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Do you sometimes feel like you’re carrying a heavy load and no one really knows how hard it is?

In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, I dive into the widespread struggle men face when they place all their energy into their relationships, children, and businesses—without nurturing their own purpose. As a single father and entrepreneur, I get it, I too lost myself in my responsibilities and and had to shift my focus inward to unlock a new level of fulfillment and freedom.

Tune in to discover:

• Why making your family and business the focal point can lead to burnout and unfulfillment.
• How to identify where your true purpose lies.
• Actionable steps to realign your life around your mission while still serving those you care about.

Whether you're a father, entrepreneur, or simply someone searching for more, this episode is packed with insights to help you reclaim your power and live authentically.

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If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

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If you are a man in pain, struggling, feeling broken and need someone to talk with, please do not hesitate to dial 988. An anonymous call to talk it out with someone. 

In this episode of the Be The Torch Podcast, we dive into the often overlooked struggles of high-performing men. Whether you're a man living this experience, or someone who loves and supports a man, this conversation sheds light on the silent battles men face. From external success to internal turmoil, we'll uncover why men feel broken, disconnected, and lost despite appearing to "win" on the scoreboard of life. Learn how to recognize these signs and what we can do to support the men we care about.

Episode Highlights:

• [02:10] Why men are struggling in silence
• [06:30] The signs of a broken man: physical, emotional, and spiritual exhaustion
• [12:15] The athlete mentality: why vulnerability feels like weakness
• [16:45] External success vs. internal fulfillment: why men feel like they're losing
• [22:00] Lack of purpose and direction: the spark vs. the torch
• [29:40] Avoiding shame and guilt: how men suppress their feelings
• [35:55] Low-frequency activities: alcohol, drugs, and distractions
• [42:30] Identity crisis: how men lose themselves in work, sports, and fatherhood
• [48:10] How to support the men in your life without judgment

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If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

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Ever feel like you don't have enough time to be a parent AND a business owner? Would you believe that if your focus is primarily on your business and your children, you are cheating everyone, including yourself, out of a life worth living.

In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, Cletus Coffey dives deep into what you should REALLY be focused on so that you can live the life you truly desire and lead others in your life and business. If you’re an entrepreneurial dad striving for more freedom, flexibility, and fulfillment in all areas of your life, this episode is a must-listen. Cletus shares personal insights, practical strategies, and the three core elements you need to focus on to transform your business and life.

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Join the community and movement that is changing the life and business of likeminded men, just like you, who are single dads, business owners, and who desire to have success in all areas of life.

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If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

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Do you have an Olympic Hangover like I do?

In this Olympic edition of the Be The Torch podcast, I dive into the lessons from the track and field events, particularly the men's 100-meter dash. If you’re feeling the Olympic hangover and missing the excitement, this episode will give you a fresh perspective on how the principles of sprinting apply directly to your journey as a man, father, and entrepreneur.

I share insights as a former collegiate decathlete and masters world champion, breaking down the four key phases of the 100-meter dash and how they mirror the stages of life. Whether you're just starting, accelerating, at top speed, or facing deceleration, this episode will guide you on how to apply these principles to succeed in your own race of life.

Episode Markers:

• [00:00] - Introduction and Olympic Hangover
• [03:15] - The 100-Meter Dash: A Life Metaphor
• [07:30] - Phase 1: The Start – Understanding Your Beginnings
• [12:45] - Phase 2: Acceleration – Finding Your Drive
• [18:20] - Phase 3: Top Speed – Hitting Your Stride
• [23:10] - Phase 4: Deceleration – Slowing Down Gracefully
• [28:50] - No Comparison: Running Your Own Race
• [34:00] - Real-Life Application: How to Stay on Track
• [39:30] - Call to Action: Join the Be The Torch Academy Waitlist

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Join the community and movement that is changing the life and business of likeminded men, just like you, who are single dads, business owners, and who desire to have success in all areas of life.

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If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

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Welcome to the Be The Torch podcast with your host, Cletus Coffey. In this episode, we dive deep into the journey of self-mastery for men, focusing on the power, purpose, passion, and play that lead to true freedom and fulfillment.

If you're a single father and an entrepreneur, seeking growth in all areas of life, this episode is for you.

We'll explore the importance of healing, building meaningful relationships, and taking ownership of your life to attract and maintain a healthy, fulfilling partnership.

Cletus shares his personal story of transformation, offering insights and steps to help you navigate your own journey.

📍 Episode Highlights:

• 00:00 - Introduction: Why Self-Mastery is Essential for Men
• 04:15 - Building a Lifestyle First: Prioritizing What Matters
• 08:45 - The Impact of Unhealed Trauma on Relationships
• 13:20 - The Truth About Yourself: How to Face and Own It
• 20:10 - Importance of Vulnerability: A Game-Changer for Men
• 25:30 - Steps to Attract a Healed Partner into Your Life
• 33:45 - The Power of Healing Together in a Relationship
• 38:00 - Final Thoughts: Creating a Thriving Relationship
• 41:30 - Join Be The Torch Academy: Unlock Your Full Potential

Be The Torch Academy is HERE!

Join the community and movement that is changing the life and business of likeminded men, just like you, who are single dads, business owners, and who desire to have success in all areas of life.

Registration opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

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In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, we dive deep into the art of communication—an essential skill for any entrepreneur, father, or leader. Join us as we explore the three core steps that can transform your business, relationships, and personal life. Learn how to communicate authentically, correct effectively, and shift behavior for better outcomes in every area of your life.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction: Why communication is vital for entrepreneurs and fathers.
• [02:15] The overlooked importance of investing in communication skills.
• [04:50] Personal story: How poor communication impacted my business and relationships.
• [07:30] The three core steps to mastering communication.
• [08:10] Step 1: Communicating authentically and vulnerably.
• [12:45] The impact of ego on authentic communication.
• [15:00] How authenticity invites openness in others.
• [18:20] Step 2: Being specific in communication and correction.
• [20:30] The dangers of vague praise like "good job."
• [22:50] How specific feedback improves behavior and results.
• [26:15] The impact of specific correction on leadership and parenting.
• [30:40] Step 3: The 5-to-1 ratio for improving behavior and performance.
• [34:10] Why saying "I'm proud of you" can be problematic.
• [37:00] How to praise without making it conditional.
• [40:20] Conclusion: Recap of the three steps and final thoughts.

Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it! Let's grow together and become better communicators in every aspect of our lives.

Be The Torch Academy is HERE!

Join the community and movement that is changing the life and business of likeminded men, just like you, who are single dads, business owners, and who desire to have success in all areas of life.

Registration opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

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In this important episode, we address a segment of men who do not have much support, resources or community to help them grow and evolve. Single Fathers who own and run businesses.

We explore the unique challenges single fathers face and outline a roadmap to transform their lives.

This episode serves as a bridge, connecting practical strategies with the ultimate goal of achieving a fulfilling life. Join us as we dive deep into why single fathers need specialized support and how they can ignite their inner fire to become the torch in their own lives.

What are your biggest takeaways from this week’s episode? We want to hear from you! Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag @cletuscoffey

In this episode you'll gain clarity on:

• The Struggles of Single Fathers: Identifying the Gap
• Why Focus on Single Fathers?
• The Importance of a Playbook and Community
• Core Elements for Personal Growth
• Statistics on Mental Health and Stress in Single Fathers
• Three Core Strategies for Immediate Impact
• The Power of Self-Mastery
• Being a Torch: Attracting Like-Minded Individuals
• Revolutionizing Fatherhood and Business
• Aligning Life and Business
• Creating a Lifestyle First, then a business that fits in it. 
• Building a Community and Accountability for men like you. 

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Join the community and movement that is changing the life and business of likeminded men, just like you, who are single dads, business owners, and who desire to have success in all areas of life.

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If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

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Struggling to balance entrepreneurship, fatherhood, and personal fulfillment? 
This episode is your game-changer.

Episode Highlights:

• Episode 5 of the "Power of Personal Culture" series, emphasizing the importance of presence in achieving life’s true fulfillment.
• Insight into Cletus’s personal struggles and how his experiences as a former professional athlete informed his approach to personal culture and presence.
• The critical shift from focusing on outcomes and achievements to being present and enjoying the process.
•  How the relentless pursuit of success and perfection, inherited from an athlete’s mindset, can lead to isolation and stress in personal and professional life.
• Scoreboard Addiction: Exploration of the concept where men tie their self-worth to external measures like money, success, and relationships, leading to constant anxiety.
• The Human and Being Dichotomy: The distinction between doing (human actions) and being (inner presence), and how prioritizing being can lead to true fulfillment.
• Resourcefulness and Source: Connecting with a higher source or inner resourcefulness to navigate life’s challenges and find support.
• Daily Practices: Cletus shares his routine of connecting with the present moment and a higher source to maintain balance and reduce stress.
• Future Feelings: The practice of envisioning future emotions and bringing them into the present to create a fulfilling and joyful life.
• Listening to Source: Emphasis on listening to inner guidance and future self to make aligned decisions and overcome past pains.

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Join the community and movement that is changing the life and business of likeminded men, just like you, who are single dads, business owners, and who desire to have success in all areas of life.

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If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

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Transform your business and life by learning the power of profits. It's time to value your worth!

Episode Highlights:

• Introduction to the fourth element of personal culture: Profits.
• Common pitfalls business owners face: not paying themselves and undervaluing their worth.
• Personal insights from Cletus Coffey on transitioning from professional athletics to business.
• The importance of shifting from a hustle mindset to a profit-focused strategy.
• Steps to understand your financial truth: assessing income, debts, and spending.
• Taking ownership and responsibility for your financial situation.
• Overcoming the challenges of operating from a place of desperation.
• Attracting the right partners and customers by elevating your frequency and mindset.
• Actionable steps to start paying yourself first and achieving financial freedom.

Actionable Takeaways:

1. Assess Your Financial Truth: Evaluate your income, debts, and expenses honestly.
2. Take Ownership: Accept responsibility for your financial situation without placing blame elsewhere.
3. Become the Person Capable of Financial Success: Shift your mindset and elevate your frequency to attract the right opportunities.

Call to Action:

• Visit BeTheTorch.com for more insights and to join our movement.

Be The Torch Academy is HERE!

Join the community and movement that is changing the life and business of likeminded men, just like you, who are single dads, business owners, and who desire to have success in all areas of life.

Registration opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

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Hey it's Cletus Coffey, bringing you the another episode on Personal Culture. In this episode, we're tackling #3 of the Power 5 of Personal Culture and its a crucial aspect: people. Here are the highlights:

• Leading Yourself to Lead Others: As high achievers and entrepreneurs, we often have a lot of people counting on us – whether it's in business, at home, or in our communities. But here's the kicker: if we're not leading ourselves effectively, we're failing those who rely on us.
• Authenticity is Key: Being a great boss, partner, or friend isn't just about ticking off boxes; it's about leading authentically. If we're not being true to ourselves, how can we expect others to support us authentically?
• Expand in All Areas: Focusing solely on business and money can leave other areas of our lives neglected, becoming an anchor rather than a source of growth. We need to expand in all areas simultaneously to truly thrive.
• Building Trust in Relationships: Authenticity and vulnerability aren't just workplace buzzwords – they're essential for building trust and fostering genuine connections with our teams and loved ones. When we show up authentically, we invite others to do the same.
• Take the Lead in Your Life: It all boils down to leadership – starting with ourselves. By leading ourselves effectively, we set the example for those around us and create a ripple effect of growth and fulfillment in all areas of life.

Ready to take your personal culture to the next level? Reach out to us at bethetorch.com to join our programs and be part of this transformative movement. Remember, life is about more than just achieving goals – it's about cultivating meaningful connections and thriving in all aspects of our lives. Let's light up the torch together!

Be The Torch Academy is HERE!

Join the community and movement that is changing the life and business of likeminded men, just like you, who are single dads, business owners, and who desire to have success in all areas of life.

Registration opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Learn to Master Your Morning so that you can master you day: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey