profile highlights include: an arrogant, defensive dude who wants you to “be aware of your thinking before you speak” and offer him “soulful telepathy;” Venice (maybe?), a devil goat mask, fancy cars, and not a smile in sight. We get into a conversation about conservatism in Toronto and obnoxious indoctrination. Overall we imagine this person being domineering and not in a fun way.

Lauren’s profile highlights include: a well-rounded profile narrative that gets deflated by overt sexism, photo overkill, and icky vibes. Neither of us can let go of dating memes filled with attractive young white people and comic sans font from sources like “Success Foundation” and “Business Mindset 101.” Overall, we felt compelled to say, “We get it: you wear suits, you have a boat, you have a bike, you like to be around attractive women, and you live in Chicago. You also seem to think women should stick by you but you owe them nothing. Screw you and your sexist business dating memes.”

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In Season 2, Episode 9, Kris and Lauren discuss a woman who brags about dating royalty (whatever) and a dude who can’t show his face.

Kris’ profile highlights include: Fabulous curly hair, beautiful scenery, alcohol-focused activities, trust issues, and the benefits of framing things in the positive. Lauren also expresses their opinion about royalty. Overall, we both found this woman physically attractive yet her negative energy turned us off.

Lauren’s profile highlights include: A faceless profile, discreet encounters, a well-written description, and when Lauren would swipe right without seeing a face. While we support ethical non-monogamy, we were skeptical of the sincerity of their profile. Still, we give benefit of the doubt. And we encourage everyone to be their fabulous selves.

Pop over to our website to learn more about what to do if you can’t post pictures of yourself in this week’s The More You Know https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home  

In Season 2, Episode 8, Kris and Lauren discuss Kris landing in Canada officially, the merits of poutine, and Glory Holes. Oh and there were profiles, too: a well-put together man who loves submissives and the funniest profile we’ve ever read. 

Lauren’s profile highlights include: phone dicking around, soap bar emojis, funky wallpaper, beer university, successful subtle displays of money, and questioning strategies around BDSM signaling. Overall, we liked this gorgeous human, and our sub selves regret not swiping right and getting into some consent conversations. 

We also reference the HUD application which we discussed in Season 2, Episode 1.

Kris’ profile highlights include: stockyards boxing university educated sexy man beast in a ratty santa hat with the most absurd profile narrative we’ve ever encountered. This human would do so much more than just walk 500 miles to be with you (pepper spray? fighting a polar bear? expired milk?), but he won’t make his bed or put the dustbuster away. Also, attention to our emotional availability when swiping. Overall, we were impressed with his writing and unimpressed by his dirty ass pad. 

Pop over to our website to learn more about connecting to the BDSM community in this week’s The More You Know https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home

In Season 2, Episode 7, Kris and Lauren have an in-person story time on what comes up when you see someone you know on an app. Neighbors, friends you thought were married, people you have an intense connection with and aren’t sure what you want, students popping up, people you work with… oh my!

Lauren’s story time highlights include: A story about responding to their neighbor crush and swiping into the void, and a story about an undecided connection leading them to avoid swiping all together.

Kris’ story time highlights include: Learning major social circle news through a dating app and being miffed when a former dating partner swiped left.

Pop over to our website to learn more about respectful communication with people you know in the physical world in this week’s The More You Know https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home

In Season 2 Episode 6, Kris and Lauren discuss a poor human who really doesn’t look like he wants to be online dating and a dude that we wish had more hesitancy.

Lauren’s profile highlights include: The challenges of smiling, a dull-colored wardrobe, an equally dull picture of an alley, potential self-deprecation, and choosing comedy as a passion. Overall we feel badly for how uncomfortable this person seems; we’re wincing just thinking about it.

Kris’ profile highlights include: Giant cakes on boats, classism, how to take respectful travel photos, being mindful of how your text pairs with your photos, reflecting on the brilliance of boasting about drunken hookups, and what our early 20-something profiles would have looked like. Overall, this profile left us speechless as to how wrong it is.

Pop over to our website to learn more about what to do if you hate having your picture taken in this week’s The More You Know https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home 

In Season 2 Episode 5, episode, Kris and Lauren discuss some profiles shared by our listeners (aka our friends). Fascinatingly, these are the best and worst profiles we’ve reviewed so far.

Lauren’s profile highlights include: College crushes, Kris’s knowledge of booze and glassware, naked body shot culture, and gender norms and ethical non-monogamy. Overall, our most successful profile to date.

Kris’ profile highlights include: So. Much. Drama. Leading Kris to say “Even a porno and has dialogue” and Lauren to say “Like a fawn in the field…” Overall, this profile left us astonished. You gotta listen to believe.

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In Season 2 Episode 4, Kris and Lauren discuss interest from people 20 years+ our juniors. It gets weird.

Lauren’s profile highlights include: Teens!, pickup lines, snappy dressing, and sending affirmations. We respect the honesty in this profile, and it allows us to make an educated decision about not matching with him. We end on a commentary on power dynamics and how young men can also be survivors of abusive relationships. 

Kris’ profile highlights include: Out-dated sunglasses, happy endings, online dating app algorithms, and a brief peek into what we were like in our 20s. We stray away from the profile sent and talk about the realities of dating someone half our age. For sunglass reference photo, check out these https://shopatshowcaseusa.com/products/tacglasses-blue-blocker

Pop over to our website to learn more about difficult conversations about power in this week’s The More You Know https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home 

In Season 2 Episode 3, Kris and Lauren discuss a man who likes to bend over in a greenhouse and a woman who for some reason chose to take a selfie while sitting on the can.

Kris’ profile highlights include: Keg-looking things, bicep appreciation, a stunning woman stealing his thunder, and considering your “above the fold” content. And hay. This profile left us pondering credit scores and what they communicate -- intentionally or not.

Lauren’s profile highlights include: A TLC shoutout, a playful, pressure free profile narrative, cleavage shots, the challenges of fishnets, and phone hygiene tips. Overall, this profile reminded us how important it is for your profile pics to match your intentions/questioning this person’s happiness.

Pop over to our website to learn more about money talk on dating apps in this week’s The More You Know https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home Pro-Tip: Read these show notes while listening to Creep by TLC (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LlZydtG3xqI).

In Season 2 Episode 2, Kris and Lauren discuss a woman in a time capsule and a dude that teases us with over-promised shirtlessness.

Kris’ profile highlights include: Big hair, a soft focus, and a feeling of inauthenticity. Overall, the profile left us confused about what decade the single photo was taken in.

Lauren’s profile highlights include: the importance of height, bare shoulders, two elephant trunks, and why people choose to post pictures of themselves with exotic animals. Overall, the profile made us hope that the guy wasn’t as insensitive to animals as he might be.

Pop over to our website to learn more about the relationship between FRIES and Consent and how they can be helpful in this week’s The More You Know https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home 

Welcome back! In Season 2, Episode 1 of B4 U Swipe, Kris and Lauren discuss Lauren’s experience of trying a new app that seems SO PROMISING in the beginning and then goes downhill from there.

In this episode, we discuss gender identity, survey consistency, and how much detail to share about sexual desires and pleasures in a publicly accessible dating profile.

Inspired by the "what's in your bedroom" component of HUD, we wonder, what’s on your yes, no, maybe list? Pop over to our website to learn more about sexual inventory lists and how they can be helpful in this week’s The More You Know https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home .