B4U Swipe

Kris and Lauren discuss a world traveling burner and bad carpet that pretty much matches the drapes. 

Kris’ profile highlights include: Introverts, soul patches, living bear skin rugs, sexting, and the merits of headless torso shots. Overall, the profile delivers, even if we don’t love all choices.

Lauren’s profile highlights include: Baby shit brown carpet, mismatched “passions” and images, theorizing why some people create profiles not designed for matching, and the story of WizardCat (oh, WizardCat - if you see this, find meeee!). This profile left us laughing and wondering, why?

The More you Know Topic: Safe(r), Consensual Sexting

Sexting, or sending sexually explicit images, videos, or messages, can be a great tool for foreplay, full play, or just a way to kill time. Like all forms of sexual expression, it isn’t for everyone and that’s okay!

Check out some sexting guidelines to live by at the website https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home

This a 2-minute love note, acknowledgment of our fallibility, and commitment to our community. While our intentions are to promote laughter and sex positive reflection on online dating, we acknowledge we aren’t perfect (duh) and are recording spontaneous reactions. If we miss something, say something that is hurtful, or otherwise could do better, please let us know. In the interim, know you are valid, you are beautiful, and you matter. Take what makes you laugh and think, and feel free to shout “f* them” when we get it wrong.

Check out this 8-minute introductory bonus clip to get to know a little more about us (a couple of degree-wielding, social-justice-advocating, sex-positive humans) and the purpose of the podcast (entertainment and a little adult sex ed)!

Highlights include sex robots, aol chat rooms, and orgasms over loud speakers.

Not sure what sex positive means? Check out this blog post from Pervocacy (https://pervocracy.blogspot.com/2013/05/what-i-mean-when-i-say-im-sex-positive.html) sharing their take, and this post from Everyday Feminism on what it is not https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/08/10-things-sex-positivity-is-not/

Dr. Lauren encourages you to check out the episode notes to get some more tips and traps in content we call “The More You Know.” Jump over to our website [https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home] for more

Hear some first episode jitters as we review profiles without photos. Kris and Lauren discuss a questionably positive gentleman and a queer woman who really wants to get to know you. Both profiles also want you to know, they work out. 

Kris’ profile highlights include:  Egregious capitalization (and a wish for secret decoder messages), a fixation on “good manners” (and why only dudes seem to comment on this), lurking subtext, weird repetition and considering how you elaborate, and Portland’s love of the outdoors. Overall, Kris and Lauren were pretty unimpressed.

Lauren’s profile highlights include: Queerness, labels, and choices with acronyms; judgmental working out; healing journeys and setting boundaries. Also, emojis as profile summary and/ or generational difference (plus a Lucky Lager story!). This profile left us feeling like this person may aggressively judge us, cross boundaries, and wouldn’t be great at affirming their playmate, but we liked that they created a clear 3-part essay and job ad. And, always, Black Lives f*cking Matter. 

The More you Know Topic: Heteronormativity and labels in the queer community. 

In this episode you hear us briefly discuss queer, bisexual, pansexual, demisexual, and sapiosexual orientations. Some people might wonder, why so many labels? That’s because sexuality is diverse! There’s not just one way to be queer* (or straight!), labels may help us find similar people, and help us advocate for our rights. However, labels aren’t universal or singular.

To learn more about labels, how to respond, and why they matter [one reason: heteronormativity], bop over to our website for the complete episode notes https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home