If you’re navigating pregnancy, postpartum, or return-to-work stress, you are not alone. In this BackTable Urology × SWIU collaboration, Dr. Danielle Velez (Rutgers Health) joins host Dr. Helen Bernie (Indiana University Health) for a candid conversation on navigating parental leave, lactation, and the emotional turbulence of stepping back into clinical practice. Together, they unpack boundary-setting, finding a support system, protecting partnership time, and giving yourself grace through each stage of early parenthood.
The discussion highlights the power of mentorship, community, and transparency, especially for physicians balancing patient care and family life. From combo-feeding and night nannies to sleep deprivation, identity shifts, and the six-month reevaluation rule, both guests share wisdom they hope future trainees and new parents won't have to learn alone. This episode is a reminder that things get easier with time, that asking for help is strength, not weakness, and that paying it forward makes the path smoother for the next generation.
00:00 - Introduction
03:07 - Support Systems, Mentorship and Maternity Leave
09:03 - Navigating Lactation and Pumping
19:21 - Lactation Resources
25:58 - Finding Your Village and Outsourcing Tasks
34:31 - Balancing Parenthood and Career
42:26 - Sleep Deprivation and Protecting Your Schedule
55:14 - Maintaining Spousal Relationships
59:20 - Rebuilding Your Practice Post-Maternity Leave
01:03:56 - Final Thoughts and Advice for New Parents